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2020.10.07 20:40 Trainwrecck LIST OF VARIOUS ITEMS 3(ALL INCLUDE REVIEWS)

What’s happenin! I’m back with another list for y’all and of course, they all include picture reviews. Unfortunately, da Gate has taken away many picture reviews for shoes, so this list won’t have as many shoes as the previous lists:(NOTE: I have NOT bought any of these items.
Gosha Longsleeve
OW T-Shirt
Travis Scott x Virgil Abloh T-Shirt
Box Logo?
LV Bag Shirt
LV T-Shirt
Fendi Sweater
Palm Angels Bear T-Shirt
The North Face
North Face Puffer Jacket
The North Face Statue of Liberty
The north face Jacket
TNF Jacket
TNF Vest
Commes Des Garcons T-Shirt
Commes Des Garcons Button-Up
Commes Des Garcons Polo
Commes des garcons T-Shirt
Designer Bodysuit/romper
Polo Ralph Lauren Knit Sweater
Polo Bear T-Shirt
Ralph Lauren Polo
Ralph Lauren Polo Zip-up
Polo Ralph Lauren Shirt
KAWS Longsleeve
Givenchy T-Shirt
Givenchy T-Shirt
Adidas Jacket
Adidas Jacket
Adidas Sweater
Kenzo Sweater
Basic Turtleneck
Burberry Sweater
Burberry Sweatshirt
I love Texas Vlone
Graffiti Vlone
Vlone T-Shirts
Vlone Friends Hoodie
Vlone Jail Jacket
$11 KITH T-Shirt
ASSC T-Shirt
ASSC T-Shirt
Dior x Daniel Arsham T-Shirt
Christian Dior Paris Longsleeve
Christian Dior T-Shirt
Christian Dior T-Shirt
CP Company Jacket
Moschino Hoodie
Moschino Sweatshirt
Gucci Polo
Gucci Common Sense Crewneck
Gucci T-Shirt
Canada Goose Sweater
Canada Goose Parka
Canada Goose Jacket
Canada Goose Parka
Stone Island Hoodie
Stone Island Crewneck
Stone Island Longsleeve
Stone Island Jacket
Stone Island Half zip
Stone Island Vest
Stone Island T-Shirt
Stone Island T-Shirt
Nipsey Hussle Hoodie
Hugo Boss Collared T-Shirt
Vetements Small Logo
Vetements Purple T-Shirt
Vetements Scribble T-Shirt
Balenciaga Hoodie
Balenciaga Small Logo
Balenciaga Campaign T-Shirt
Balenciaga Campaign Crewneck
Balenciaga I <3 Paris T-Shirt
Bape Crewneck
BAPE x Undefeated
BAPE Shark Hoodie(Store has a ton of BAPE)
Bape x Coach Jacket
FOG Nike
Nike x Various Soccer teams
Balmaim Paris T-Shirt
Versace T-Shirt
Versace Jacket
Moncler x Valentino Jacket
Moncler Jacket
Another Moncler Jacket
More Moncler
Even More Moncler
Mastermind Jacket
Gucci Outfit
Lacoste Outfit
Polo Ralph Lauren Kid Outfit
North Face Outfit
Givenchy Outfit
Ellesse Outfit
Philliph Plein Outfit
Balmain Outfit
Under Armour Outfit
Fendi Tracksuit Outfit
BOSS Outfit
Bape x Adidas Outfit
Adidas Outfit
Adidas Outfit
Nike Outfit
Mont Blanc Cardholder
Mont Blanc Belt
Various Cardholders
Graffiti Hat
Travis Scott Rodeo Hat
Saint Laurent Ring
Band-Aid Heart Chain
Murakami Plush
Vans Beanie
Trasher Beanie
Cheap Rolex
Rolex for the gf or bf
Designer Bonnets
Icey Chain
Cross Necklace
Moschino Necklace and Earrings
Oakley Sunglasses
Different Oakley Glasses
Another Pair Of Oakley Sunglasses
Snapback hat
Fendi Keychain
Fendi Belt
Fendi Hat
OW Rug
More OW Rugs
Off white Keychains
Off-White Belt
OW Belt
OW Belt
Cartier Glasses
Cartier Glasses
Cartier Ring
Lego Minifigures
Loud Socks
Jordan Beanie
Jordan Keychains
Nike Visor
Nike Socks
More Nike Socks
LV Necklace
LV Metal Bracelet
LV Lock Necklace
LV Cardholder
LV Keychain
LV Belt
LV Simple Belt
LV Holder
LV Cardholder
LV wallet
Supreme x LV Keychain
LV Coin Pouch
Another LV Coin Pouch
And Another LV Coin Pouch
LV Sunglasses
Tommy Hilfiger Belt
Hermes Belt
Hermes Belt
More Hermes Belts
Hermes Scarf
Salvatore Ferragamo Belt
Ferragamo Belt
Versace Sunglasses
Versace Beanie
Versace Ring
Prada Beanie
Prada Visor
Gucci Neckrest
Gucci Bee Cardholder
Gucci Visor
Gucci Bracelet
Gucci Steering Wheel Cover
Gucci Glasses(Might buy myself one)
Gucci Ring
Gucci Dog set!
Gucci Airpods Cases
Gucci Socks
Gucci Socks Again
Gucci Belt
Gucci Belt
Gucci Belt
Womens Gucci Belt
Chanel Headband
Chanel Case
DOPE Chanel Suspenders
Chrome Hearts Hat
DOPE Glass Gun
Dab Rig!
B.B. Simmons type belt/cowgirl
Givenchy Slides
Gucci Boots
Fantasy and retail color yeezys
NMDs and Human Races
Alexander Mcqueens
Triple S
Balenciaga Runners
Tons of Jordan 11s
Kids Jordan 11s
Uggs for the Ladies
Christian Louboutin Shoes
Under Armour Bag
Dark Camo Fendi Bag
Fendi Backpack
Women’s Goyard Bag
Goyard Shoulder Bag
Big Prada Bag
Burberry Shoulder Bag
Cool Bag
Nike Fanny Pack
Gucci Fanny Pack
Dior Bag
Christian Dior Bag for the ladies
MCM Fanny
MCM Backpack
MCM Duffel
Lots of different color MCM Bags
Hershel Backpack
Coach Backpack
Travelleopard backpack
LV Backpack
LV Lock Backpack
LV 3D Backpack
LV Big Backpack
Various Sized LV Backpacks
LV Messenger Type Bag
DOPE LV Backpack
LV Backpack
LV Trunk Bag
LV Duffel
Another LV Duffel
LV Small Bag
LV Bag
Champion Bag
Prada Pants
Burberry Swimtrunks
Essentials FOG Joggers
Essentials FOG Shorts
FOG Shorts
FOG Type Joggers
RHUDE Shorts
Gucci Swimtrunks
Robin Jeans
More Robin Jeans
Snake Amiri Jeans And More
Hurley Phantom Shorts
Various Sports Teams Shorts
GOLF Pants
Saint/Sinner Pants
Adidas Pants
Adidas Pants
Balmain Jeans
AAPE Pants!
AAPE Shorts
Tech Pants
Nike Techwear Pants
Nike Shorts
Nike Pants
Nike NBA Shorts
Air Jordan Pants
Kobe Shorts
Givenchy Track Pants
Givenchy Shorts
Unbranded Jeans
Black distressed Jeans
DOPE Black Distressed Jeans
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2019.11.18 20:34 Lowenhigh Follow-Up to cold call post: How I added over $400,000 to my bottom line as a solo freelancer with Business Networking. AMA

Hi everyone,
I received hundreds of replies to my original cold call post and literally thousands of messages over the years since I published it. I am really honored that my journey was such an inspiration to so many of my fellow aspiring entrepreneurs! I was asked by so many people over the years to follow up the cold calls post with a post on how I made business networking a success for me, so here goes… You have been such squeaky wheels, that you have finally pushed me to make it happen!

Basic Premise

First of all, I made a lot of money as a freelance entrepreneur with cold calls, but let’s be real: COLD CALLS ARE THE WORST. I bet some of you may feel differently, but they almost stole my soul. I needed to diversify, or I’d have probably burned out.
I needed a way to leverage my time in a way that caused people to **reach out to me** for services.
Cue my initial interest in networking activities.

The TL;DR Version…

I have made between $60,000 to $100,000 per year from my networking activities for the last 6 years. My networking activities currently consume about 4 hours of my work time per week, but when I started it was closer to 5 hours (this is not including driving time), with about 2 weeks break each year. This means that per hour invested, I return $300 - $500. It is my most profitable marketing investment by far (costs explained later).
Like many other great investments in marketing, it took time, planning, and a lot of effort to get there. What I will go into for the rest of this article is how I did it, and what I do now. I’ll also try to do it without a ton of “fluff” and give you guys as many specific things you can do to replicate my success.

Networking – A Step Up From Cold Calling

Networking activities are slightly more expensive than cold calling (which amounts to whatever you pay for your phone bill). However, they are the cheapest form of “pull” marketing that I can think of (A simple definition of “Pull” marketing = pulling people to call you. Push = pushing your services onto other people).
Networking isn’t as simple as cold calling, because you need to do things like get dressed and shake hands. Your body language throws a wrench into the mix, because it is literally over half (59%?) of communication.
The first step: Choosing Where & How You Network
This is so important that I can’t stress it enough. If you’re currently doing networking activities and wondering why you’re not generating major return (or any return), you’re making at least one of the following two mistakes:

  1. You are networking in the wrong place (with the wrong people)
  2. You’re doing it wrong (You have the wrong attitude and goals)

Let’s dive into each one of those, with personal (embarrassing) examples from my experiences:

#1: You’re networking in the wrong place!
I faithfully attended networking events for two years without seeing much return. One event in particular asked me to pay $5 per meeting, and I had next to no money. I faithfully paid, took my time during the event to tell everyone what a great SEO marketer and website designer I was, and sat down. I would listen to each other person in that group tell everyone what they did and how great they were, including the other 2 or 3 web designer / marketer types that were there (They would regularly leave and new ones would show up – the meeting wasn’t working for them either evidently).
I earned nothing at all from the group, except a few familiar faces asked for my advice for their own websites that they were building themselves. I think I bought like 5 multi-level marketing peoples’ products just to show them I cared, but I didn’t really use them.
And then one day I realized, I was in a room where everyone literally only cared about selling their crap to the others in the room. All the MLM people claimed their business was the best thing ever and would make you rich if you just abandoned your thing and did their thing. The core group just seemed to be more friends, and I was an outsider because I was only 23, barely out of college (that’s how I felt).
The lesson is that people that don’t care about you WILL NOT REFER YOU. They will go through their week taking from people, and they will only remember you exist because you showed up to the same 90-minute meeting. If they are desperate enough to solve a problem, maybe they’ll ask you for help, but you’re not going to get far in a place like this.
If people don’t WORK TO LEARN ABOUT YOU & YOUR STUFF, they do not care about you. Don’t give these people your time. You might as well jump in a time machine and fast forward the world 2 years, because you’re going to be in the exact same place with no results like I was two years down the road.

#2: You’re doing it wrong!
Are you one of those people from #1? I was…
The only “referral” I had for any of these people was myself, and that for only a cheap bottle of vitamins I didn’t use consistently enough to see results. I never had an outside referral for any of the 30 people in that room. I’m sure I knew some of the right people to refer those people, but I never really bothered to get to know what they wanted aside from their little 60-second presentation in front of the group each week (which I’d forget after I left anyway).
If I invested the time to learn how to know if I was sitting in the same room as a potential referral for them, I’m sure I would have found some. But sadly, I just cared about ME at that time… I was almost literally starving (Thank God for Top Ramen), and I just wanted to make sales.
The lesson is that people don’t care about you unless you show you first care about them.
You might think that I was in the wrong networking group (referring back to point #1). The bottom line is I couldn’t tell you if I was or not… I can only know for certain that I was one of the people that didn’t care enough about others.
And it wasn’t just ONE group I spent time in… I went to at least a dozen groups, became a chamber member in two different chambers, and really put a lot of mileage on my car during those two years!

The Lucky Change – When Preparation Met Opportunity

Toward the end of that time, I cold called a business coach and went through my Cold Call Script. I ended up quickly building rapport with him. He told me he didn’t have any need for that service, but he did know people that might need my service. He invited me over the phone to a networking meeting for an organization called BNI (Business Networking International).
It was clear to me that this group did something differently right off the bat. They were glad to be there, and quite friendly and welcoming to me as a new person (which is not common – I was mostly ignored in other groups as the “new guy”). They did their 60-second presentation like normal, but they had a particular way they presented that really seemed to teach me something about their business (more on this later).
Then the coup de grace – They each stood and declared they had X number of referrals, complete with these white and pink slips of paper with names, numbers, and other info. These referral slips were the thing I wanted, and I saw more of these referrals pass between members in that single meeting than I had seen the entire time I had been networking up to that point.

“Hard Networking vs Soft Networking”

“Soft” networking allows anyone to join, people come and go without trouble, and multiple professionals of the same category can attend at the same time. A soft networking group does not track attendance or referrals, and does not care if you show up or not.
“Hard” networking refers to groups that specifically exist for the purpose of passing referrals. They require you to adhere to their guidelines and make certain commitments as a member. There is an application/interview process to determine if you’re a good service provider and a good fit for the group. They will all typically provide training so you can be an effective member. If you think you can get away without showing up or contributing, they’ll boot you out after enough of that.
Back to my experience -- Once I saw the referrals passed, I applied to join and after a week, I was accepted. That was over 8 years ago now, and I have been in a total of three of these types of groups over that time (I have currently attended the same group for over 3 years, and the other two groups I was in for about 2.5 years each).
This was the most critical inflection point in my networking career, because in this group, I learned what REALLY worked in networking. Before I get into that, let’s talk about the costs I incurred for this group…

Investments & Costs of “Hard Networking”
I currently attend one structured “hard” networking meeting per week, and that is all. No Chamber events, meetup groups, or unstructured mixer events for me. This group costs me $15 per week in venue fees, which typically vary between $15-20 per week for these types of groups. Depending on your fees, you might be paying for nice food, or just some crappy coffee and the meeting space. In addition, I pay a yearly membership fee of about $550. That brings my yearly fee to be a part of this networking meeting to about $1,300 / year.
I’m not factoring in gas or other common expenses into this, but you get the idea.
My dollar-for-dollar ROI from this networking group is 4,615% at the low end, and 7,692% at the high end.
I also consider my time something valuable that I invest, and that boils down to about 4 hours per week in the following ways:
I am going to go over how I make all of that happen that with you, but you need to understand something first:

The Trust-Referral Curve

When you network with people, you begin some place along what I call the “Trust-Referral Curve,” which is a graphical representation of this fact:
The more TRUST a person has for you, the greater quality and quantity of REFERRALS you will receive.
If you just met a financial advisor, would you refer all your friends to them that day? Maybe if your friends were financial dummies… but being serious, you would need to have an **extremely high** amount of trust in a financial advisor before you referred them to someone whose retirement or estate would be at risk.
Let’s contrast that example with a florist. You can buy a decent and fresh floral arrangement for your significant other for less than $100. If the flowers ended up not being so fresh, you might be bummed when they’re wilting after a few days, but it’s not like you ended up catching flak for it like you would if you referred your significant other to Bernie Madoff.
Depending on your profession, you might need to develop MORE TRUST with someone before they are willing to refer you. You will certainly need to prove that you are trustworthy and competent at what you do before they refer you their family or best clients to you…
Thus, everyone begins at a place on this curve, and EVERYTHING. YOU. DO. moves you UP. OR. DOWN. this curve. Every single thing you say, if you’re early or late to the meeting, your meeting participation, etc.

The Trust-Referral Curve In Action
So I joined the group, and saw these referral slips pass between members every week, but in the first 9 months, only two referrals ever went to me. I ended up closing a few thousand dollars-worth of websites between the two of these, so it was enough to keep me hopeful.
Once I passed the 9 month mark, things seemed to start looking up. I was doing my best to participate in the group, which meant finding and giving referrals (more on this in a bit), but I started receiving one good referral per month. I’d close about 50% of my referrals, which meant I would make a website sale every 2 months. With my average of $1100 earned per site at the time, I earned about $6600 per year in return which was about 4 or 5 to 1 ROI (not counting my time).
And now, I make ~15x that.

How to Move Up the Trust-Referral Curve

Instead of focusing on what NOT to do, I’m going to focus on what you should be doing. I’ll address the “beyond common sense” things that could hurt your referability at the end of this article.
When someone takes an interest in me, it makes me appreciate them. I appreciate it when someone asks me questions about my family or profession, and what sorts of clients I am looking to work with. Even better if they give me a referral to one of those clients.
It makes me want to repay the favor. I want to get to know them, and I want to help them. If I am able to give them a referral in return, it feels good to “pay them back.”
The lesson here is that GIVERS GAIN.
If I give business to another member, in return they will want to give business to me.
That is the fastest way to move up someone’s TRC (Trust-Referral Curve).
Other ways include:

Carry yourself well
Dress to impress, greet and mingle with people during times of open networking, and show up early (not just barely “on time”), and do these things consistently. If you look someone in the eye, smile, and shake their hand, you're going to win over a lot of people. People do business with people they know and like, so it pays to be interested, act with kindness, and behave with professionalism.

Get to know members
When I get to know my fellow members – who they are, what they do, who they serve, and how to refer them – they always want to reciprocate. I call this a “one-to-one” meeting. Allegedly, you can complete these in an hour, but if you’re meeting with me, plan two hours. Most of the time, people mess these up by forgetting to cover the personal OR the business side. Just remember, the business side is the most important side to understand for referrals, but you can handle that in 20 minutes… the personal side takes most of the time, and makes them feel warm and fuzzy about you. If you want quicker referrals, focus on the personal side twice as long as you focus on business.

Show up to every meeting
It’s not unreasonable to miss a meeting here and there. Once, my kid threw up on my shoes as I was leaving for a meeting… Obviously my child comes first in that case (Sadface about my wingtip shoes tho). I also take vacations, and miss the meeting 3 or 4 times per year as a result. But 95%+ of the time, you should be able to make the meeting without an issue. If you’re not willing to make the commitment to show up to over 95% of meetings, you’re not willing to make 7,600% ROI. Seems pretty stupid to sleep in after a long night or fail to pre-plan when it’s put that way…

Plan your presentation
A “60-second presentation” is your time during the meeting to remind and educate your fellow members about who you are, what you do, how you add value, and what makes a good referral for you. My group has 55+ members and lasts 90 minutes, so we actually only get 30 seconds to do this. You’d better believe that pre-planning is the only way I get a meaningful point across in 30 seconds.
Many people try to “wing it” but they miss something. And if you allow yourself to miss one small point for 50 meetings in a row due to “winging it,” you’re going to wonder why you aren’t getting as much out of it as this guy Lowenhigh is claiming on Reddit.
In particular, I see a lot of people forget or misuse the “ask” portion of their commercial, also known as the “Who do you know” section of my commercial. I might do a lot of great SEO marketing for a specific company type, but if I never get to that in my commercial, I wouldn’t get any referrals to those people! In addition, if you ask for "anybody" I'm going to think of "nobody."
Here is a link to a short guide I made on planning your presentation on Google Drive.

Go above and beyond for your referrals
When you get a referral in this group, make sure to do a good job for them. Crush it out of the park, so the member that referred you hears a good report. That member will tell others what a good job you did for their client/friend/family, often in some version of a testimonial in front of the group. Most of the time, members tend to first refer themselves before referring you to someone else. That is because they need to know you can do a good job for their referrals. Also, they might not understand how to refer you to others yet – this is an issue fixed with educating your fellow members over time.
As an aside: In a funny way, this has helped me understand how to look good to my clients. Learning how someone feels you’re going above and beyond is really interesting. In my profession, I can generate someone a bunch of online leads that make them $$$, but they are often more impressed that I answer my phone when they call… The former is “expected,” but the latter is not in the digital marketing profession. If you don’t have the former, you get fired. If you are missing the customer service aspect of the latter, your customers/clients aren’t impressed with you, and you miss out on referrals.

Demonstrate your expertise
People want to refer to experts. Even if you’re a sales person, you can impress your fellow group members by educating them consistently every week. Share stats from your industry, share updates in your profession, share pitfalls to avoid or red flag warnings, share case studies of successful jobs, etc.
Half of the members are aged 50+ and don’t have a clue what I actually do as an SEO marketer, but they trust that I’m an expert that can help their clients. Why? Because I have spent the last 3.5 years demonstrating my expertise in my profession to this group with successful case studies.

Demonstrate your personality
People don’t refer businesses. They refer people. If you’re someone that is so boring that you need to be fed by the slot under the door to avoid losing your company clients, you’re never going to make it in networking. Be okay getting to know people, and be okay sharing who you are.
Once, I challenged the group to refer me the next web design employee I hired. I made a bet with them, and said that I would do cartwheels in front of the group if I hired someone they referred. They took me up on my challenge, and long story short, I ended up doing 2 cartwheels in a business suit in front of the group. I was, of course, practicing my cartwheels so I didn’t end up looking like an idiot.
Instead, I looked like a cartwheeling hero… and I got referrals for what I needed!

Get involved in leadership roles
Leadership positions within the group are an extra burden, but the visibility and respect earned is so valuable. Two years ago, I took the “President” role (the head honcho role for my group), and new members would instantly believe I was trustworthy, because the position by itself seemed to dictate that I had to be one of the most trustworthy professionals in the room. That was my most profitable year ever in the group, clearing well over $100k in new business, but it nearly doubled my weekly time commitment. That’s an ok trade by me!

Hygiene factors – aka things that hurt your referrals

A “hygiene factor” is something that needs to be done, or it’ll hurt you. It won’t necessarily help you get a date if you brush your teeth, but it’s going to hurt your chances if you don’t. Being guilty of any of the following will move you DOWN the Trust-Referral Curve (in a negative way). As I said before, everything you do that members can see will move you up or down that curve. Based on my experience, here are the biggest commonplace offenders:

Failing to follow up on your referrals
You say you want a referral, but you didn’t follow up on my last referral. I know, because I asked them and they said they didn’t hear from you. Someone that can say this is not a good look for you!

Quoting one price and charging another
Sometimes, you don’t understand the job included that extra area, or some extra unforeseen work. That happens! But if you ever tell someone it’ll be $2500 and then you charge $2800 without their clear understanding as to why the price changed, you’re in deep trouble. I had an experience with a plumber that told me one price and charged me more. Think I’ll ever refer that person to my best client? No way.

Doing a bad job
I don’t need to explain this, but if you fail my client, you aren’t getting more referrals from me unless you fix it. Oddly enough, this is an opportunity to show your quality – If you can fix your mistakes without charging them more, you’ll actually grow exponentially on my TRC (It’s just like finding a whistle in Super Mario 3).

Constantly being late or ghosting meetings
If the meeting starts, and I see you walk in late, I’ll remember you for the wrong reasons. If I see you are constantly missing, I’ll also remember you for the wrong reasons. You might have sent a text to the President or VP telling them why, but as a regular member, I likely won’t ever learn the reason. I’ll just know you were missing or late. And I’m going to think you’re going to stand up my client or be late to your meeting with them, too.

Taking more than your allotted time during the commercial section
This is more subtle, but if you take longer than your allotted time, you’ll probably be notified your time has expired with some sort of bell. It’s not a problem to get the bell, but if you keep talking as though it never happened, you’re going to annoy me. If you do it regularly, you’re not respecting the group’s time… We’re trying to finish this meeting in 90 minutes, and you’re either going to take time from someone else, or we’re going to spend longer than 90 minutes… because of you (which is all I’ll remember about you that week).

Being a "Category Cowboy"
The Category Cowboy (ow Cowgirl) is someone that talks about a wide range of services that fall both inside and outside your professional classification. People that are struggling financially or that get "too comfortable" with the group tend to do this. I run a digital marketing agency, and I only talk about SEO. We do much more though -- we build websites, run Kickstarter campaigns, send a million e-mail blasts a month, grow brands on social media, and run paid ad campaigns on Amazon/Google/Facebook. But I stick to SEO only, because trying to tell people you do everything is going to make people think you are a jack of all trades but expert of none! I seriously deleted a whole sentence from this paragraph that talked about extra random things we have done, because it was off track and might have made you lose the point of this section.
When you're not consistent with your messaging, it's going to hurt you in the long-run. If people can't clearly identify the service you provide and the people you can help, you are going to miss out on referrals.

Red Flag Warnings of a Bad Group

Sometimes, it’s not you… it’s the group! Some groups are the worst, and here are some common signs that you should run:

This happens a LOT, and groups that do not welcome new visitors are groups that don’t grow. Member growth is critical to the awesomeness of a group!

If they aren’t excited to go to their networking group, it’s because it’s stagnant and they don’t get enough business to get excited. The energy of a group is critical to growth, because people feed off of positive energy and are repelled by negative energy! This should repel you, too.

NOT a deal-breaker for me, but new people tend to judge a group based on the quality of the venue. I have attended groups in awesome locations and grungy locations, and the beauty and professionalism of your location really makes a difference on your growth potential – just keep special awareness of this when you’re looking at a smaller group (less than 25). If you join, try to work toward a nicer venue so more new members want to join. New members are the lifeblood of a “hard” networking group.

In my view, 25 or more is good, less is bad. This is also NOT a deal-breaker for me, but you’re going to get 4x the referrals in a group of 50 as you would a group of 25. The larger group will be pickier about who they allow to join as a member, and might have your profession already filled. It’s up to you if you want to join a smaller group, but groups that are 25+ members tend to be much more stable. Members tend to work harder for longer in larger groups, which means less member turnover and more referrals for everyone.


These principles work for service-based businesses that focus on B2B or B2C. The networking strategies I outlined tend to focus more on people and less on the actual service you are selling. Therefore, I believe that these strategies will always translate well in person to person exchanges, and are beneficial to everyone that plans on interacting with a person at some point to sell a product or service.
This strategy is actually at the heart of why I grew into a company that is larger than just me. You know by now that I made some serious money doing cold calls, but this is what allowed me to leverage my time and sustain a good living as a small business owner. I’ve actively worked on this process for over 8 years, pouring thousands of hours into developing and refining my networking strategy. This is also the first time I’ve ever written it down. I hope this article blesses you guys as much as the first article did!
And before I sign off, please feel free to ask a question. This article would have easily been four times the length if I explained everything, so ask me anything about this and I’ll answer you in the comments below.
On the side, I’ve been designing a “Christian Fantasy” Dungeon Crawl board game which is my next entrepreneurial project, but my company Next Level Web is my family’s bread and butter. God has allowed my wife to stay at home and raise our five children while I have worked. If you want to reach out, you can contact me on my website, find me here on Twitter, and you can always reach me on Reddit, as I lurk much more often than I should.
Now stop bugging me for a networking post. I made it! :-)
Kind regards,
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2019.11.04 23:04 Red-Curious The Truth About Porn

This post is going to tick off some people. I'm okay with that. I know it requires a lot more qualifying language than I'm actually going to give it (I'm low on time). But I think this is a necessary message right now anyway.
No, this is not a defense of porn use as if it's not sinful. It is sin. But, I'm going to defend the use of porn insofar as it has been used as a tool of condemnation over men by the church in their marriages. Why would I do this? Certainly not to encourage porn use. Instead, my premise is that when men blame porn for their marriage troubles, they fail to see the actual issues and become so obsessed with quitting porn that it becomes the proverbial "pink elephant" they can't stop thinking about and ultimately interferes with their ability to live on mission for Christ.
Does Porn Actually Ruin Marriages?
Churchianity tells us that watching porn ruins marriages.
  • Does it, though?
Seriously. Ask that question and dwell on it for a bit. This comes up all the time in Christian books and movies. There's only one way that I have noticed an appreciable impact on my marriage: When I would curb my desires through porn, I was less interested in initiating with my wife, and then I blamed our lack of sex on her denial rather than my lack of initiation and developed resentment against her for it.
Notice that this isn't actually a porn problem. This is an initiation issue. If I were to have initiated with my wife as often as I wanted sex, one of two things would happen: (1) we would have sex and I'd have no need for porn (or if I did, it wouldn't be in a resentment-building way); or (2) she would deny me, we wouldn't have sex, and HER DENIAL would build my resentment against her - and this would be true even if I didn't watch porn afterward.
My point here is simple: the act of watching porn and masturbating is not, in itself, what causes the problem, as the resentment that builds is independent of the actual porn use, which is really more of a coping mechanism to abate the resentment. Dare I say it? In many cases, I've met clients and fellow churchgoers who would have divorced their wives long ago if they hadn't had porn to abate the impact of their bitterness. In some of these cases, it's entirely possible that watching porn is what saved their marriage as it gave them an outlet to relieve their frustration against a sinfully denying wife rather than letting their bitterness continue to grow until it erupted into a divorce.
Does that make it right? Absolutely not. But if we're not accurate about what the problems are in marriages, we're not going to be accurate in finding solutions either. If we keep blaming "all those horrible men who are addicted to porn" for marriages falling apart, like in the Fireproof movie, we're only ever going to get fictionalized rationalizations for what the answer might be, while the real answers (i.e. everything else we teach here) are hidden and left unaddressed. As long as churchianity keeps blaming porn for more than its actual role in marriages falling apart, there will be no motive or reason for its leaders to look for alternative, more biblical cures for broken marriages and sex lives.
A Perfect Example
I'd been planning on writing this post for a couple weeks now (no, I don't actually get the chance to write every post idea that comes to mind), but was finally triggered to do so by this post by carelessbowler5. He writes about his failure to overcome his porn use. Props for your honesty, brother! But here's what's most telling about the situation:
  • I know what it looked like in my BP days. I spilled my guts and she just kinda looked at me blankly, not feeling bad, sorry, sympathetic, or anything (never any rage or anger like other wives). Usually a somewhat indifferent, "Uh... I forgive you."
Where I think he's mistaken is when he says "like other wives." I've counseled a lot of guys through porn issues. I've also seen a lot of them go through confession with their wives. This response seems pretty standard. With their words, many will say, "Thank you for your honesty. I forgive you. You're always welcome to tell me anything and I'll do my best to help you." With their actions and mannerisms, they're implicitly communicating: "Why are you telling me this? I don't want to know. I think I do, but in reality it just makes me less attracted to you and more pessimistic about our relationship. I can't resolve that cognitive dissonance on my own, so you're going to have to resolve it for me by not telling me in the first place."
Now, some guys confess for stupid reasons, like hoping it will make their wives more sexually interested in them. After all, "If I'm struggling with porn and she realizes just how serious it is, maybe she'd be more inclined to help me by having sex with me so I don't have to go to porn." That's not been my experience or the case among men I've counseled. It usually results in a one-time (maybe one-week) adjustment before returning to life as usual.
Refuting Churchianity
As I've written before ("Sex Addicted v. Sex Starved"), most guys don't actually have an addiction problem. They just have sinfully denying wives. The majority of men I meet have no problem saying no to porn within 48 hours after having sex with their wife (i.e. the time it takes for his balls to refuel completely). If they're at all close to a representative of the whole of men who use porn, what does this implication say on the impact of porn on marriages?
Let's look at some of the most common arguments Christians use for why porn kills marriages and see if the rationale makes as much sense as they think it does. For this fun exercise, I'm going to use this article from the Christian blog,
  • 1. Porn kills your ability to get aroused by "just" your spouse.
This was not my experience in my porn days. I know the author claims (without citing) that there's "science" to back this up, due to "brain re-wiring" that often gets discussed. For those with an actual, genuine addiction, this may be true. But the fact that most men can become aroused by "just" their spouse (even if she's unattractive) after merely a few days off porn is also very telling. When actual addictive issues are at play, the brain's reward centers are certain re-wired - that part is true. But the re-wiring also causes a modicum of permanent change that cannot be completely reversed. So, for every guy who has overcome his alleged porn addiction and found himself attracted by "just" his wife again, either God is doing a literal physical miracle every time by undoing physical brain damage, or these guys were never really addicted in the first place, and the "re-wired brain" argument holds no weight except in the most severe, extreme cases.
More likely, if a guy can't get aroused by "just" his spouse, it's not because he's watching porn, but because she's not trying to arouse him. I would LOVE to hear from these men: (1) what kind of physical shape is she in? (2) how's her fashion sense? (3) does she use seductive mannerisms around him? (4) how often does she put on that lingerie? Women expect men to get aroused just by her saying the word "sex." Interestingly: for many men, they're right! But the fact that most allegedly porn-addicted men would jump on their even unattractive wives at any showing of her willingness is only further evidence that their brains have not actually been re-wired.
More to the point, if there is any re-wiring going on, it's that men's brains have been re-wired to believe having an attractive wife with decent fashion sense who occasionally acts seductive or wears lingerie from time to time is somehow an unrealistic expectation of sex. That's the real dangerous "re-wiring."
  • 2. Porn Kills Your Libido ... "when it comes to making love to your spouse."
I love how the author misleads the title by putting the qualifier in the body of that section rather than the title. No, porn does not kill your libido. His argument is that men would rather watch porn than have sex with their wives - that he gets e-mails from women in their twenties complaining that sex has somehow dropped off after marriage, which he presumes is because the guys are watching porn instead. First, I'd love to see how many more men are concerned with this post-marriage sex-loss phenomenon than women. But more to the point: the fact that these guys are still watching porn shows that their libido is not, in fact, killed at all. Yes, it's "killed ... when it comes to making love to your spouse," but there's no evidence here that the porn is what killed it. More likely than not, she killed it through being a nagging harpy or by denying him repeatedly or by getting fat. Or perhaps it's the more general phenomenon that sexual attraction is highest during anticipatory phases of a relationship, and since he's talking about people who were virgins until marriage, once that build up is gone post-marriage because they're actually having sex, the anticipatory tension is released and it's just not as exciting anymore.
This is the problem when women talk about how their wedding day should be the "best day of my life!" If you've already hit the climax at that point, everything after that will, by definition, be disappointing. For couples who view sex as a destination that has been "achieved" in a relationship, ongoing sex afterward is a let-down. Instead, sex should be viewed as a journey with new territory to explore and lots of old ground to rediscover.
  • 3. Porn Makes You Sexually Lazy
The author's rationale is that you are allegedly trained to believe that people are just always "turned on" and ready to go, and therefore you're less interested in foreplay. This could easily be undermined by arguing back: "Okay, so from now on I'll just watch porn that does involve a lot of foreplay and a slow build" ... as if that doesn't exist. For those who don't, though: I'd be shocked if there's any truth in this statement at all. Most men obviously realize that it takes time to build arousal. The problem here is that they're waiting until post-initiation to begin building arousal rather than building arousal throughout the day pre-initiation. The author clearly doesn't understand that - and if we assume that arousal can only start post-initiation, then I might be inclined to believe what he's saying. But if he doesn't understand something as basic as this, what's he doing writing on a blog about marriage and sexuality in the first place? Well ... I guess the same could be said of most Christian authors on sex, so there's that.
My personal experience is quite the opposite of what the author said. Porn did not make me sexually lazy. Rather, I have always been highly aroused and turned on by the foreplay period of building arousal with my wife, even if it's entirely post-initiation. This was constant even during the times when I was using porn the most. To get a bit too graphic, there were times I had masturbated to porn - sometimes even multiple times - before hopping into bed to my wife unexpectedly initiating with me, and the fact that I'd been on porn before made me MORE inclined to slow-build, because I needed that time also.
Also, watching porn immediately before having sex with my wife made me less "sexually lazy" because it filled my head with things I'd like to try with my wife. Things that, you know, most "Christian" authors would say are "unrealistic expectations" ... because, well, apparently anything other than missionary or cowgirl is totally unrealistic in marriage. Right? Haha. No. Watching porn can motivate a man into avoiding the lazy slump of doing the same things over and over again by showing him there are other fun options out there. Again, I'm not rationalizing porn use as a good thing. Don't do it. I'm just saying that the "let's make up arguments for why porn is damaging" fad comes up with bad information that isn't consistent with most logical frameworks for high-libido men, who will be sexually interested in their wives and not lazy in the slightest, even despite their porn use. If the man is low-libido, then porn-watching probably isn't so much the issue.
  • 4. Porn Kills “Making Love” and Turns It Into a Foreign Concept
He argues that "intimacy doesn't happen with porn." Again: what if a guy commits only to watching the type of porn that involves intimate and romantic build-up? Would that make him feel better? The fact that this porn exists once again completely undermines the point, as he assumes that all porn involves a plumber taking off his pants within 30 seconds of walking into a girl's house.
What's really going on here, though, is that what the author means by "intimacy" is actually validation-seeking. Sure, this is straw-manning, but if you ask him (or most people) what they mean by sexual intimacy (as opposed to other kinds), what they will answer is: "The feeling you get when you know someone else desires you and wants to be close to you and that you're totally focused on each other." In other words, the author is arguing that porn makes you stop seeking validation from your spouse. The mistake here is in thinking this is a bad thing. Sure, we can enjoy validation when it comes, but seeking it out is actually harmful to martial sexuality.
Of course, the fact is that most men on porn are using it BECAUSE they're not getting sexual validation from their wives already. They still want that validation. Porn hasn't killed their need for validation, as evidenced by how many blue pill men there are in the world. Porn just teaches men that they don't need to rely on their wives for that validation. This is actually a good conclusion - the problem is that they're going to porn to get it instead of God.
  • 5. Porn Makes Regular Intercourse Seem Boring
Apparently wanting more than starfish is a bad thing now. I'm curious of the author's own sex-life. I get the impression that the entire article is a way for him to hamsterationalize that his missionary/cowgirl framework is really the only proper Christian way to have a sex life in marriage.
He says: "most is very violent, extremely degrading, and very ugly." Unless there have been massive changes to the porn industry in the last 3-4 years, this is not at all my understanding of what's out there. Does that exist? Absolutely. But it was always categorized in its own subset, separate from the majority. He also says, "'Regular' intercourse is actually not depicted that often in porn." Again, it's been a few years, but my recollection is that "regular" intercourse was the norm and made up the vast majority of videos out there. Or perhaps, again, his idea of "regular" is limited to two positions and anything outside of missionary or cowgirl is "extremely degrading" or "very ugly."
The fact is, virtually every blue pilled guy I meet (and that's the majority of them), including the ones on porn, is excited about ANY sex with his wife. Even if their sex is objectively boring, he's excited by it because he's having it with a real person.
  • 6. Porn Kills Your Ability to Be Tender When You Have Sex
Now he's just stretching. Seriously? First off, who says that sex is supposed to be tender in the first place? Has he not seen the statistics on rape fantasies? How many women want to be dominated sexually? For most guys, they're SO OVERLY TENDER that they NEED someone to teach them how to go rough a bit. This aspect of porn isn't killing marriages; it's probably helping overly tender guys get a small taste of what women actually want in the bedroom. But even at that, as with many of his other points: there's plenty of porn out there that involves tender caresses.
  • 7. Porn Trains You to Have Immediate Gratification and Have a Difficult Time Lasting Long
That's funny. Most guys I know who watch porn will watch it for hours at a time, edging themselves to maximize their gratification. This statement is ignorant.
  • 8. Porn Gives You a Warped View of What Attractive Is
I love this line: "If a woman gains even ten pounds, then, she’s no longer attractive, and the porn user has an honest to goodness difficult time getting aroused, because he associates only a certain body type with arousal." Yes, because apparently guys can will-power themselves into being sexually aroused by fat people.
This is worth a post in itself, but just as I occasionally cite women having retroactive emotions, I find that most men have an inverted condition with regard to imprinted attraction attraction. It's a weird phenomenon that creeps up again and again and again - especially among blue pilled guys. With the wife, her present emotional state projects onto how she emotionally felt in the past. If she's mad today, the extremely fun vacation they took 2 years ago suddenly wasn't so fun - it was a nightmare that she didn't enjoy at all, and she was just pretending to enjoy for his sake ... until tomorrow when she's feeling good again and that vacation was the best trip she'd ever been on.
For guys, they imprint a past image of a woman on their brain and often still see her in that image when they look at her today. Their perception of the present is skewed by that early imprint so that when a wife actually gains weight or changes her personality or mannerisms, etc., he still sees her just as she was when they started dating. This may not be your experience, but I've found it true of countless guys who still desire sex with their spouse not because of how attractive they are today, but because of how attractive they remember her being and their brains still see those attractive features underneath the excess flab and harpy attitude. I'm getting off-track here, but suffice it to say that my observations of men's attraction toward attraction-decreasing changes in their wives is completely inconsistent with what the author cites.
  • 9. Porn Makes Sex Seem Like Too Much Work
This is just a recitation of the "makes men lazy" argument. No need to readdress. Suffice it to say that when a man is actually aroused, it doesn't matter how much porn he watches. He'll still work hard to get off, and usually to get her off too.
  • 10. Porn Kills Selflessness
Again, this depends on the type of porn a guy watches. A guy who used to disciple me while I was in law school and first married once commented that different men become aroused by different aspects of sexuality. For him, it was the shape of a woman's body that turned him on. For other guys, it's the idea of his own ejaculation. For me, it's always been watching the female orgasm that's most arousing and gives me the best orgasms. While there are others out there, to stick with mine: my infatuation with watching a woman orgasm as the peak of my own sexual excitement has the exact opposite impact of what he talks about. I guess in a weird way, you could call it selfish - that I would behave sexually selfless toward my wife in order to increase my own pleasure in sex. But the fact is that watching porn or other women orgasming wasn't killing my selflessness - it was reinforcing it, encouraging me to continue seeking my wife's sexual pleasure in the bedroom.
Also, how many porn-addicted, blue pilled betas are actually selfish toward their wives? The majority are serving at her every beck and call, doing everything they can to prioritize her happiness. So no. Porn is not making them less selfless. At least not in their behavior. More accurately, it's a reward mechanism these guys use. "I was selfless toward her and she didn't reward me with sex, so I'll reward myself with porn." In this sense, porn is what's keeping them selfless. When I gave up porn and still didn't have a healthy sex life from my wife, that's when I first started becoming selfish in my marriage - and that was also the start of what saved my marriage.
This really needs to be emphasized, so I'm making it its own section. When I was on porn, one of my go-to categories was amateur videos that were reflective of actual sex lives. It's pretty obvious when people are faking or there are filters over the lenses or the production team edited or mastered the video a certain way, or the cameras shift from one angle to another repeatedly so you know there is a whole crew right there with them, breaking the immersion. It's clear when the couple is using various positions just to put on a show, rather than because it's what they actually want to do in the moment.
I was into this more "realistic" type porn at the time because it was believable - it was representative of what I could actually be doing with my wife, and that connection to seeing myself with my wife in the video doing what those people were doing is what turned me on. So, for a guy like I was, who focused primarily on this type of porn, virtually all of the author's arguments are moot. That type of porn was not killing my image of sexuality or my view of my wife or making me think sex with her would be boring or any of those things. It was making me desire more from her what I realistically should have been getting, but wasn't.
Whenever porn can be used in a way that doesn't cause the problems he's bringing up, then he is no longer making an argument against porn - he's only making an argument against certain types of porn. I might cede that certain types of porn, if watched in excessive quantities, could cause a lot of the marriage-killing problems he references. But that claim can't be made about ALL porn.
And if it's not true of porn itself, as a broad category, then porn itself isn't the problem; rather, it's the types of porn guys should watch. Would the author reasonably argue, then, that porn is okay as long as it's limited to certain types that won't cause these problems? Of course not. And nor should he! My point is more that churchianity is always going to make the porn problem out to be worse than it is because it keeps the blame on men rather than looking at the actual dynamic in marriages and what's causing the sexual-break-down. Porn has become an easy scape-goat to avoid figuring out where the problems really exist.
What about contextual use?
Another assumption this guy makes is that all porn use is done in secret/private and on an ongoing, consistent basis. Given that virtually all effects of porn use are reversible when a guy stops using porn ...
  • What if a guy's wife is going on a business trip? He uses porn to curb his desires while she's gone. He stops a couple days before she gets back. Those couple days are more than enough to let his sperm rebuild and he's just as eager for his wife as before she left. He's using porn in a highly contextualized situation. Virtually all of the author's arguments against porn use are now moot.
  • What if a guy's wife is constantly denying him sex, so he uses porn to curb his desires in the face of nowhere else to turn? Is the porn use really what's killing the marriage in that situation?
  • What if a guy or his wife has a legitimate physical deformity or psychological issue preventing them from having a healthy sex life, so he uses porn to help solve the problem?
  • What if a couple decides they like watching porn together to get in the mood, and this makes them feel more bonded with each other by doing something together that most people would only ever dare to do in secret by themselves?
I'm not saying any of these are good reasons to use porn. I'm just saying that these types of uses of porn completely undermine the arguments the author makes - and by extension, most of churchianity who puts out the same arguments.
What Does Any of This Have to Do With Marriage?
As it turns out, not very much. The guy titles the article "10 ways porn kills a marriage," but then goes on to talk not about marriages dying, but about the impact porn has on a man's brain. He never connects that impact to divorce. At best, he tries to connect it to sexual disunity between spouses. The funny thing is - he didn't have to give these 10 reasons. All he had to say was, "If you're getting off with porn, you're not getting off with your spouse" and in a single sentence would have proved that point. But even then, there's no evidence that this connects to divorce or even emotional dissatisfaction in a marriage - especially when the wife has no idea the guy is on porn.
In this sense, one could easily read this article and conclude: Okay, as long as I limit my porn to realistic scenarios that reinforce my desire to see my wife orgasm, and my wife never finds out, there's no problem with porn. Because his arguments only really waged war against other types of porn. Which is the EXACT PROBLEM with using philosophical or scientific reasoning to make a THEOLOGICAL point. Silly churchianity. Why are you always so committed to thinking the way the world thinks?
A more theological approach to this whole situation is to look at the example Jesus gave us. Jesus has one bride, who are described as "good soil" and which produce "good trees" when the Gospel springs up in us. Jesus also says that no good tree produces bad fruit, meaning Jesus will not spiritually procreate through anyone who is not his bride (though he may use them as external tools in his purposes all the same). We don't see Jesus salivating over his desire to procreate through anyone who isn't part of his bride. He either draws them into becoming his bride or he turns his head and walks on. The use of porn by a Christian man in light of the fact that we are the image of Christ implies that Jesus has some bizarre longing to indwell and reproduce through anyone other than his own church with no intention of making the person part of his church (the same way a man has no intention actually to marry the woman on his computer screen). Because there's no Scripture to that indicates this, it creates a false image of Christ in our lives, which is damaging to the name of Christ if communicated to the outside world.
A Closer, Red Pill Look
Back on point, though, let's look again at these sections in his article and consider two questions in brief: (1) Knowing the truth about intersexual dynamics, is his proposed "harm" really a "harm" at all? and (2) Are these issues actually "killing marriages"?
1. Porn kills your ability to get aroused by "just" your spouse
(1) The author assumes men should be easily aroused by unattractive women, if he happens to be married to one. If that's the case, the fact that she let herself go is probably more of an issue to their sex life than his ability to influence what he finds arousing. This notion is intended to give women a free pass to let themselves go while keeping the responsibility on the man to be attracted to her. In reality, the impact porn will have on a man's attraction toward his wife is likely relatively small and unlikely to result in his sexual disinterest toward her.
(2) Many people remain married indefinitely with relatively little physical attraction. Yes, we could call these "dead" marriages. But if there is a lack of attraction, it's likely more because the people themselves are not attractive, not because someone has psychologically conditioned himself to find an attractive person unattractive.
2. Porn Kills Your Libido
(1) Objectively this is false. It satiates your libido and in most cases increases it. More to the point, though: even if true, many guys are a huge turn-off to their wives because of how sexually needy/clingy they get. When his libido for his wife is no longer controlling his behaviors with her, it creates the perception that he doesn't need her, which can actually increase her sexual responsiveness toward him - whether through actual attraction or in-the-moment adjustments to take responsibility for driving him to porn in the first place.
(2) Even if a guy's libido toward his wife is actually negatively impacted, this only hurts the marriage if his wife isn't getting the sex from him she wants. If she was already a denying harpy, she's probably relieved that he's not initiating anymore and doesn't have to put up with his him touching her. This likely actually improves the marriage dynamic as neither of them has to worry about forcing sex between them and he gets to use porn to placate his desires.
3. Porn Makes You Sexually Lazy
(1) The author assumes each spouse is responsible for the other's orgasm. If a woman takes responsibility for her own orgasm, her enthusiasm increases. As her sexual enthusiasm increases, his will also - and this will almost certainly outweigh any initial laziness he might get from porn, if there's any at all in the first place.
(2) If there is any gender known for being sexually lazy, it's women. How many men complain about star fish sex? Duty sex? Denial and rejection because she's "too tired" or "doesn't feel like it"? Even if there is an impact on a man's sexual effort with his wife, this is grossly outweighed by the sexual laziness most women express. So no, a man becoming sexually lazy is likely not the thing that's "killing the marriage" - her laziness is almost certainly a much, much larger contributor.
4. Porn Kills “Making Love” and Turns It Into a Foreign Concept
(1) Who ever said sex was about "making love" in the first place? The church really screwed this one up. Yes, love and intimacy CAN certainly be a part of sex, but there's no biblical mandate that it MUST be. They're tools to increase the sexual experience in certain concepts. But if you use the same tools and techniques over and over and over again, it actually ruins sexuality. Sometimes married couples need to screw, not "make love."
(2) For as much as women may want to call sex "making love," the amount of "duty sex" or starfish sex they put out comes off as incredibly unloving. Again, the degree to which porn may affect a guy's capacity to "make love to" instead of screw his wife is not likely the lynchpin on their marriage in comparison to the impact of the typical wife's "love making" capacity in the bedroom. Notice also that the imperative for "making love" is always from the man to the woman. Churchianity never discusses what it would look like for a wife to "make love" to a man in the bedroom.
5. Porn Makes Regular Intercourse Seem Boring
(1) That's because regular intercourse IS boring. It's like eating tofu then having some steak and saying, "Stop eating steak or you won't like your tofu as much." Duh. But does this actually cause harm? No. While it might initially make sex SEEM boring, by learning new things, sex actually becomes less boring. Again, that doesn't justify how the new things are learned; I'm merely addressing the author's point as a bogus one.
(2) It's very possible that some men who perceive their sex lives as boring will file for divorce over it. I have had these clients. But 99% of the time it's not because porn made him think his sex life was boring ... it's because his wife's refusal for any form of sexual exploration was ACTUALLY boring.
6. Porn Kills Your Ability to Be Tender When You Have Sex
(1) Most women are turned off when guys are too tender all the time during sex. Again, it's not about "making love" all the time. It's about screwing each other hard. Even if porn causes this result (which I dare say it objectively does not), it's likely an improvement to their sex life.
(2) How many couples are getting divorced because "He just wasn't tender enough with me in the bedroom"? I'd wager the number of women who ask for more sexual aggression greatly outweighs those asking for more tenderness. This isn't killing marriages; it's putting guys in the statistical majority for satisfying their wives.
7. Porn Trains You to Have Immediate Gratification and Have a Difficult Time Lasting Long
(1) Nevermind the absurdity of this statement, even if we stupidly assume it's true, this really only matters in two situations: (a) we assume that sex must always end in simultaneous orgasms (which is not the norm), or (b) the guy doesn't have the stamina or interest to build up for round 2. In the case of a, if we don't assume simultaneous orgasms, then what's the big deal if he blows his load early? He can still be sexually available to her afterward - especially if he's willing to build up to a round 2.
(2) I've seen people not get married because "he wasn't long enough," but I've never seen a marriage end because "he didn't last long enough." How is immediate gratification going to "kill a marriage"? The author offers no explanation because there isn't one. What if the guy likes getting off fast? What if the wife likes quickies so she doesn't have to deal with prolonged physical contact with a guy she can't stand touching in the first place? Maybe his premature ejaculation is making sex more tolerable for her, thereby saving their marriage! Yes, I realize how absurd all of this sounds in the grander scheme, but I've also known women to have said things along these lines about their husbands and sex lives.
8. Porn Gives You a Warped View of What Attractive Is
(1) No, it shows you what you already find attractive. You can't change what you're attracted to/not, and it's unlikely that porn can do so for you. It plays on preexisting fetishes or letting people discover attraction triggers that they didn't know they had until they saw it.
(2) I do see marriages die because people are not attracted to each other. This is probably the single biggest cause of divorce that gets rationalized as other things frequently. However, I have never seen attractive people claim that porn cause them to lose attraction for each other. The couples getting divorced due to lack of attraction are doing so because they are ACTUALLY UNATTRACTIVE, not because porn convinced them that the other is unattractive.
9. Porn Makes Sex Seem Like Too Much Work
See the lazy problem above.
10. Porn Kills Selflessness
(1) Selflessness usually kills attraction. A guy developing a dab of selfishness in his spine is likely to help, not hurt.
(2) I'd love to see the comparison between female selfishness and the component of male selfishness attributable to porn.
At the end of the day, watching porn isn't likely the reason marriages are dying. If a wife doesn't know about it, she has no reason to be upset with him, unless it's causing him to be sexually defiant against her. And let's be honest here: how many guys who watch porn are actually denying their wife's initiations? Extremely few.
At best, their sex-life has been hindered by his porn use. But even at that, go ask guys who have successfully conquered porn in their lives and see if their wives are somehow magically more receptive to sex when their husband has quit something she didn't know he was doing. I've discipled several guys in this position and while they are relieved to have stopped using porn, their reports of the futility in their sex lives were unaltered by this change. If anything, they desired their wives more, but their wife's receptivity to their sexual advances remained unchanged, increasing the stress, friction, and resentment in their marriage. Yes, quitting porn has actually made some people's marriages worse.
On the other hand, if the wife DOES know about it, how many of them are actually filing for divorce when they discover their husband's use? Very few. I have yet to find a single case where that was the reason a woman (or man, for that matter) gave me for why they wanted the divorce, even though allegations of porn use do come up constantly - just never in terms of why they want the divorce. Instead, they begin seeing their husbands as sexual beings. Yes, this can have a negative impact on a marriage if the wife isn't attracted to her husband because now she has to come face to face with the fact that she doesn't want to be sexual with a man who is sexual. But at that point, the harm isn't caused by the porn use. It's caused by the wife's sexual disinterest. And if the wife is sexually attracted to her husband, then her perception of him as a sexual being improves their sex life by her realization that he has these desires and hasn't been able to control them without her.
Are there situations where porn kills marriages? Absolutely. But those situations are few and far between. The porn problem is NOWHERE NEAR as destructive as churchianity makes it out to be. Instead, pornography gets used as a catch-all scapegoat to blame men for everything that goes wrong because it's too risky to blame women for the behaviors that drive men to porn in the first place.
Yes, watching porn in 99.9% of contexts is sin. Don't do it. But don't beat yourself up over it either, as if you're ruining your marriage. Chances are that your porn use is having very little impact on your marriage directly.
Epilogue: So Why Stop Watching Porn?
Even if it doesn't have a direct impact on your marriage, it does have a direct impact on your ability to live out your mission, if it's a godly one. While you should still make disciples even if you struggle with porn, stopping your porn use will increase the respect other men have for you and give you additional influence in their lives. There's plenty enough in Scripture that discusses sin - and that is all sin, not just porn use (sexual denial, for example) - as a hindrance to one's relationship with God and ability to work through someone. I take this as a theological conclusion, not a philosophical one.
Additionally, the time you spend watching porn is time not spent advancing your mission. When I was on porn, it was usually at night after my family went to bed. Now my evenings are spent talking to guys I disciple, working, commenting on reddit, writing articles for, studying the Bible, working on the house, or any other number of productive activities. Admittedly, sometimes I'm just watching TV instead too :p
Also, the time you spend watching porn is time not spent initiating with your wife. Sure, she can always initiate with you when she feels like it, so you're not necessarily denying her your marital duties. But it is counter-productive if you desire a healthier sex life with her. It may not be a devastating relational break-down the way churchianity makes it seem, and it's not likely to prompt you to file for divorce. But if "normal" requires sin and "better" doesn't, why not go for better?
There are plenty of other reasons I could give here, but my guess is you've already been drilled enough with the benefits of quitting porn (even if some of them are technically misguided) that I don't need to spend too much more time on this.
In all of this, remember that my goal here is not to rationalize watching porn. It's to get you to realize that the rationalizations often given against it are false and will lead to equally destructive sexual patterns in a marriage and on your mission for Christ as a whole. My hope is that you'll walk away from this post not encouraged to watch porn, but feeling less guilty over it. Too many people think "guilt" is a good thing that drives people toward repentance. It doesn't. It coerces behavioral compliance, not heart-change. Live on mission instead.
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2019.08.15 00:52 NotJ3st3r Thursday, August 15th

Today is:

The Assumption of Mary commemorates the taking up—or assumption—of the Virgin Mary's body into heaven after the end of her earthly life. It follows the belief that Mary's body didn't go through a decay process but instead went straight to heaven. It is observed by Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, and Oriental Orthodox churches; most Protestant churches do not observe it. Eastern Orthodox and Eastern Catholic churches celebrate the day as the Dormition of the Mother of God (Dormition of the Theotokos), which can be translated to "the falling asleep of the Mother of God." Observants of the Dormition of the Mother of God believe that Mary's body died a physical death but was then raised like her son was, and was then taken to heaven.
Some writings that date back to the third or fourth century refer to the Assumption of Mary, and by the fifth century, the day was being widely celebrated. In the East, Emperor Maurice established it around 600 CE. In the West, it was celebrated by Pope Sergius in the late seventh or early eighth century, and it was made an official feast by Pope Leo IV in the ninth century. Theological debates over the Assumption took place during the decades that followed.
It wasn't until 1950 that the holiday became part of the dogma of the Catholic Church. The dogmatic definition says that Mary was assumed to heaven after "having completed the course of her earthly life." This doesn't answer the question as to if Mary first died or not, and the topic is still debated by Catholics today. For those who ascribe to the belief that Mary died before being assumed, there are a few stories as to where she died. One account says she died in Ephesus in the House of the Virgin Mary, while an earlier story says that she died in Jerusalem.
The Assumption of Mary is celebrated as a major feast day and is a day of promise to Christians that they too will enter heaven. Religious festivals are held on the day, as are parades, processions, and fireworks displays. It is a public holiday in some countries. In many countries that are predominantly Catholic, it is a holy day of obligation, meaning Mass is to be attended.

I Love Cowboys and Cowgirls Day is a day to honor, reflect on, and celebrate the legacy of cowboys and cowgirls. The dawn of cowboys and cowgirls started with the Spanish, who brought cattle raising traditions and horses to the Americas in the 16th century. The term cowboy, which is the English translation of the Spanish word for vaquero, first appeared in 1725. A vaquero was an "individual who managed cattle while on horseback." The word derives from "vaca", which means "cow". Today, cowboys tend cattle on ranches. Historically, they herded and drove cattle in the West and South, and their role has since become one of legend, being romanticized in Wild West shows, and then in song and film. The first major cattle drives took place in the 1860's, where cattle were driven north to railheads by cowboys, and then transported to slaughterhouses in the north, before their beef was shipped around the country for consumption. Whites, many of whom had participated in the Civil War, African Americans, who many times were treated better in the frontier environment, Mexicans, and American Indians all worked as cowboys. The prototypical cowboy of cattle drives went away with the birth of barbed wire, a harsh winter in 1886-1887 leading to the collapse of the cattle industry, and the expansion of railroads to areas previously out of reach. The conflicts between cowboys and Native Americans in American culture are largely one of myth, and most conflicts involving Native Americans took place with the United States government. Cowgirls perform the same ranch tasks as modern cowboys, but their historic contributions were not well documented. Many women worked on ranches and in some cases ran them. Cowgirls rose in prominence with the rise of Wild West shows and women such as Annie Oakley. The National Cowgirl Hall of Fame and Museum has worked to illuminate the role of cowgirls.

National Best Friends Day is a day for doing something fun with your best friend, such as going to the movies, going shopping, going to a park or restaurant, playing a game, or just hanging out. The day was created by Mistress Susan, who also created National Girlfriends Day. National Best Friends Day was created as a spinoff holiday from it, to be geared towards men. However, over time, men and women both began celebrating the day.

National Failures Day is a day dedicated to examining past failures, and using them to help you achieve success. Throughout history there have been many examples of people who failed at first and later became successful. Just because you have failed once or multiple times does not mean you are ultimately a failure. The fight for success goes on and as long as you keep putting in effort, you are never a failure.

National Lemon Meringue Pie Day is dedicated to the popular dessert, lemon meringue pie. Traditionally, the pie has three components: shortcrust pastry, lemon custard filling, and a meringue topping. These components are in this order, with the meringue on top and the pastry crust on the bottom, and there is no top crust. Lemon has been a flavor for custards and puddings since Medieval Times, but it was not until the 17th century that meringue was invented, being done so in the Swiss village of Meiringen. Meringue usually consists of egg yolks, lemon zest, sugar, and sometimes starch. Lemon meringue pie was invented in the 19th century, with early recipes coming from Romandy, a western part of Switzerland, and possibly Dorset in South West England.

Happy Celebrating
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2019.07.11 19:43 dampkindling Religion, porn, and a probable Madonna/Whore complex

Intro and TL;DR: Ever since we got married 14 years ago, both as virgins (I was 22 and he was 30), my husband has had issues with sex. I myself am oddly uninhibited and very enthusiastic about sex, despite my religious upbringing. It's difficult to exactly describe, and I'll give more details below, but essentially he seems to have a low libido, or at least low interest in sex with *me*, he seems uncomfortable and afraid when it comes to anything other than very straightforward PIV, and I've always had the feeling that the more I enjoy myself and am enthusiastic, the more uncomfortable he gets. There have definitely been exceptions when he was able to relax, but it's not common. He's also had trouble finishing pretty often, starting on our wedding night.

He also has a porn habit, which we used to both see as a problem, due to our religion. I am not a Christian anymore, am very sex positive, and no longer think porn is inherently problematic; but this has only changed for me within the last year. However, for him, I think it has caused issues. Here's how and why: He started looking at some types of porn at around age 13, and continued to do so regularly until it caused problems at his work and sometimes interfered with his studies and sleep in college. Because he is very religious, he was consumed by guilt about his porn usage for all of this time. I also have noticed that it seems as if he doesn't see "real women" in real life as sexual at all. (Side note: He never had a girlfriend until well into his 20s, and then only two very brief relationships before he met me at age 29.) It seems like he's compartmentalized his sexuality, so that it can only be freely expressed via porn and masturbation, but at the same time, he believes that is deeply wrong and sinful and feels the need to repent every time he watches porn (which I think is only once a week or less at this point).

Sex Life
He's always been a very selfish lover. Very. I think that's been exacerbated by the fact that he developed a sort of fear of being unable to reach orgasm during sex, when this happened frequently during our first year of marriage. Between his obvious discomfort with seeing me as a sexual being, and his fear of being unable to finish (which honestly is not a big deal at all to me, but it is to him), I've ended up slightly traumatized by our sex life. It's hard to even write about. Things like:

Current Status
This is all sort of on pause now, because I reached a point a couple of months ago where I told him that I cannot handle having sex with him anymore because I don't feel emotionally safe. At the same time, I insisted that we GET BACK INTO COUPLES COUNSELING. Which we are doing. I'm basically unable to be aroused by him anymore. I'm okay with cuddles, but sexual touch from him makes me very uncomfortable. As soon as I told him this, like immediately, and then increasingly over the last couple months, he became hornier and more interested in sex than I've ever seen him before.

He insists he has "changed" now and won't ever act like he did before. He also says he "doesn't know why" he acted the way he did before, and that it's a total mystery to him. I personally have felt for a long time that he may have some kind of Madonna/Whore complex. He confirmed just a couple days ago (although he says it's only a hypothetical possibility) that he doesn't like it when I'm overtly sexual, because it makes him feel like I'm dirty and slutty like one of "those" girls in porn. I am, actually, "dirty and slutty" in what I consider to be a very good way. I LOVE sex. But for him, it seems like he can't love and respect me, and want me at the same time. Or, he says he can now, but only now that we aren't having sex anymore because I don't want to. My theory is that probably if confronted with the full strength of my sexuality, his desire would probably shut down again pretty quickly.

What is this???
I guess I just wanted to get this written out and I don't exactly have a question other than, does this sound like a plausible reason for all our issues, to you guys? (I am, btw, very sexually attractive. Slightly plump now, but hourglass. When we got married my body was just about "perfect". I say this only to point out that my appearance is not the issue). I don't think he's gay, and it seems very unlikely that he experienced any kind of abuse or trauma as a child. He certainly doesn't remember it, if so. I've been disappointed with this marriage counselor and also the last one we went to for most of last year, in that they don't seem to want to address our sexual issues at all, even when I talk about them very explicitly.

I am actually very much on the verge of leaving him. I can forgive him for how he's treated me, but the damage has been done, and I don't think I can go through years of therapy with him to try to solve these issues. I hope he will on his own, though. This is far from our only issue. If I was still in love with him, I'd keep trying, but there are underlying incompatiblities in worldview, personality, interests, etc. We've grown apart. I still care deeply for him though.
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2019.01.02 22:53 judith_butler_baby Mega-List of Lesbian Movies

Here is a list of some older and/or obscure lesbian movies. This is not a comprehensive list by any means, just me sitting down and going through the alphabet. I tried to put a little description and links to places you might be able to watch online.
A Girl Thing - Showtime mini-series featuring Elle Mcphereson as a straight woman with a crush on another lady. Stories all told through therapy sessions. This is kind of old (2001) and I can only find it on youtube and I'm not even sure if the whole story is there.
Affinity - Sarah Waters novel adapted by the BBC about seances in the 1800's. Couldn't find this streaming anywhere, but it's probably out there somewhere through the BBC.
The Aggressives - About a specific sect of very butch dykes of color who identify as aggressives. Very intriguing and informative but I couldn't find it on any traditional streaming platforms.
Aimee & Jaguar - Takes place during WWII. Jewish girl and SS soldiers wife fall in love. This story is heartbreaking and it's based of a true story that was originally made into a non-fiction novel, and I recommend that too. Currently streaming on Amazon Prime
All Over Me - Teenage girl loves her best friend witnesses a murder and chaos ensues. This is from 1997 and it stars Leisha Haley (later of L Word Fame, and from the band Uh Huh Her). I can't find it streaming on traditional platforms.
And Then Came Lola - Comedy modeled after run lola run. Honestly, this was kinda cheesy, kinda cute. Nothing magnificent (but lots of people complain that we don't have enough romcoms in the lesbian genre, this fits the bill). It's available for rent on Amazon.
Antonia's Line - Told through flashbacks several storylines, only one of them involves lesbians. There is not a lot of lesbian content in this film, but it's a good movie. Amazon has it for rent, and it's available in some obscure streaming sites.
Amour de Femme - French first time movie, really pretty atmosphere etc. Can't find it in traditional streaming sites, but it is located several places online.
April's Shower - Comedy about two women who used to be lovers. One is getting married to a man and her lesbian ex is invited to the bridal shower and hijinks ensue. It's for rent on Amazon
Bar Girls - About picking up women in lesbian bars. This movie is extremely low budget and not very well acted, but it's older so I cut it some slack. Here is an Autostraddle article about it if you are looking for more info. Not available in the typical places.
Better than Chocolate - Two artistic women fall in love in canada. This is an oldie but a goodie. From what I remember, there are no men that complicate the story. It's available for rent at Amazon and to stream at Vudu.
Big Dreams, Little Hope - Friend movie about two gay women trying to get news footage. I'm not going to lie, this movie wasn't that great in my opinion, but that's probably because there was no romance at all.
Bitch Slap - This is a sexploitation move; that's a warning. There is some HLA in this, but not real lesbian emotions or much like that. It's not bad but not good. There is a pretty strong feminist bent to it. It's available to rent at traditional -
Bound - Two women participate in a robbery after falling for each other. Generally consisdered a lesbian classic starring Gina Gershon and Jennifer Tilly (who is an academy award nominee, btw). Free to stream at Amazon Prime.
But I'm a Cheerleader - Another classic. This is a comedy movie about conversion therapy. It's basically the irrevrant precursor to the Miseducation of Cameron Post. Can be rented at major sites like Amazon.
By Hook or By Crook - Mysterious movie about two loners who fall in love. Pretty great movie, btw. Probably the only movie that gives a butch on butch example. It can be rented at Amazon
Chutney Popcorn - a lesbian couple considers giving birth to one of their sister's baby's. This is really domestic and deals with some pretty dated themes, but it's still probably relevant towards lesbians who want to bear children. You can rent it at Amazon or watch it free at some more obscure places.
The Celluloid Closet (Documentary) - This is kind of a must see if you are interested in lesbian & gay cinematic history. Here are some viewing options.
The Children’s Hour - Two heads of a girl school are accused of having a relationship. This is pretty old, and also not extremely well dealt with. I mean, they tried I guess..? Also important from a historical aspect. Viewing Options
Daphne - This is the biographical tale of Daphne DeMaurier, the author. Apparently she had a sapphic love interest in her publisher's wife. It's not widely available, but it was a pretty good movie so it's worth the search.
Desert Hearts - A woman goes to reno to get divorced and she becomes romantically interested in a young woman who is associated with the hotel where she stays. A lesbian classic, and frankly a must see. It's widely available.
Drool - THE HAPPIEST VERSION OF SNAPPED YOU'LL EVER SEE. Seriously though, this movie is worth watching for sure. It's about a woman with an asshole for a husband. She and her lesbian neighbor kill said husband and then go on a road trip with her children. Can't describe in a way that does it justice. It's available at Amazon, youtube, etc for rent.
D.E.B.S. - You've seen D.E.B.S, I mean probably, right? A group of crime solving teenage girls goes to battle with a hot diamond thief (also a girl). One of the good girls and the villain fall in love. It is not amazing in any way, but it's cute and we need genre movies and this is one. It's widely available.
Elena Undone - Pastor's wife falls in love with a lesbian. Warning, this is a Nicole Conn movie, meaning it is cheesy AF. But it's pretty good and the love scenes are pretty hot. Pretty widely available.
Even Cowgirls get the Blues - Tom Robbins novel adapted, very entertaining.
Everything Relative - This is a movie about a group of lesbians who go on a vacation together that acts as a reunion of sorts. It's old, and filmed on a tight budget, but it's really good. Hard to find online, but you can buy it at Wolfe Video for ten bucks.
Edie & Thea: A Very Long Engagement (documentary) - A documentary about Edie Windsor and her wife. Kind of important to the civil rights movement for lesbians and gays.
Foxfire - This is about a group of wayward teenage girls and their lives together. Famous for connecting Jenny Shimizu and Angelina Jolie. It's not OVERLY lesbian, but there is some action. Fine movie, nothing to write home about. It's available for rent in all the traditional places.
Fingersmith - Takes place in historical England. I can't really say much about it without giving too much away. It is a very intriguing story. It's available at Amazon and Apple tv for free streaming, and it's a must see.
Fire - I really love this movie, but I have met others who can't stand it. It's about two women in India who are a part of arranged marriages (they are mother & daughter in-law). I found it to be beautiful and complex and totally worth watching. Trailer It's not available in the traditional places, but you can find it if you try.
The Four Faced Liar - A tale in which a straight lady falls in love with player lesbian. For some reason the cheating in this movie threw me off. It was okay though. You can rent it in all the traditional places.
French Twist - A straight woman married to a man invites a butch lesbian to move into their house to get back at him after she learns he had an affair. This movie is pretty cute. It's been a while since I have seen it, but I do remember thinking it was pretty adorable, however I am not remembering if the women end up together, so it's possible there is no happy ending. Amazon has it for rent.
Fucking Amal (Show me Love) - High school girls fall in love. It's a pretty great coming of age story, it takes place in Sweden in the 90s.
Gia - Starring Anjelina Jolie and the chick from lost, true story about 80's lesbian supermodel who is unfortunately addicted to drugs. This is totally worth watching. It's free on Amazon and can be rented on youtube for 99 cents.
Girl PLay - Two lesbians fall in love after being cast in a play. I don't remember this being mind blowing or anything. You can watch it on Wolfe on Demand.
The Girl) - Mystery, takes place in France. It's about a really androgynous girl who starts a relationship with a high femme who is maybe a prostitute? It's hard to find, and only so-so. But if you really like mysteries and butch/femme dynamic, it's worth tracking down.
Goldfish Memory - Tells many stories of people dating in Ireland. Another romantic comedy. FYI there are other relationships depicted, but the lesbian duo are kind of the main storyline. It's harder to find also. Not an amazing film by any means, but track it down if you like Irish girls and movies about quirky dating.
Guardians of the Frontier - Three girls river raft for the summer, two of them fall in love. This movie has a very creepy tone to it. It was well done, but it is really hard to find. Track it down if you like suspenseful movies that are moody and beautifully shot.
The Gymnast - Two gymnasts fall in love when they work on an arial routine. There is not much plot to this movie, it's one of those convert the straight lady movies. It was well done and worth watching, but not a favorite or anything.
Gypo - I really loved this movie. It's about an English family, the mom is super overworked and under appreciated. Her daughter brings home a friend who is an immigrant (there's weird tension about the friend being accepted). The mom and the friend form a kind of bond and become friends. The friend wants the mom. It's complicated and well done. I'm not finding it easily, but if you like this sort of thing you should try!
Hannah Free - An old lady is dying and tells her story about her lover to her lovers grandkid. It's kinda sad and focuses on the forces that kept them apart for so many years. It's hard to find, but worth a try if you want to get some historical perspective.
High Art - This is about a photographer and a woman who works for a photography magazine meeting and falling in love. It's pretty melodramatic, but it's probably considered a lesbian classic by this point. It's available in all the traditional places.
I can't think Straight - Two women fall for each other against cultural constraints in London. It's available on most of the mainstream sites for rent. This is a cute film and worth watching for sure.
I have heard the Mermaids Singing - Candian movie. I'm not going to lie, this was hard for me to get into. It's slow and arty and purposefully weird. It's a classic, and it's good if you're into weird movies. It's gonna take some searching to find.
Itty Bitty Titty Committee - On paper, I should love this movie. I do not. It is about a group of counter-culture women, mostly lesbians, who are enmeshed in protest culture. They are like a protest gang, I guess. I want to love it, but I don't. I'm sure you can find it out there.
Imagine me and You - You've undoubtedly seen this movie.
In her Line of Fire - Mariel Hemmingway saves a hottie. I think I just like Mariel Hemmingway! This movie is kind of terrible, lol. You can rent it at Amazon.
Inescapable - Terrible plot, lots of sex. This movie is also only about lesbians, even though they are all cheating on each other, that's kind of refreshing - no? Hard to recommend this one, but it's on the list anyway.
If These Walls Could Talk 2 - One house, three generations of lesbians. In this movie, Sharon Stone and Ellen Degeneres get naked and have sex. So do Chloe Sevigny & Michelle Williams. The first segement is gut wrenching, but very well acted. You should watch it, for sure, but it might take some searching to find.
The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love - This is an adorable movie, and for sure a lesbian classic. It's about two girls who fall in love in high school.
It's in the Water - A town turns gay. No, I'm joking. But one lady does turn gay. This is pretty funny and cute. You can rent it on Amazon.
Kissing Jessica Stein - This movie is borderline lesbian. It's about a straight lady who starts a relationship with a woman. There are some good jokes, and I think they did a pretty good job handling the subject matter without being rude (it's been a while since I've seen the movie, tbh). It's available widely.
Late Bloomers - Beautiful story of two 40-somethings falling in love. I absolutely love this movie, it's one of my favorite lesbian films. Neither of the characters is like model hot or anything, so if that's why you watch lesbian movies, give this one a pass. It's available on most streaming sites.
La Repetition - Great acting, kinda boring plot. It's like single white female but where the lesbian part is a little more explicit. So predatory lesbian trope is very prevalent.
Lost and Delirious - Movie about two girls at a boarding school who are together. Bad things happen, and this ends very sad. You can rent it on youtube.
Loving Annabelle - Another boarding school movie! This time the action is between an outgoing student and a shy, closeted teacher. It's on Netflix and available other places for a fee.
Lesbians of Buenos Ares (Documentary) - awesome if you want to know about lesbian lives in latin america 5/5
Maggie & Annie - Extremely low budget, lol. It's about a straight lady who joins a softball time and finds out that she is not actually straight! It's kind of hard to find.
Mango Kiss - Kinda strange and kinky, lotsa role play etc. I did not really like this movie, but I know plenty of others who do. It's not widely available and will take some searching to find.
My Mother Likes Women - I really enjoyed this movie, even though the focus isn't really the lesbian. It's more about her daughters, but it was funny and well done.
My Summer of Love - Two straight girls sorta fall in love. I'm not the biggest fan of this movie, but other people seem to really love it. Maybe cuz it has Emily Blunt? IDK.
Nina's Heavenly Delights - An indian woman tries to save her dad's restaurant and she falls in love with a woman in the meantime. This is a cute movie and worth watching. You can rent it on Amazon or stream in some more obscure places.
November Moon - A Jewish woman hides from the Nazi's in France and falls in love with the woman protecting her. This was a great movie. It is sad and beautiful and if I remember correctly, it has a happy ending. You can rent it on VUDU.
Oranges are not the Only Fruit - Janette Winterson Novel adapted and it's truly great, just like the book. It's about a young girl growing up in an extremely religious environment. It was a tv mini-series and it's kinda hard to find now, but not impossible.
Out at the Wedding - People in the family think the sister is gay, but it's really the bride. This is a cute little rom-com, be warned that the lesbians are side characters (but crucial to the plot).
Out of Season - Kind of awkward movie about a lesbian taking care of her uncle. It has been a long time since I have seen this movie and it is pretty hard to find.
Portrait of a Marriage - This is a tv mini-series about Vita Sackville-West and her lover (not Virginia Woolf, another lady). It was written by her son. It's well done, for sure - but hard to find.
Producing Adults - This is a movie about a woman who wants a baby, but her boyfriend doesn't. Their relationships starts falling apart as a result and she starts feeling attracted to the woman who helps her with IVF. It was good.
The Sea Purple - Two women fall in love and then lots of gender bending. I'm not sure if you would call this trans, but it's kinda trans. This is a weird movie, not gonna lie. It's available to stream and rent with a little searching.
Room in Rome - Two strangers have sex over and over again. There are some emotional moments, but lets be honest - this movie is about watching two beautiful women have sex.
Salmonberries - KD land is trying to find out who her father is in Kotzebue Alaska. This movie is mysterious and weird, but I did like it. It's very hard to find.
Sappho (also called Summer Lover) - A woman goes to Greece with her husband and they are kinda twisted. She becomes kind of obsessed with a woman there and they become lovers. This movie wasn't the greatest, tbh.
Saving Face - Loving story about an Chinese girl and her mother and there love lives. Most people really like this movie, if you haven't seen it - you should. It's widely available.
The Secrets - Great story about orthodox Jewish girls, but this is really sad too. It's free on Amazon.
Southern Comfort (documentary) - Heart breaking doc about trans people in the American South. Available on Amazon.
Spider Lillies - This is an interesting movie. There are some dark parts. It takes place in Taiwan and it's basically about loss. It's not super easy to find.
The Sticky Fingers of Time - Time travel and lesbian authors mix! This is a great movie, but it's hard to find. Here is a trailer.
Tipping the Velvet - Sarah Waters novel translated to BBC mini-series, you've seen this right? What are you waiting for?
Treading Water - Complications between a wealthy family and the son's shrink/daughter's lover. This is melodramatic, for sure. It's available on Amazon.
Unveiled - Woman flees the middle east and assumes identity of a man. She begins working in a factory and develops a connection with a female worker there. This is a really great movie.
The Village Affair - Two women fall in love and the town is upset about it. This is a comedy, really, in spite of the subject matter. It's not easy to find, but it's out there.
When Night is Falling - Circus performer and Christian College professor fall in love. This is a lesbian classic and it is widely available.
Water Lillies - French movie about synchronized swimmers. It's super edgy and atmospheric.
Watermelon Woman - complicated film about searching for an actress and racism.
The World Unseen - Indian women in South Africa, very touching. It's pretty widely available and stars the same two actresses as the ones in the movie I Can't Think Straight, mentioned above.
Always remember that Wolfe Video is a pretty good place to look for lesbian movies that you can't find elsewhere. is a search engine that will look through major streaming sites for titles and aggregate the data for you.
And - if feel free to add to this!
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2018.10.10 14:58 eventbot What's happening around town (Wed, Oct 10th - Tue, Oct 16th)

Oklahoma City's event list.

Wednesday, Oct 10th

  • 🎓 2018 OU WaTER SYMPOSIUM (Molly Shi Boren Ballroom - Norman) Start Time: 6:30pm The WaTER Center will host the 2018 OU WaTER Symposium on Wednesday, October 10, to help address the world water challenge. Leading experts from…
  • 🎨 American Indian Artists: 20th Century Masters (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) Thru Fri, Oct 12th Start Time: 10:00am September 1 – May 12, 2019 American Indian Artists: 20th Century Masters As Lakota artist Oscar Howe wrote in 1958, “There is much more to…
  • Arctic Monkeys (The Criterion - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Cuco (Tower Theatre Studio - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm J-Kwe$t
  • Dungeons & Dragons (Edmond Unplugged - Edmond) Start Time: 7:00pm A City on the Edge with Ashley King No Cost Beginners and experienced players welcome Pre-made characters will be available No outside food and…
  • Erwin Redl Artist Talk (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Please join us for an artist talk with Erwin Redl at 21c Museum Hotel, in partnership with Oklahoma Contemporary. The talk is presented in…
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Oct 13th
  • 🎨 Hard Hat Tours (Film Row - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 11:00am West Village is the central location for premiere social living in OKC’s downtown lifestyle, and for the first time ever, you can experience the…
  • Live Music- Carter Sampson (Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:30pm
  • Lyric Theatre - When We're Gone: World Premiere Musical (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Oct 14th Start Time: 7:30pm Set in plague-ridden 14th Century London, this musical follows the life of Todd, an angsty teen whose greatest desire is…
  • Mipso (ACM @ UCO - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Mipso: [email protected] Metro Music Showcase (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Mistletoe Market (Cox Convention Center - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Oct 13th Find fantastic gifts and everything for the holidays at Oklahoma City's Mistletoe Market. This four day sale has become…
  • 🏆 OU Volleyball vs. Texas Tech (McCasland Field House - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • 🎨 Painting Workshop - Connie Seabourn (The Depot - Norman) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 9:30am Connie Seabourn will teach her 5th "Wonderful Watercolors" workshop at The Depot, 200 S. Jones, on Wednesday and Thursday, October 10 & 11, 2018…
  • 🎓 Pumpkinville presented by OGE Energy Corp (Myriad Botanical Gardens - Oklahoma City) Thru Fri, Oct 12th Start Time: 10:00am Pumpkinville presented by OGE Sponsored by Express Employment Professionals, E.L. & Thelma Gaylord Foundation, Tapstone Energy, Delta Dental and…
  • 😂 Ralphie Roberts (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Oct 13th
  • 🎨 Sam Noble Museum • "Native America" PBS Series - Free Screening (Sam Noble Museum - Norman) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • 🏆 Wednesday Game Night (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Play the games you love for jackpots and then play more games you love for Extra Cash & Prizes on Game Night at Remington Park, every Wednesday!…
  • 🎨 Western Movie Matinee on Wide Open Wednesday (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 1:00pm Dub and Mozelle Richardson Theater
    Join us for these curated selections made possible with support from an anonymous donor and Oklahoma City…
  • Wild Weather Camp (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 10:30am October 10 and October 31, 2018 10:30 a.m. The Museum hosts David Payne’s Wild Weather Camp, a fun and interactive weather safety program…

Thursday, Oct 11th

  • 😂 1ST ANNUAL OKC COMEDY FESTIVAL (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City)
  • 🏆 $25 Dinner for 2 (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm
  • 🎨 American Indian Artists: 20th Century Masters (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am September 1 – May 12, 2019 American Indian Artists: 20th Century Masters As Lakota artist Oscar Howe wrote in 1958, “There is much more to…
  • 🎨 Artist's Reception for Rick McClure (Howell Gallery - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 5:00pm The Howell Gallery presents new work by Rick McClure. In 2004 ​Southwest​ ​Art Magazine​ haled Rick McClure as an artist to watch, and the…
  • Bartok/Ravel Operas • Bluebeard's Castle and L'Enfant et Les Sortliegès (in French) (Reynolds Performing Arts Center - Norman) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Crown of Beauty Gala (Farmer's Market - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:30pm Join The Dragonfly Home for our 3rd annual Crown of Beauty Gala, supporting life-saving, life-transforming services for survivors of human…
  • Danny Gokey in Concert (Rose State College Hudiburg Chevrolet Center - Midwest City) Former American Idol contestant Danny Gokey took home third place in season eight, the first of many accodales for the pop…
  • 🏃 Day of the Girl presented by Athleta OKC (Myriad Botanical Gardens - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 11:00am Thursday, October 11, 11am The Pavilion Lawn FREE but registration required here October 11th is International Day of the Girl! We want to…
  • Elizabeth Speegle Band (Saints - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Oct 13th
  • 🎨 Harvest / Juried Group Art Exhibition (DNA galleries - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm A juried group show featuring 42 Oklahoma artists working with a common theme. Exhibition Opening + Artist Reception: Thursday, October 11th //…
  • Lyric Theatre - When We're Gone: World Premiere Musical (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Oct 14th Start Time: 7:30pm Set in plague-ridden 14th Century London, this musical follows the life of Todd, an angsty teen whose greatest desire is…
  • Mistletoe Market (Cox Convention Center - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Oct 13th Find fantastic gifts and everything for the holidays at Oklahoma City's Mistletoe Market. This four day sale has become…
  • Native Seed Collecting (Myriad Botanical Gardens - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Thursday, October 11, 6-7:30pm Oklahoma Prairie Garden Member $8; Nonmember $12 Bill Farris, Prairie Wind Nursery Register by Monday, October 8…
  • 🎨 Painting Workshop - Connie Seabourn (The Depot - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 9:30am Connie Seabourn will teach her 5th "Wonderful Watercolors" workshop at The Depot, 200 S. Jones, on Wednesday and Thursday, October 10 & 11, 2018…
  • PASSION Worship NIghts (Crossings Community Church - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:00pm After a successful run of dates this past spring, Passion will be headed out again this fall for the latest round of "Passion Worship Nights,"…
  • 🎓 Pumpkinville presented by OGE Energy Corp (Myriad Botanical Gardens - Oklahoma City) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am Pumpkinville presented by OGE Sponsored by Express Employment Professionals, E.L. & Thelma Gaylord Foundation, Tapstone Energy, Delta Dental and…
  • 😂 Ralphie Roberts (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Oct 13th
  • Saints Sessions (Saints - Oklahoma City) Head to the Plaza District each Thursday for an evening of Saints Sessions programming. Visit Saints Pub in Oklahoma City on…
  • Saints Sessions (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) Saints Sessions are the home of the OKC Jazz Scene.
    Saints Sessions go down every Thursday at Saints in the Plaza District, but the big ones are…
  • Sam Noble Museum • Spike's Club: Birds, Birds, Birds! (Sam Noble Museum - Norman) Start Time: 4:00pm
  • 😂 The Second City (Oklahoma City Repertory Theatre - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm On October 11th 2018, Chicago’s legendary sketch and improv comedy theater will delight laugh lovers in a special fundraising performance to…
  • The Second City: A Fundraising Benefit (Tower Theatre Studio - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:00pm On October 11, 2018, Chicago's legendary sketch and improv comedy theater will delight laugh lovers in a special fundraising performance to benefit…
  • SeepeopleS (Park House - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • 🎓 Moore Toastmasters (1st United Methodist Church - Moore) Start Time: 7:00pm Do you cringe at the thought of being in front of a room communicating? Maybe you have no idea how to construct your thoughts for your next…
  • 🎓 Transfer Central (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond)
  • Travis Greene (Crossings Community Church - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm
  • Chickasha U.S. Cellular Store Hosting Customer Appreciation Celebration (U.S. Cellular - Chickasha) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am U.S. Cellular is once again thanking its customers with a Customer Appreciation Celebration at the Chickasha store. From Oct. 11 through Oct. 13,…
  • 🎓 Norman U.S. Cellular Store Hosting Customer Appreciation Celebration (U.S. Cellular - Norman) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am U.S. Cellular is once again thanking its customers with a Customer Appreciation Celebration at the Norman store. From Oct. 11 through Oct. 14,…
  • 🎓 U.S. Cellular Store Hosting Customer Appreciation Celebration (U.S. Cellular - Edmond) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am U.S. Cellular is once again thanking its customers with a Customer Appreciation Celebration at Oklahoma City area stores. From Oct. 11 through Oct.…

Friday, Oct 12th

  • 2nd Friday Norman Art Walk (Norman Arts District - Norman) The 2nd Friday Norman Art Walk, a monthly celebration of the arts in Norman, connects the downtown arts district with…
  • 🎓 Edmond Ambucs Friday Luncheon (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Start Time: 12:00pm The Edmond Chapter Ambucs “creating mobility & independence for people with disabilities” hosts a weekly luncheon every Friday. Please join us…
  • 🎨 American Indian Artists: 20th Century Masters (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am September 1 – May 12, 2019 American Indian Artists: 20th Century Masters As Lakota artist Oscar Howe wrote in 1958, “There is much more to…
  • 🏆 Central OK: University of Central Oklahoma Women's Volleyball vs Central Missouri (Edmond) Start Time: 6:00pm University of Central Oklahoma Women's Volleyball vs Central Missouri
  • EdFest (Festival Marketplace - Edmond) Start Time: 6:00pm Local flavor is the name of the game at EdFest in Edmond. Come out to this street festival featuring local food trucks,…
  • 🎓 Fred Jones Jr. Museum - Art Deco and The American West • Symposium (Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art - Norman) Start Time: 9:00am
  • 🎭 Free Zumba (Guthrie Library - Guthrie) Start Time: 5:00pm Join our dancing Librarian for an hour long, music filled dance party. Space is limited, please RSVP. The City of Guthrie, OK - Municipal…
  • Ghost The Musical (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Oct 27th This October, head to the Pollard Theatre in Guthrie for Ghost: The Musical. Adapted from the hit film "Ghost,"…
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) 1 day left
  • LIVE on the Plaza (Oklahoma City) In Oklahoma City's Plaza District, every second Friday is LIVE on the Plaza, an art walk featuring local artists, live…
  • Lyric Theatre - When We're Gone: World Premiere Musical (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Oct 14th Start Time: 7:30pm Set in plague-ridden 14th Century London, this musical follows the life of Todd, an angsty teen whose greatest desire is…
  • Melinda Doolittle (Civic Center Music Hall - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2 The Oklahoma City Philharmonic's Pops Concert Series welcomes Melinda Doolittle for their season opener. Doolittle, the…
  • Mistletoe Market (Cox Convention Center - Oklahoma City) 1 day left Find fantastic gifts and everything for the holidays at Oklahoma City's Mistletoe Market. This four day sale has become…
  • 🎓 OESC Fall Job Fair (Chevy Bricktown Events Center - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 10:00am The Oklahoma Employment Security Commission (OESC) invites the general public to attend its 44th Semi-Annual Job Fair from 10 a.m. until 3 p.m. on…
  • OKC Fall RV Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Oct 14th The OKC Fall RV Show is your chance to get the best deals on all 2018 models of RVs with the latest innovations on all types; motorhomes, travel…
  • OKC Live Tattoo Expo (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Oct 14th The OKC Live Tattoo Expo features more than 35 tattoo artists prepared to create new ink throughout the convention. Book an…
  • 🎓 Pumpkinville presented by OGE Energy Corp (Myriad Botanical Gardens - Oklahoma City) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am Pumpkinville presented by OGE Sponsored by Express Employment Professionals, E.L. & Thelma Gaylord Foundation, Tapstone Energy, Delta Dental and…
  • 😂 Ralphie Roberts (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City) 1 day left
  • Sprouting Chefs: Pumpkin Seed Walkup (Myriad Botanical Gardens - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 2:00pm Friday, October 12, 2-4pm Pumpkinville Program Tent $4 per jar All ages welcome Learn how to make an easy, healthy, tasty golden treat from pumpkin…
  • Surreptitious: The After Work Social Mixer (Avenue 101 - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 5:00pm $10 Fishbowls $3 Hennessy Black $1 Beers $10 Hookah ($5 the 1st Hour) 3 Wine ::NO COVER::
  • Terror on 10th Street Haunted House (Oklahoma City) Thru Wed, Oct 31st A nightmare waits around every corner at the Terror on 10th Street Haunted House. Come face your worst fears at the 14th…
  • Thomas Rhett: Life Changes Tour 2018 (Chesapeake Energy Arena - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:30pm THOMAS RHETT Current multi-CMA nominee and ACM Awards Male Vocalist of the Year Thomas Rhett will kick off his Life Changes Tour 2018 in Oklahoma…
  • Thomas Rhett - Upgrade VIP Packages (Chesapeake Energy Arena - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:31pm
  • Chickasha U.S. Cellular Store Hosting Customer Appreciation Celebration (U.S. Cellular - Chickasha) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am U.S. Cellular is once again thanking its customers with a Customer Appreciation Celebration at the Chickasha store. From Oct. 11 through Oct. 13,…
  • 🎓 Norman U.S. Cellular Store Hosting Customer Appreciation Celebration (U.S. Cellular - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am U.S. Cellular is once again thanking its customers with a Customer Appreciation Celebration at the Norman store. From Oct. 11 through Oct. 14,…
  • 🎓 U.S. Cellular Store Hosting Customer Appreciation Celebration (U.S. Cellular - Edmond) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am U.S. Cellular is once again thanking its customers with a Customer Appreciation Celebration at Oklahoma City area stores. From Oct. 11 through Oct.…
  • Vintage CountrE Market (Lazy E Arena - Guthrie) Day 1 of 2 The Vintage CountrE Market features 70,400 square feet of vendors selling unique antiques, junk and industrial products.…
  • 🏆 Vintage CountrE Market 2 (Lazy E Arena - Guthrie) Start Time: 12:00pm Join us at he Lazy E Arena for Vintage Countre Market 2. Our Fall show will feature a vast variety of vendors featuring junk and antiques, to…
  • Waterfall Festival (Moore) Day 1 of 2 Deck out in Hawaiian-inspired attire for the annual Waterfall Festival at Garden Ponds and Aquariums Unlimited in Moore.…

Saturday, Oct 13th

  • Adele Wolf's Burlesque & Variety Show Annual Halloween Spectacular (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Get into the Halloween spirit with internationally acclaimed and award winning burlesque performers at Adele Wolf’s…
  • Moore Arts & Crafts Festival (Moore Central Park - Moore) Head to Moore for a day spent immersed in arts and crafts. At the Moore Central Park Multi-Purpose Pavilion, 25 vendors will…
  • Body Worx Car Show (Beacon Drive In Theatre - Guthrie) Head to Guthrie to inspect the shiny and well-recognized cars on display. During the Body Worx Car Show, guests can…
  • Cameo in Concert (Riverwind Casino - Norman) Funk band Cameo has sold more than 20 million records over the last four decades. Fan can relive top hits off the band's…
  • Cody Jinks (The Criterion - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Cool Autumn Nights Car Show (Oklahoma City) If you love cars and car shows, head to Incredible Pizza for the Cool Autumn Nights car show hosted by the Oklahoma Mustang…
  • Fort Reno Ghost Tours (Historic Fort Reno - El Reno) Come along on an exciting and spooky ghost tour at El Reno's historic Fort Reno. This ghost tour includes plenty of…
  • Ghost The Musical (Pollard Theatre - Guthrie) Thru Sat, Oct 27th This October, head to the Pollard Theatre in Guthrie for Ghost: The Musical. Adapted from the hit film "Ghost,"…
  • Grand National & World Championship Morgan Horse Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Last Day
  • Heritage Hills Historic Home Tour (Overholser Mansion - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2 The Heritage Hills Historic Home Tour has been a staple Oklahoma City fall activity for over 50 years and provides a unique…
  • OK Kids Korral 5K (Andy Alligator's Fun Park & Water Park - Norman) Join the second annual OK Kids Korral 5K Run and "A Mile In Their Boots" Walk this October. The race will start…
  • Lyric Theatre - When We're Gone: World Premiere Musical (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) 1 day left Start Time: 7:30pm Set in plague-ridden 14th Century London, this musical follows the life of Todd, an angsty teen whose greatest desire is…
  • Melinda Doolittle (Civic Center Music Hall - Oklahoma City) Day 2 of 2 The Oklahoma City Philharmonic's Pops Concert Series welcomes Melinda Doolittle for their season opener. Doolittle, the…
  • Mid-America Street Fest (Charles J. Johnson Central Park Town Center - Midwest City) Come enjoy live entertainment, contests, vendors and much more at the Mid-America Street Fest in Midwest City. Held in…
  • Mistletoe Market (Cox Convention Center - Oklahoma City) Last Day Find fantastic gifts and everything for the holidays at Oklahoma City's Mistletoe Market. This four day sale has become…
  • Mix on Main (Norman) Enjoy the fall air of a cool late October evening strolling down Main Street in Norman for the Mix on Main. Designed to get…
  • OKC Fall RV Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) 1 day left The OKC Fall RV Show is your chance to get the best deals on all 2018 models of RVs with the latest innovations on all types; motorhomes, travel…
  • OKC Live Tattoo Expo (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) 1 day left The OKC Live Tattoo Expo features more than 35 tattoo artists prepared to create new ink throughout the convention. Book an…
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2018.08.07 19:34 Red-Curious My testimony and RP-imony

A while back there was some conversation about what type of content you all would like to see more of on this sub, and one thing that came up was sharing testimonies and how God brought us to where we are today. I put it off for a while, but here goes.
False Spiritual Security
Picture the most arrogant know-it-all you've ever met in your entire life - the kind of person who sits on a high horse, looking down at all the peons wondering how they survive with such puny brains. Have you ever met someone like that? That was me. Even worse, I convinced myself that God had gifted me with such great intelligence because he wanted me to solve everyone else's problems, accomplishing what psychologists, philosophers, and theologians had failed to do for centuries. Nothing was ever truer of me in those times than Romans 1:22 - "Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools."
My journey to this dark destination began early on. When I was in kindergarten I learned a very dangerous lesson: if you have all the right answers, they will like you and praise you for it. Three decades later, I'm still struggling between the truth and the lie in this statement. The truth is that people will praise me if I can give them all the right answers. The lie is that their praise should matter to me.
Believing this lie, I spent my younger years in a sinful frenzy, trying to learn everything I could about God's Word, theology, church history, and the like. I was among those who would have cried out, "Lord, Lord," and yet he would respond, "I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoier!" I knew a lot about God, but I didn't know God, and my motive was selfish gain. I honored God with my lips, but my heart was far from him.
Knowledge was everything, and I had amassed a following of people who were intrigued by the things I had to say - though not necessarily because they believed any of it. I recall high school days sitting in the cafeterie across a table from an atheist, amidst several classmates. I had become known as "[name] the Christian" and my adversary was "[same name] the Pagan." We debated hot topics between Christians and atheists. The arguments never went anywhere, nor do I believe anyone was ever persuded to Christ because of them, but they displaye dto everyone the true desire of my heart at that time: recognition for my intelligence.
I didn't care whether people saw me as an outcast. I could find scriptural support for being "in the world, but not of the world." But I did want people to recognize that I was not like them - and I wanted them to know why. Unfortunately, the answer wasn't because of the transforming work of Jesus Christ in my life. It was my belief that I was smarter than them - that because I had a deeper understanding of God, somehow I was better than they were. Needless to say, it wasn't until many years later that I realized what was going on.
Ironically, virtually all my arguments and political stances that I held at that time have changed. Some of my present views are not even remotely similar - showing a testament to the fact that I was not as intelligent as I once thought. That's not to say that I'm any more accurate about myself today. I'm simply more careful with how I evalute myself now, doing everything I can to avoid self-deception.
Confrontation With My Sin
It was not until college that Christ truly took hold of my life. At first, I realized that I could no longer ride my parents' coattails. Faith had to become personal. So, in my arrogant effort to be a "super Christian," I joined every single organization on campus that had anything to do with Jesus, attending Bible studies with three of them.
One Bible study in particualr struck my interest. There were a group of guys with Cru (then-known as Campus Crusade for Christ) who met weekly to discuss various topics. One of the leaders, Brian, referenced it as a group of "mini-theologians" in the way we discussed depth of material, although I now see that it was often lacking in application.
One particular night, we were having a uniquely in-depth conversation on the issues of predestination and free-will - something I had spent most of my high school years studying (in vain). Toward the end of our discussion, Randy, the other leader, asked to speak with me privately afterward.
This moment was the height of my pride. Most people would have taken it as, "Uh oh, I'm getting called to the principal's office." I legitimately thought to myself, "He wants me to teach him more about all my great ideas and theories." I kid you not. This is what I was actually thinking. Instead, he stood in my doorway to my dorm room, paused for what seemed like forever, and ultimately muttered: "Red-Curious, I think you struggle with pride."
"Of course I struggle with pride," I said. "We all do. It's the root of all sin. Everyone struggles with it. So, I'll work on that; you can work on that; we can all work on it together. Maybe we can talk about it at group next week." I blew him off. It wasn't until three days later, noticing that I was still furious at him for saying such a thing, that I realized he was right. This realization didn't come from Randy's words, but from the Holy Spirit's conviction against my sin - something I hadn't felt in my life until that time, despite my upbringing and prior professions of repentance.
This conviction wasn't a feeling of guilt at doing something wrong, nor was it some intellectual understanding of my misguided way of living. It was a submissive attitude of wanting to overcome the entire foundation of the last eighteen years of my life in order to become what I now knew God had always intended for me. The sad part is that I thought I had already become all that. This was the foundation of repentance.
Turning From My Sin
In the beginning of my sophomore year of college a man named Justin, who led the Navigators ministry, began mentoring me on-on-one. This process began with teaching me the balance between an all-head and all-heart Christian, and how I had swung extremely too far to one side. He helped me readjust that by focusing on my heart alone. He said, "Red-Curious, after getting to know you last year, it's clear that you know more about the Bible than 95% of Christians - even seminary-trained pastors. You don't need any more knowledge than you already have - and your thirst for more is going to keep poisoning your heart. You need to start using and applying what God's given you before you go back to learning." So, he instructed me not to listen to any sermons, participate in in-person or online debates, avoid Christian chat rooms, not to study the Bible (though daily quiet times were still okay), and to avoid virtually anything else that would intellectually stimulate a Christian.
Through his efforts, I actually went too far on the other side by the end of that year. I even recall at least two instances in which I saw people debating spiritual topics the same way I had once done, which caused me physically to vomit in disgust - not at these people, but in realizing what I once was before I had committed myself to Christ. This is what it is like to see your sin for what it is, and it gave a whole new meaning to Philippians 3:7-9 and 2 Peter 2:20-22.
Since then, I have continued to strive to live in the delicate middle point between the head and the heart, though my upbringing always has me leaning toward the head side if I'm not careful - and I encourage everyone not to make any assumptions about how often I'm careful.
Transformative Discipleship
After finding a reasonable balance in my life on these points, Justin continued to pour his life into me through one-on-one discipleship, and I absorbed every bit of knowledge, vision, passion, and desire from him that he had to bestow. In fact, a vast majority of the principles I teach here are rooted in the things I learned from him, which is why I always emphasize the importance and value of discipleship.
I was the "Godly offspring" Malachi 2:15 was talking about - the fruit of the union between Justin and the Holy Spirit. As awkward as it may be to say, Justin saw fit to glorify Christ by acting like a bride to him and a mother to me, nurturing me in my needs, teaching me right from wrong, and training me toward self-sufficiency. More importantly, he also gave me a mission: to glorify God by advancing the Gospel of Jesus and His Kingdom into the nations through spiritual generations of workers and laborers living and discipling among the lost.
But not everyone has a Justin in their life. I didn't for almost 20 years. Even since graduating college, after which Justin became a missionary in Thailand, my efforts to seek a constant discipleship authority over me have often failed. So, I determined that if I could not find a willing one-on-one authority over me, I would create one. I would raise up a man so passionate about advancing God's Kingdom that I would one day follow him. I have since created at least 4 such men, who I could list by name and who have all now scattered to different parts of our nation to share the same mission God implanted in me - and they are doing far greater things than I have ever done. I now look to them to advise me, where they once looked to me for that role.
Of course, this was done in the context of pursuing Christ personally and directly. I learned a long time ago that if you're not growing toward Christ, it will be impossible to teach anyone else to do the same.
My Early Alpha
My early arrogance had developed an inherently alpha presence about me. That's not to say you can't be arrogant and beta simultaneously, which is quite common; rather, that my specific expression of pride caused me to believe that I was better than everyone else in very profound ways. This instilled a sense of confidence in everything that I did, assuming inherently that I was the prize. I wasn't. But my attitude was attractive nonetheless. I was also pretty darn in shape in those days. I'm slightly stronger today, but in those days I had the strength and thinness (under 10% BF).
I had hordes of women hanging over me in my early college years - and more who I didn't even find out were interested in me until years later. My freshman year of college, before I was saved, I started dating a nympho. She was hot and had dozens of guys all over her all the time. Literally. She cheated on me with dozens of guys - probably close to 30 in the 9 months that we dated. You'd think that would be a crude RP-awakening for me, although "the red pill" didn't even exist in those days (reddit hadn't even been created yet). She cheated because I wouldn't sleep with her until marriage, despite how she begged and pleaded.
Over and above all of this, I had a biblical view of marriage, family, etc. and did not succumb to the Disney fantasy that plagued most people. In fact, one of my points of pride was that I saw through the deception of the world and held myself to a higher biblical standard. I embraced the futility of marriage and relationships, but my desire for sexuality at the same time. In many ways, I was back then everything that I am today, as far as PR-awareness.
I Lost It
Then I actually started dating my wife. I remember having journaled quite a bit about three girls I was interested in at the time. One was a non-Chrisitan who only made the list because of her persistence and how attracted I was to her - and she promised to convert for me. Another was already with another guy at the time. I could have pursued her, but the third was already available and was overall a better choice: better looking, better financial prospects (i.e. no debt, working toward a high-paying job), had a clear biblical attitude about marriage roles, etc. So, the choice seemed pretty easy.
We started dating two weeks before I graduated college. I saw her a bit that summer, but ultimately moved over 750 miles away. We were in an LTR for an entire year, then both moved to another city to attend graduate school together. We were married after my first year of law school, when she finished her 1-year master's degree in accounting and had a stable job lined up.
This is where it all went wrong. I was hopping between disciplers, being short of viable options for godly men to follow. Both of them were ruled by their wives under the guise of serving them. This was a bad influence. On top of that, I had recently brought a guy to Christ and he started going to church, so I went with him to monitor what he was learning. It turned out to be a PC-USA church (liberal denomination). My wife and I were actually married in that church. Although we were both very theologically and politically conservative, the liberal influence did start to grate away at our perceptions of what marriage should look like. My wife felt more and more empowered, and I felt more and more responsible for empowering her - which is amplified when you've got a wife who at the time is the primary breadwinner (I still had 2 more years of law school left at that point). In short, she began running the show.
Dead Bedroom
For the first 8 years of our marriage I saw a steady decline in our relationship. Sexual activity was high when we were first married, but after 6 months it was dead. Things rejuvinated when we were trying to get pregnant, but it was so passionless that I would start masturbating to porn after having sex with her because of how unfulfilling sex was. I literally felt like I was just a sperm donor whose only job was to drop a load so she could get pregnant.
For the years that followed, we had 4 children in rapid succession, so she was pregnant for large amounts of time. For the last trimester of pregnancy (3 months) and the 2 months after pregnancy, sex was either unappealing or unadvisable, which with 4 kids made up 20 months - almost 2 years from that alone. From August 2014 to February 2016 we didn't have sex at all - an 18 month dead bedroom. Even after that, we only had sex maybe once every other month, despite her repeated promises to "fix" the problem. Of course, I didn't realize I was the problem. She did, and she said it, but I didn't believe her.
During this time, I had gained significant weight. I used to be 6', 180lbs with under 10% BF when we were married. At my worst I was 285lbs and I don't even want to know what the BF% would have been. My wife told me directly at least twice: "I'm not attracted to you. You're fat and ugly. You can't expect me to what to have sex with that. So, just take whatever you can get." Duty sex followed in very rare intervals.
Cue RP
By fall of 2016 I had given up on having a healthy sex life. I resolved to do my own thing independent of my wife's needs, desires, etc. I wasn't abandoning the family, but I was checked out and she knew it. This was the start of my RP-awakening.
I started reading the Bible and memorizing mass quantities of Scripture - whole books (Philippians, Romans, James). This influx of the Scriptures started speaking to my life in a unique way. I read about Paul running the race and beating his body and recognized that I needed to take some of the analogies more literally. I started running heavily to put off some weight. By April 2017 I started lifting. At that point I had a much better biblical foundation for how a marriage should look. But I still had a long way to go.
I wasn't seeing much change in my wife's attitude toward me, which frustrated me even further. I started googling things about sex advice and stumbled on the red pill. Within a week I had read virtually every book on the TRP and MRP sidebar. Over the next months I started re-reading them, taking notes, etc. I frantically applied everything I had learned, taking great measures to ensure I retained enough of my old beta ways in the short-term to keep from going Rambo - I didn't want to do too much too fast.
It was in this period that I realized a drastic lacking of biblical advice for guys like me, and I was fed up with all the guys on MRP telling me my wife was an "outlier" and a "hopeless cause" and that I just needed to cheat on her or leave her entirely. From a secular perspective, I'm sure their advice would have worked wonders. But with my theological views, that also would have meant a life of sexlessness if I were to have divorced her. So, I dropped the covert contracts, resigned myself to monk mode, and merely worked on myself. This is the journey that's noticeable throughout the sidebar of RPC - because I wrote those things during my journey, not after I had already "arrived," as if such a thing is even possible.
The lowest hanging fruit had obviously been my weight and lifts. I went from benching 135 when I first started in April 2017 to benching 275 in December 2017. My squat and deadlift went from 155 to 365 in about the same period of time. I also dropped my weight from 285 down to 225 at present. The weight and build change also meant buying a whole new line of clothes that actually fit, which was a prime opportunity to enhance my fashion sense. I started getting hair cuts more regularly, and changed the style to something more appealing rather than the generic cut I had been used to all my life. These enhancements had a drastic improvement on my confidence levels.
Sex went from every other month to every other week. Soon after that it went to every few days. I went from being denied about 19 out of every 20 initiations to only 1 denial out of every 20 - and even that was usually a simple, "Can we wait until the kids are in bed?"
Unusually, before all of this I wanted sex every day multiple times a day. Once I could get sex from my wife at-will, I realized that I no longer cared about sex as much as I once did. A couple times a week was fine, and even that felt like overkill. I realized a valuable lesson here: The church told me I was addicted to sex. I was really starved for sex. More on that in a post to come. Suffice it to say that once I was having my sexual desires filled, I realized my appetite wasn't as big as I thought it was when I was fooled into believing I had an addiction.
From there, rather than improving the quantity of sex any further than I cared for, I focused on improving the quality of sex.
  • At the beginning of my RP journey, as my wife saw a lot of my early transformations happening, she started introducing bondage into the bedroom - something I didn't even have to initiate.
  • About 3 months ago I had her literally screaming my name to the point where she thought the kids were going to wake up, which was the first time we'd ever had that in our marriage (before, sex always had to be hush hush with no noise at all).
  • Last month we added cunnilingus - something I'd long wanted to do that she was always uncomfortable with and thought was evil or dirty. Now she's asking for it.
  • Two weeks ago, when we were on our 10-year anniversary vacation, she started initiating multiple times a day and realized that her subsequent orgasms were better than the first.
  • Last week we tried doggy style for the first time - something that she refused to do before because she thought it was degrading.
  • There have been 3 other new positions in the last month alone, as compared to our 9 years of only missionary and cowgirl.
  • Of all things, she even went online recently to buy some "his/hers" KY jelly just because she wanted to know what it would feel like. That is, she's starting to get curious about her own sexual limits, independent of my active influence - because of the passive byproduct of the influence and leadership I have taken in the bedroom to date.
It's not a linear progression
Admittedly, I've had days on RPC where I felt like a fraud. I'd see great progress, be writing about it, then one event would feel like a major setback. I'd think, "If these guys witnessed what just happened, they'd all laugh their way out of this sub and everything I've been trying to teach them." Then I'd look objectively at the strides I've taken and realize that one event doesn't define my marriage or sexuality - especially when my evaluation of that event was based on what my wife was saying rather than what her behavior said about her from the days before and after that event. I'd have to preach back to myself: Look at what she does, not what she says.
For example, many months ago, after I'd written a lot of the RPC sidebar content, my wife denied my initiation. I handled it appropriately, but she was still on that 1,000 foot rope and assumed I would still act like my old self and get all butthurt. So, she changed her mind and started offering duty sex, saying, "If we don't do this right now, you're going to get all pouty tomorrow and it's going to ruin the whole day for everyone." I assured her I was fine, but she started raging about it anyway. I STFU. She starts shouting about, "This is why I hate sex! The very thought of sex is abhorrent to me because it always ends up in a fight." She was crying and yelling about all the fights we've had about sex over the years and insisting that I have sex with her right then and there just to orgasm so I wouldn't be a mopey butt hole the next day. She didn't get it. I STFU.
We didn't have sex that night. The next day I did not act pouty and butt hurt. We had a very good day. I start working on something in the living room after the kids are in bed. She puts on lingerie and starts trying to lure me into the bedroom. I oblige - because at that point I was watching what she did, not what she said.
Where do I go from here?
I keep hitting the gym, reading, and all that other stuff. I have plans laid out for new things I want to try in the bedroom - and I have every confidence that she'll willingly oblige. She still has her boundaries (blowjobs being the last one she'll one day cross), but progress is progress, my friends.
More importantly than all of this, what I've found is that with the ability to have sex at will, I'm no longer worried about trying to get sex, which frees up more time for my mission. I'm discipling more guys than I have in a while and I have a solid leader discipling me. I'm starting to connect with more and more non-Christians, some of whom have already expressed curiosity about the faith - a curiosity that I want to keep cultivating in them. The guys I'm discipling are starting to build similar relationships of their own, reaching people who otherwise would have been left to fend for themselves spiritually.
Life is good. God is good. Greater things than these are yet to come.
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2018.04.18 16:06 eventbot What's happening around town (Wed, Apr 18th - Tue, Apr 24th)

Oklahoma City's event list.

Wednesday, Apr 18th

  • 89er Days Celebration (Downtown - Guthrie) Thru Sun, Apr 22nd The annual '89er Days Celebration commemorates the Land Run of 1889 and the birth of Guthrie. On April 22, 1889,…
  • Aaron Hale and the Human Beings (The Deli - Norman) Start Time: 10:00pm Aaron Hale gets on The Deli stage with a full band! Check him out at Aaron Hale is a classically trained (Oklahoma State University) multi-instrumentalist…
  • Anthem Drown Night! (HiLo Club - Oklahoma City) Our local friends at Anthem Brewing Co. have some great beers! Every Wednesday night from 9pm to close enjoy $8 Drown Night! Their Power Pils will be flowing!
  • 🎨 Beyond ART: Lunch with an Artist - John Wolfe (JRB Art at the Elms - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 11:30am Bring your lunch and join us for our BEYOND ART: Lunch with an Artist Series. Eat, converse, and make connections to our art and artists. Artist John Wolfe will be in attendance. Artwork:…
  • Bi-Weekly Meetup (51st st. Speakeasy - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 5:00pm
  • Bringing in the Bystander Training (Robert S Kerr - Edmond) Start Time: 11:00am
  • 🎨 Can't Touch This: Visualization and Technology (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am Artists: *James Ewald Assistant Professor of Graphic Design *Amy Jacobson-Peters Instructor of Interior Design *Amy Johnson Chair, Department of Design & Professor of Graphic Design *Sam…
  • Caregivers Support Group (First United Methodist Church - Edmond) The first support group for caregivers will be held Wednesday April 18, at 11:45-1:15. Participants who can come only for lunchtime are welcome to come and leave to go back to work. While a…
  • 🎨 COMIX: OK (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Apr 22nd Following the success of Not For Sale: Graffiti Culture in Oklahoma, COMIX OK looks at the thriving artistic culture of comics in Oklahoma. The comics genre is wide ranging and hard to…
  • COOP Showcase (Tower Theatre Studio - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Early Season Pass Processing (Starlight Amphitheater @ Frontier City - Oklahoma City) Thru Fri, Apr 20th Start Time: 9:00am Skip the processing lines and have your Season Pass card made before your first visit to the park! Our office is open 9:00a-5:00p, Monday-Friday.
  • 🎓 Getting Ready for that Summer Job (Pioneer Library System - McLoud) Start Time: 4:00pm Teens, join us to learn tips on getting that summer job! We will discuss Child Labor laws, how to fill out a W-2, interviewing skills, how to fill out an application and more. Registration is…
  • 🎓 Making Robot Rovers (Guthrie Library - Guthrie) Start Time: 4:00pm We will discover how a robotic rover, like those used on Mars, is designed. We will explore aspects of autonomous robotic systems and answer questions such as: What does it mean to be…
  • 🎓 Oklahoma Connections Academy Free Family Information Session (Embassy Suites - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:30pm Oklahoma Connections Academy, a tuition-free online public school, will host a free information session for families interested in learning about its online program and individualized approach…
  • 😂 Paul Hooper (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Apr 21st
  • 🎭 Pj Story Time (Guthrie Library - Guthrie) Start Time: 10:30am This story Time is special! No need to change out of your PJs this morning, come ready to dance, sing, and read all while in your jammies! Talk Around Guthrie. The City of Guthrie, OK -…
  • Understanding Credit Workshop (Pioneer Library System - Blanchard) Start Time: 9:00am Join us to learn about the different types of credit, how to qualify for it and how to manage credit and debt. This presentation will also cover different types of credit, what affects your…
  • 🎨 Unlocking the Vault: Mysteries and Marvels of the Museum (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) Thru Fri, Apr 20th Start Time: 10:00am Museums typically exhibit only a very small percentage of their collections. In the National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum’s vast holdings, specific pieces, for one reason or another, are…
  • Wednesday Game Night (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Play the games you love for jackpots and then play more games you love for Extra Cash & Prizes on Game Night at Remington Park, every Wednesday! Starting at 6pm on Wednesday nights at…
  • 🏆 West Conf Qtrs: Jazz at Thunder Rd 1 Hm Gm 2 (Chesapeake Energy Arena - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:00pm **VERY IMPORTANT !! ** Sales to the Oklahoma City Thunder 2018 Home Playoff Games at Chesapeake Energy Arena, will be restricted to residents of Oklahoma, Kansas, Arkansas, Missouri and…

Thursday, Apr 19th

  • 89er Days Celebration (Downtown - Guthrie) Thru Sun, Apr 22nd The annual '89er Days Celebration commemorates the Land Run of 1889 and the birth of Guthrie. On April 22, 1889,…
  • 🎨 Anime Night (Teen) (Guthrie Library - Guthrie) Start Time: 6:00pm Indulge in CANDY, POPCORN, AND SODA POP as we dive into Ouran Host Club!: The boys in the Ouran Host Club please their clients in different ways. The new Host, Haruhi, seems to know exactly…
  • 🎭 Blood Relations (Carpenter Square Theatre - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 7:30pm Carpenter Square Theatre presents the Oklahoma City premiere of “Blood Relations,” an award-winning mystery-thriller by Sharon Pollock. The play explores the legend of Lizzie Borden ten…
  • 🎨 Can't Touch This: Visualization and Technology (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 10:00am Artists: *James Ewald Assistant Professor of Graphic Design *Amy Jacobson-Peters Instructor of Interior Design *Amy Johnson Chair, Department of Design & Professor of Graphic Design *Sam…
  • Charley Crockett et al. (Tower Theatre Studio - Oklahoma City) Join Texas bluesman Charley Crockett for a very special evening when he takes over OKC's historic…
  • El Reno Chocolate Festival (El Reno) Get ready for a glamorous night of live music and delicious samples at the El Reno Chocolate Festival. Chocolate of…
  • Chris Trapper (The Blue Door - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • 🏆 Club One Special (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 6:00pm The popular Club 1 Special is back for all live racing dates at Remington Park. Enjoy this spectacular offer on every live race date, regardless of post time, day or night. The Club 1 Special…
  • 😂 Comedian Eric Schwartz (51st st. Speakeasy - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:30pm Deep in the California suburbs, multimedia and comedy collide in a freak accident to create Eric Schwartz, a mild man-nerd who unleashes a mind-blowing show filled with musical comedy,…
  • 🎨 COMIX: OK (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Apr 22nd Following the success of Not For Sale: Graffiti Culture in Oklahoma, COMIX OK looks at the thriving artistic culture of comics in Oklahoma. The comics genre is wide ranging and hard to…
  • Day of Remembrance (Oklahoma City National Memorial - Oklahoma City) Each year, visitors gather at the Oklahoma City National Memorial & Museum in downtown Oklahoma City to remember…
  • Oklahoma City Dinner of Champions honoring Dr. Gabriel Pardo (Oklahoma City Golf and Country Club - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm The first annual Dinner of Champions, Oklahoma City event is April 19, 2018 and will support local programs that contribute to the quality of life of those affected by MS and to support…
  • Early Season Pass Processing (Starlight Amphitheater @ Frontier City - Oklahoma City) 1 day left Start Time: 9:00am Skip the processing lines and have your Season Pass card made before your first visit to the park! Our office is open 9:00a-5:00p, Monday-Friday.
  • Oklahoma City Farm Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Apr 21st At the Oklahoma City Farm Show, you'll find everything having to do with agriculture in one location. With over 300…
  • 🍴 FREE paperwork organizing workshop (Edmond) Day 1 of 2 Start Time: 6:30pm Professional Organizer and coach, Lorraine Brock, will be presenting information oh to tame paper clutter. Drinks and snacks will be served. Must RSVP name, phone, email, time of event to…
  • 🏃 Get Your Rear in Gear OKC (Church of the Journey - Oklahoma City) Enjoy post-run refreshments, tech shirts for all participants, and marathon quality medals for age group winners. Awards for the Most Creative Team, Largest Team, Top Individual and Top Team…
  • Herbert W. Armstrong College Choral Union (Armstrong Auditorium - Edmond) Start Time: 7:30pm The Herbert W. Armstrong College Choral Union is bringing the tale of Abraham from the Old Testament to Edmond. Directed…
  • The Infamists (Denton,TX)/ Dresden Bombers (The Deli - Norman) Start Time: 10:00pm The Infamists out of Denton, Tx are stopping by Norman for a night of rock n' roll. They are joined by Norman favorites the Dresden Bombers. Infamists are a trio of dragon riders from Dallas,…
  • 🎓 Learning about Parkinson's Disease (Touchmark at Coffee Creek - Edmond) Start Time: 11:00am Join Bruce McIntire, Executive Director of the Parkinson’s Foundation of Oklahoma, as he speaks about what resources are available to those living with Parkinson’s Disease in the…
  • Lyric Theatre - Fun Home's Pint Night (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:30pm You don't want to miss this! Join Lyric Theatre of Oklahoma and Coop Ale Works for Pint Night during the run of our production, Fun Home! Buy your tickets online at the link in this event or…
  • Meditation Class (St Stephen's United Methodist - Norman) Start Time: 6:00pm Weekly meditation and discussion group conducted by the monks from Oklahoma Buddhist Vihara.
    St. Stephens UMC 6-7pm Look for the shoes.
  • Parkinson's disease support group (Touchmark at Coffee Creek - Edmond) Start Time: 11:00am Join other people in the early stages of Parkinson’s disease for discussion and sharing. Also open to caregivers. No RSVP required. Light refreshments will be served.
  • 😂 Paul Hooper (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City) Thru Sat, Apr 21st
  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Management Support Group (Mental Health Association Oklahoma main office - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that can occur following the experience of witnessing of life-threatening events such as military combat, natural disasters, terrorist incidents, serious…
  • 🎭 Share at the Showroom: Holey Kids and Tallows (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Oklahoma City-based artists Katie Rake and Elijah Scott will discuss what they call “a collaborative effort of creepy creations.” As the Holey Kids, Katie and Elijah are typically masked…
  • 🏆 Surf and Turf at The Bricktown Brewery at Remington Park (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 4:00pm
  • Survivors of Suicide Support Group (Mental Health Association Oklahoma main office - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Nearly 31,000 people take their own lives each year. As a survivor – a family member or friend of the victim – you may need help coming to terms with suicide. This group offers the…
  • Sushi Rolling Night (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Start Time: 6:00pm Sushi Rolling Night is a collaborative event with the Japanese Student Association to bring an educational dining experience: teaching guests how to toll sushi, how to dine with each…
  • 🍴 Three Minute Thesis Competition (Othello's - Edmond) Start Time: 4:00pm
  • 🏆 Thursday Night $25 Dinner for 2 at Silks (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm SILKS DINNER for TWO, just $25! – Thursdays in Racing Season The Silks Restaurant is the place for a great value and view of the racing action on Thursday nights throughout the Remington…
  • 🎨 Unlocking the Vault: Mysteries and Marvels of the Museum (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) 1 day left Start Time: 10:00am Museums typically exhibit only a very small percentage of their collections. In the National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum’s vast holdings, specific pieces, for one reason or another, are…

Friday, Apr 20th

  • 89er Days Celebration (Downtown - Guthrie) Thru Sun, Apr 22nd The annual '89er Days Celebration commemorates the Land Run of 1889 and the birth of Guthrie. On April 22, 1889,…
  • 411 Band Sounds of Motown (VZD's - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm The 411 Band in a rare club performance doing all your R&B favorites and Motown review. After buying tickets, call ahead for dinner reservations to be sure you have a table seat. Full Menu…
  • 420 FEST Featuring Scattered Hamlet (Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:00pm
  • Adult Night (Rose State College - Midwest City) Start Time: 6:00pm Adult Night is an event for design to help the community learn about what sexual health and resources are available to them. It is hosted by the Rose State College Sexual Identity/Sexual…
  • Norman Area Quilt Guild Quilt Show (Calvary Church - Norman) Day 1 of 2 Save the date for the Norman Area Quilt Guild's biannual quilt show. This year's theme is "Sew Full of…
  • 🎭 Blood Relations (Carpenter Square Theatre - Oklahoma City) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 7:30pm Carpenter Square Theatre presents the Oklahoma City premiere of “Blood Relations,” an award-winning mystery-thriller by Sharon Pollock. The play explores the legend of Lizzie Borden ten…
  • 🏆 Central OK: University of Central Oklahoma Baseball vs Missouri Western (Edmond) Start Time: 3:00pm University of Central Oklahoma Baseball vs Missouri Western
  • 🏆 Central OK: University of Central Oklahoma Softball vs Missouri Southern (Edmond) Start Time: 2:00pm University of Central Oklahoma Softball vs Missouri Southern
  • 🏆 Central OK: University of Central Oklahoma Softball vs Missouri Southern (Edmond) Start Time: 4:00pm University of Central Oklahoma Softball vs Missouri Southern
  • Clint Black (Grand Casino Hotel & Resort - Shawnee) Come out to see one of country music's brightest stars as Clint Black comes to Grand Casino Hotel & Resort in…
  • 🏆 Club One Special (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 6:00pm The popular Club 1 Special is back for all live racing dates at Remington Park. Enjoy this spectacular offer on every live race date, regardless of post time, day or night. The Club 1 Special…
  • 🎨 COMIX: OK (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Apr 22nd Following the success of Not For Sale: Graffiti Culture in Oklahoma, COMIX OK looks at the thriving artistic culture of comics in Oklahoma. The comics genre is wide ranging and hard to…
  • Double Point Fridays and Saturdays (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm April in the Remington Park Casino makes Friday and Saturday nights with band better than ever before. Whenever the band is playing on Friday and Saturday nights, you are rewarded with double…
  • Downtown Edmond Fashion Show (Edmond Fine Arts - Edmond) Start Time: 6:45pm The businesses of Downtown Edmond are coming together to support the Fine Arts Institute of Edmond, by holding a Spring/Summer fashion show. The doors will open at 6:45, and the show will…
  • Early Season Pass Processing (Starlight Amphitheater @ Frontier City - Oklahoma City) Last Day Start Time: 9:00am Skip the processing lines and have your Season Pass card made before your first visit to the park! Our office is open 9:00a-5:00p, Monday-Friday.
  • 🏆 The Eliminator Challenge (Remington Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Remington Park racing guests have the opportunity to test their skill and take aim at a Grand Prize worth a minimum of $1,000, every Friday night in April. The Eliminator Challenge returns to…
  • Family Workshop: Flower and Leaf Pressing (Myriad Botanical Gardens - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 2:00pm Preserve your favorite leaves and flowers and turn them into art, bookmarks and cards at this creative workshop. Participants will learn how to press leaves and flowers, look at some already…
  • Oklahoma City Farm Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) 1 day left At the Oklahoma City Farm Show, you'll find everything having to do with agriculture in one location. With over 300…
  • 🎨 Filmography: "Dior and I (21C Museum Hotel - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm Art goes to the movies with 21c Oklahoma City’s Filmography, a free monthly film series at 21c Oklahoma City in partnership with deadCenter Film and the OKC Film Society. Filmography takes…
  • Flasher (Opolis - Norman)
  • Fossil Youth (89th Street Collective - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm with The Tooth, My Heart & Liver are the Best of Friends, Kinderhook, and Gall • Fossil Youth Bandcamp - Spotify - • The Tooth Bandcamp…
  • 🍴 FREE paperwork organizing workshop (Edmond) Day 2 of 2 Start Time: 6:30pm Professional Organizer and coach, Lorraine Brock, will be presenting information oh to tame paper clutter. Drinks and snacks will be served. Must RSVP name, phone, email, time of event to…
  • 🍴 FREE paperwork organizing workshop (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 1:00pm Professional Organizer and coach, Lorraine Brock, will be presenting information oh to tame paper clutter. Drinks and snacks will be served. Must RSVP name, phone, email, time of event to…
  • 🎭 Free Zumba (Guthrie Library - Guthrie) Start Time: 5:00pm Enjoy this free Latin inspired fitness dance class. Participants must sign waiver before taking part in this program. Space is limited, please RSVP for this event. The City of Guthrie, OK -…
  • Kick Start Concert Series (Rodeo Opry - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 7:00pm Georgiea Motley, Amy Duffy, Tammy Lynn, Jeremy Rodgers, Darla Hensley, Tina Stephens, Barron Baird, Alexis Christensen, Mary Bruce, George Garrison
  • Living History on the Chisholm Trail (Chisholm Trail Museum & Seay Mansion - Kingfisher) Day 1 of 2 Catch a glimpse of the past at Living History on the Chisholm Trail in Kingfisher. This event, held at the Chisholm…
  • Luke Pell / Logan Mize et al. (Tower Theatre Studio - Oklahoma City) Get your tickets for a night of fresh country music when Luke Pell and Logan Mize bring their Hometown & Highways…
  • Martha (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Start Time: 7:30pm Performance Dates and Times: 7:30pm. Friday, April 20, 2018 7:30pm. Saturday, April 21, 2018 2:00pm. Sunday, April 22, 2018 Free for UCO students with current ID
  • Michael Fracasso (The Blue Door - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm
  • Montgomery Gentry (Diamond Ballroom - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:30pm Head to Diamond Ballroom for a night of hard-driving and Kentucky fried country music when Montgomery Gentry comes…
  • Night on the Bricks (Downtown - Shawnee) Day 1 of 2 Gather in downtown Shawnee for a new festival in celebration of its status as Redbud City. Enjoy a night full of food,…
  • OCU Eagles: Season Finale Musical: Leonard Bernstein's On The Town (Oklahoma City University - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm Three sailors on the town belt out the iconic "New York, New York" as they tear through the city on 24-hour shore leave in 1944. Featuring music by Leonard Bernstein and book and lyrics by…
  • OKC Jazz Fest (Bicentennial Park - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2 In downtown Oklahoma City, the OKC Jazz Fest takes over the Civic Center Music Hall and Bicentennial Park for six days.…
  • 🎭 Overly Designing Women (The Boom - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 8:00pm “Overly Designing Women” is The Boom’s latest TV parody! In this production, the sassy group of gals at an Atlanta interior design firm (all played by men in drag) get themselves into a…
  • 😂 Paul Hooper (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City) 1 day left
  • 🎨 ProtoProxy: an exhibit by Jordan Vinyard (IAO Gallery - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:00pm Prototypes are defined by their placement at the beginning of a perceived sequence.
    They are the unfinished postulate and the unwavering switch yet to be firmly tried. Human behavior…
  • Norman Round-up Club Open Rodeo (Cleveland County Fairgrounds - Norman) Day 1 of 2 Head to Norman to see cowboys and cowgirls participate in traditional rodeo events at the Norman Round-up Club Open…
  • Shen Yun (Civic Center Music Hall - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2 Classical Chinese dance, dazzling costumes, impressive backdrops and a live orchestra make Shen Yun a performance you…
  • Shen Yun Performing Arts (Civic Center Music Hall - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2
  • 🎡 Short Play Festival (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Start Time: 7:30pm UCO Department of Theatre Arts students direct capstone projects during this two-day festival. Admission is FREE!
  • 🎭 SOONER THEATRE SHOWCASE 2018 (The Sooner Theatre - Norman) Start Time: 7:30pm The Sooner Theatre invites the community to celebrate the beginning of spring with The Sooner Theatre Showcase 2018! The theatre's 11th annual variety show will feature very special song and…
  • Thrive Mama Collective - Baby Signing Time (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 11:00am Join the Baby Signing Time revolution! Your baby can communicate with you using baby signs long before she is old enough to speak.
    • Reduce tantrums!
    • Stimulate early learning and build…
  • 🎨 Unlocking the Vault: Mysteries and Marvels of the Museum (Western Heritage Museum - Oklahoma City) Last Day Start Time: 10:00am Museums typically exhibit only a very small percentage of their collections. In the National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum’s vast holdings, specific pieces, for one reason or another, are…
  • USTPA Spring Round-Up (Lazy E Arena - Guthrie) Thru Sun, Apr 22nd Watch as riders race against time while showcasing their herding skills at the USTPA Spring Round-Up. Held in…
  • World Championship Series (Lazy E Arena - Guthrie) Start Time: 7:00am

Saturday, Apr 21st

  • 89er Days Celebration (Downtown - Guthrie) 1 day left The annual '89er Days Celebration commemorates the Land Run of 1889 and the birth of Guthrie. On April 22, 1889,…
  • Norman Area Quilt Guild Quilt Show (Calvary Church - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Save the date for the Norman Area Quilt Guild's biannual quilt show. This year's theme is "Sew Full of…
  • Bonnie Bishop (The Blue Door - Oklahoma City)
  • 🏃 Cargo Classic (Heritage Church - Shawnee) Cargo Ranch will be hosting the 3rd annual Cargo Classic, a 5k and Fun Run, on April 21st, 8:00 am at Heritage Church at 2100 N Bryan Ave in Shawnee.
    \- USATF Sanctioned Event, Certified…
  • 🏃 Choose Your K (Oklahoma Christian University, Edmond, OK - Edmond) Choose Your K caters to the needs of runners in training for any distance!
    Runners need to test their fitness. Runners need to practice race pace and feel. Runners need to practice…
  • 🎨 COMIX: OK (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) 1 day left Following the success of Not For Sale: Graffiti Culture in Oklahoma, COMIX OK looks at the thriving artistic culture of comics in Oklahoma. The comics genre is wide ranging and hard to…
  • ContempCon (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Day 1 of 2 Dive into the world of comics at ContempCon, a two-day comic convention in the heart of Oklahoma City. Hosted by…
  • Danielle Nicole (VZD's - Oklahoma City)
  • Oklahoma City Farm Show (Oklahoma State Fair Park - Oklahoma City) Last Day At the Oklahoma City Farm Show, you'll find everything having to do with agriculture in one location. With over 300…
  • Fort Reno Ghost Tours (Historic Fort Reno - El Reno) Come along on an exciting and spooky ghost tour at El Reno's historic Fort Reno. This ghost tour includes…
  • Heard on Hurd (Edmond) On the third Saturday of each month, downtown Edmond hosts a pop-up community celebration called Heard on Hurd. Walk…
  • Hinder (The State Theatre - Harrah)
  • Hot Rod Cookout & Concert (Beacon Drive In Theatre - Guthrie) The Hot Rod Cookout and Concert in Guthrie is an opportunity for car enthusiasts to gather to see awesome cars and…
  • Lebanese Heritage & Food Festival (Our Lady of Lebanon - Norman) Bring the family and your appetite to the Lebanese Heritage & Food Festival in Norman. Held all day at Our Lady of…
  • Living History on the Chisholm Trail (Chisholm Trail Museum & Seay Mansion - Kingfisher) Day 2 of 2 Catch a glimpse of the past at Living History on the Chisholm Trail in Kingfisher. This event, held at the Chisholm…
  • MercyMe (Starlight Amphitheater @ Frontier City - Oklahoma City) Spend the day splashing in the Renegade Rapids or screaming on the Silver Bullet at Frontier City Theme Park before…
  • Night on the Bricks (Downtown - Shawnee) Day 2 of 2 Gather in downtown Shawnee for a new festival in celebration of its status as Redbud City. Enjoy a night full of food,…
  • OKC Energy FC vs Saint Louis FC (Taft Stadium - Oklahoma City) Experience the excitement of major league soccer in Oklahoma as the Oklahoma City Energy Football Club takes on Saint…
  • OKC Jazz Fest (Bicentennial Park - Oklahoma City) Day 2 of 2 In downtown Oklahoma City, the OKC Jazz Fest takes over the Civic Center Music Hall and Bicentennial Park for six days.…
  • OKC Pow Wow Club Spring Benefit (Oklahoma City) Don't miss the OKC Pow Wow Club's third-annual Spring Benefit in Oklahoma City. This inter-tribal powwow…
  • 😂 Paul Hooper (Loony Bin Comedy Club - Oklahoma City) Last Day
  • Reckless Kelly et al. (Firelake Arena - Shawnee)
  • Norman Round-up Club Open Rodeo (Cleveland County Fairgrounds - Norman) Day 2 of 2 Head to Norman to see cowboys and cowgirls participate in traditional rodeo events at the Norman Round-up Club Open…
  • Shen Yun (Civic Center Music Hall - Oklahoma City) Day 2 of 2 Classical Chinese dance, dazzling costumes, impressive backdrops and a live orchestra make Shen Yun a performance you…
  • Shen Yun Performing Arts (Civic Center Music Hall - Oklahoma City) Day 2 of 2
  • UCO Army ROTC Gold Bar 5K Run & Walk (University of Central Oklahoma - Edmond) Held rain or shine, the UCO Army ROTC Gold Bar 5K Run and Walk invites everyone out to partake in this exciting event.…
  • USTPA Spring Round-Up (Lazy E Arena - Guthrie) 1 day left Watch as riders race against time while showcasing their herding skills at the USTPA Spring Round-Up. Held in…

Sunday, Apr 22nd

  • 89er Days Celebration (Downtown - Guthrie) Last Day The annual '89er Days Celebration commemorates the Land Run of 1889 and the birth of Guthrie. On April 22, 1889,…
  • 🎨 COMIX: OK (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Last Day Following the success of Not For Sale: Graffiti Culture in Oklahoma, COMIX OK looks at the thriving artistic culture of comics in Oklahoma. The comics genre is wide ranging and hard to…
  • ContempCon (Oklahoma Contemporary - Oklahoma City) Day 2 of 2 Dive into the world of comics at ContempCon, a two-day comic convention in the heart of Oklahoma City. Hosted by…
  • Jake Miller (89th Street Collective - Oklahoma City) Hear the smooth pop crooning of artist Jake Miller live as he takes over the 89th Street stage. Best known for his…
  • J. Roddy Walston And The Business et al. (Opolis - Norman)
  • 🏃 P4C5K (Pray For Caleb 5K) (FBC Newcastle - Newcastle) On December 19, Newcastle cross country runner and basketball player Caleb Freeman was badly injured in a car accident -- #butGod! -- he is on a remarkable journey of recovery. Mark your…
  • SW 29th Street Children's Day Festival (Oklahoma City) Bring the kids out for the annual SW 29th Street Children's Day Festival in Oklahoma City. This fun-filled…
  • USTPA Spring Round-Up (Lazy E Arena - Guthrie) Last Day Watch as riders race against time while showcasing their herding skills at the USTPA Spring Round-Up. Held in…

Monday, Apr 23rd

  • Jimmy Webb (OCCC Visual and Performing Arts Center - Oklahoma City)
  • Taste of Midwest City (Reed Conference Center - Midwest City) Pair rich red wines and dry white wines with the best eats Midwest City has to offer. The Taste of Midwest City features…

Tuesday, Apr 24th

  • The Book of Mormon (Civic Center Music Hall - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Apr 29th The Book of Mormon is coming to Oklahoma City's Civic Center Music Hall. Get ready for hours of laughter at this…
  • Festival of the Arts (Bicentennial Park - Oklahoma City) Thru Sun, Apr 29th Known as Oklahoma City's annual "rite of spring," the Festival of the Arts is a six-day community…
  • Food Truck Tuesdays (Jackson - Blanchard) Every week, treat your taste buds to new flavors. During Food Truck Tuesdays, a different food truck will park in…
  • The Pritchard - April Fooled, Blind Tasting with Amie Hendrickson (Plaza District - Oklahoma City) Start Time: 6:30pm
  • Wheeler Criterium (Oklahoma City) Once the weather starts warming up, gather your crew and head south of the Oklahoma River for the Wheeler Criterium each…

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2017.12.25 05:17 lifelongmoteki Incompatibility problems in my first relationship

Update: Resolved. Everything below that I was worried about turned out to be completely false. I DO fit completely inside her, she WOULD like a little bit of rough sex/S&M occasionally, and she DID come through and make an effort to do what it took to achieve PVI with me. Apparently she had been making an effort to tighten up her vaginal muscles since her last relationship ended, which she really didn't need to do, for reasons explained below. And this morning she relaxed and opened up, and whoop, in it went. Somehow it still made her bleed, even though I'm the fourth partner she's been with. Literally all she did was mount the thing at her own slow pace, and it still drew blood. But now things can only get sexier.
Okay, so I'm 27M. Just snagged myself a girlfriend for the first time. I mostly waited this long because I was living with Christian parents until age 26, and respected their morals even though I didn't want to wait until marriage for sex. My girlfriend is 30.
My girlfriend isn't the first person I ever had sex with. My first time (that I didn't pay for) was a mature woman who I slept with 4 times, but it took till the 4th time for me to actually penetrate her. That woman taught me that it's okay for the guy to not orgasm, and for the woman not to O from vaginal penetration, as long as it feels good to both parties. Never orgasmed from anything I did with her, nor did I O from sex with any of the women I paid for. (I'm very sure I have no STDs from any of that, by the way. Haven't been tested but it's been a long-ass time since with no problems, and I wore a condom every time without exception.)
I still am hoping that someday I will be able to achieve orgasm from PVI. I'll be getting a lot of chances to try from here on out, too. The big problem is that I'm way bigger than my girlfriend is. She's about 5'2'' and I'm about 5'11''. And I have a large penis, which I've been told can be kind of a curse. (I live in Japan, which is also why I got away so easily with the "paying for sex" part.) I don't believe it's all that ridiculously long; I think I measured it at about 6 1/4", but I'm girthy enough that I have to order They Fit condoms in size O-32. (6 1/2" circumference; even those O-32s feel snug sometimes.) My girlfriend says she can hardly even open her mouth wide enough to get it around my penis. Doesn't like that fact very much, but she still tries, so I count myself very lucky.
I might stop here and say that when it comes to sexuality, I turn into something of a dominant being. Sadistic, even. I remember seeing the pained look on the face of one of the women I paid for as I was penetrating her, and being aroused even more by it. Which is a deadly combination with the penis size I have.
But I was in denial at first that I ought to be looking specifically for someone who is masochistic, because that heavily limits my pool of potential partners. But given that I'm this big, it might need to happen.
I mean, I fingered my girlfriend with one finger, when she was very naturally lubricated, and apparently even that was a bit painful for her at first. There was also such a tight and narrow space near the opening that I could've sworn that if there weren't bones in my finger it would've been crushed or deflated. I'm not her first boyfriend, and I assume she's had sex before with a guy who was thicker around than my one finger, but that's all beside the point. I'm not sure if my penis will ever go all the way into her; she's even showed me when I was half-erect that I'm pretty much at her max capacity in that state, meaning I probably reach her navel when I'm at max hardness. This is a potential hang-up for me, because at least ideally, I always wanted to engage in rough sex and have that gratifying slapping sound there as one stimulus prompting me to orgasm. I have gone all the way in with at least one girl before, as far as I can remember, meaning it should be possible. Just not with my current girlfriend.
And she's not masochistic at all. In fact, if anything, she's a little closer to my S side of the spectrum. She likes to bite my neck and collarbone, and to be on top and see that I can't' move out from under her. (But she also likes when I act a little bit dominating toward her as well.)
And the other day, when we had sex for the first time, she was kind enough to help me out by mounting me for penetration, but it apparently was really painful for her. And yeah, I get off on that sexually, but I also care about her enough that I don't EVER want to hurt her if she doesn't want the pain. She suggests that one big factor in it being painful is her having recently had her period, so her body isn't as open and welcoming to being penetrated, and that maybe when she's closer to her period we can try again and she'll enjoy it more. It still seems likely to me that it'll still hurt her, and she's so small that I still have yet to successfully enter her on my own in any position other than cowgirl.

So it appears we have a low level of sexual compatibility here. I've told her about my tendencies toward the S end of the spectrum, and she wasn't that enthused to hear it. And here's the thing: I'm not looking to find a partner for marriage quite yet, but I'm pretty sure she is. She's the one that approached me (which made it easier for me to advance things into a relationship, with the lack of confidence I used to have as a guy at age 27 with no dating history) and is kind of "past" a certain critical point age-wise. Culturally in Japan, you become less desirable as a woman once your tens digit is a 3. It's bullshit that I obviously don't buy, but I know that if we break up, especially if we take a long time to break up and she gets even older, it'll leave her in some amount of distress.
She sees this lack of sexual compatibility, too, but doesn't seem to be viewing it as much of a problem. She says that if we ever want to have kids, there are other avenues we could take. And she also gets plenty of satisfaction out of the foreplay/alternative sexual things we do.
I sort of see sex as an important thing for me, even though I don't have the world's highest libido. But this is also the first girl I've ever dated, and we're so into each other that we hardly got any real sleep during our first night together, with all the kissing we did in our sleep. I committed to this relationship recently, and we met on a dating site for people seeking something serious, so I have misgivings about ending things over non-ideal sex. But it still weighs on my mind as a significant thing that could be the eventual demise of the relationship. Thoughts?
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2017.11.20 14:16 tombstoneshadows28 All of the MPAA-rated films which received a release to theaters (sometimes even just A theater) in the United States during calendar year 2017.

Of 13,907 titles released worldwide, the below are all of the MPAA-rated films which received a release to theatres (sometimes even just A theater) in the United States during calendar year 2017.
(Note: the dates following each are the years during which the titles were filmed.)
  1. Ballerina (a.k.a. Leap!) (2016) Éric Summer & Éric Warin
  2. Born In China (2016) Chuan Lu
  3. Cars 3 (2017) Brian Fee
  4. Die Häschenschule: Jagd nach dem goldenen Ei (2017) Ute von Münchow-Pohl
  5. Mr. Rudolpho's Jubilee (2017) Michael Glover
  6. Robo-Dog: Airborne (2017) Anthony Steven Giordano
  7. The Children of Genghis (2017) Zolbayar Dorj
  8. The Horse Dancer (2017) Joel Paul Reisig
  1. A Cowgirl's Story (2017) Timothy Armstrong
  2. A Dog's Purpose (2017) Lasse Hallström
  3. All Saints (2017) Steve Gomer
  4. American Folk (2017) David Heinz
  5. An Inconvenient Sequel: Truth To Power (2017) Bonnie Cohen & Jon Shenk
  6. Apple of My Eye (2017) Castille Landon
  7. A Question of Faith (2017) Kevan Otto
  8. A Stork's Journey (2017) Toby Genkel & Reza Memari
  9. A Witches' Ball (2017) Justin G. Dyck
  10. Batman vs. Two-Face (2017) Rick Morales
  11. Beauty and the Beast (2017) Bill Condon
  12. Bunyan and Babe (2017) Louis Ross
  13. Captain Underpants: The First Epic Movie (2017) David Soren
  14. Champion (2017) Judd Brannon
  15. Churchill (2017) Jonathan Teplitzky
  16. Coco (2017) Lee Unkrich & Adrian Molina
  17. Day of Days (2017) Kim Bass
  18. Deep (2017) Julio Soto Gurpide
  19. Despicable Me 3 (2017) Kyle Balda, Pierre Coffin & Eric Guillon
  20. Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Long Haul (2017) David Bowers
  21. Disney's Newsies the Broadway Musical (2017) Jeff Calhoun & Brett Sullivan
  22. Faces Places (Visages, Villages) (2017) Agnès Varda & J.R.
  23. Ferdinand (2017) Carlos Saldanha
  24. Gnome Alone (2017) Peter Lepeniotis & Shelly Shenoy
  25. God Bless The Broken Road (2017) Harold Cronk
  26. Goodbye Christopher Robin (2017) Simon Curtis
  27. Heartbeats (2017) Duane Adler
  28. Kikoriki. Legend of the Golden Dragon (2017) Denis Chernov
  29. Live Like Line (2017) Sean McNamara
  30. Love, Kennedy (2017) T.C. Christense
  31. Mary and the Witch's Flower (2017) Hiromasa Yonebayashi
  32. Max 2: White House Hero (2017) Brian Levant
  33. Menashe (2017) Joshua Z Weinstein
  34. Monster Family (2017) Holger Tappe
  35. Monsters At Large (2017) Jason Murphy
  36. Monster Trucks (2016) Chris Wedge
  37. My Little Pony: The Movie (2017) Jayson Thiessen
  38. Ned Venture (2017) Ron Stone
  39. Paris Can Wait (Bonjour Anne) (2016) Eleanor Coppola
  40. Pup Star: Better 2Gether (2017) Robert Vince
  41. Pure Country Pure Heart (2017) Damon Santostefano
  42. Rock Dog (2016) Ash Brannon
  43. Running Wild (2017) Alex Ranarivelo
  44. Scales: Mermaids Are Real (2017) Kevan Peterson
  45. Slamma Jamma (2017) Timothy A. Chey
  46. Smurfs: The Lost Village (2017) Kelly Asbury
  47. Spark: A Space Tail (2016) Aaron Woodley
  48. Step (2017) Amanda Lipitz
  49. Sweet Sweet Summertime (2017) Ken Carpenter
  50. The Boss Baby (2017) Tom McGrath
  51. The Case for Christ (2017) Jon Gunn
  52. The Emoji Movie (2017) Tony Leondis
  53. The Greatest Showman (2017) Michael Gracey
  54. The King’s Daughter (2017) Sean McNamara
  55. The LEGO Batman Movie (2017) Chris McKay
  56. The LEGO Ninjago Movie (2017) Charlie Bean, Paul Fisher & Bob Logan
  57. The Man Who Invented Christmas (2017) Bharat Nalluri
  58. The Nut Job 2: Nutty by Nature (2017) Cal Brunker
  59. The Red Turtle (La tortue rouge) (2016) Michael Dudok de Wit
  60. The Resurrection Of Gavin Stone (2016) Dallas Jenkins
  61. The Santa Files (2017) Tom DeNucci
  62. The Star (2017) Timothy Reckart
  63. The Stray (2017) Mitch Davis
  64. The Wedding Plan (Laavor et hakir) (2016) Rama Burshtein
  65. Treasure Hounds (2017) Tim Brown
  66. We Love You, Sally Carmichael! (2017) Christopher Gorham
  67. Wheeler (2017) Ryan Ross
  68. Wonder (2017) Stephen Chbosky
  69. Wonderstruck (2017) Todd Haynes
  70. Woody Woodpecker (2017) Alex Zamm
  1. 2:22 (2017) Paul Currie
  2. 3 Generations (2015) Gaby Dellal
  3. 3 Idiotas (2017) Carlos Bolado
  4. 47 Meters Down (2017) Johannes Roberts
  5. 6 Below: Miracle on the Mountain (2017) Scott Waugh
  6. Aardvark (2017) Brian Shoaf
  7. Amityville: The Awakening (2017) Franck Khalfoun
  8. A Quiet Passion (2016) Terence Davies
  9. A United Kingdom (2016) Amma Asante
  10. Battle of the Sexes (2017) Jonathan Dayton & Valerie Faris
  11. Because Of Grácia (2017) Tom Simes
  12. Before I Fall (2017) Ry Russo-Young
  13. Birth Of The Dragon (2016) George Nolfi
  14. Breathe (2017) Andy Serkis
  15. Brigsby Bear (2017) Dave McCary
  16. Bring It On: Worldwide #Cheersmack (2017) Robert Adetuyi
  17. Burn Your Maps (2016) Jordan Roberts
  18. Daisy Winters (2017) Beth LaMure
  19. Collide (2016) Eran Creevy
  20. Contemporary Color (2017) Bill Ross IV & Turner Ross
  21. Crooked House (2017) Gilles Paquet-Brenner
  22. Daddy's Home 2 (2017) Sean Anders
  23. Darkest Hour (2017) Joe Wright
  24. Deadly Sanctuary (2017) Nancy Criss
  25. Dean (2016) Demetri Martin
  26. Dirt (2017) Alex Ranarivelo
  27. Disconnected (2017) Anastazja Davis
  28. Different Flowers (2017) Morgan Dameron
  29. Down A Dark Hall (2017) Rodrigo Cortés
  30. Dragonheart: Battle for the Heartfire (2017) Patrik Syversen
  31. Dunkirk (2017) Christopher Nolan
  32. Elizabeth Blue (2017) Vincent Sabella
  33. Everybody Loves Somebody (2017) Catalina Aguilar Mastretta
  34. Everything, Everything (2017) Stella Meghie
  35. Feed (2017) Tommy Bertelsen
  36. Finding Fatimah (2017) Oz Arshad
  37. Flatliners (2017) Niels Arden Oplev
  38. Frantz (2016) François Ozon
  39. Generational Sins (2017) Spencer T. Folmar
  40. Geostorm (2017) Dean Devlin
  41. Ghost in the Shell (2017) Rupert Sanders
  42. Gifted (2017) Marc Webb
  43. Going in Style (2017) Zach Braff
  44. Growing Up Smith (Good Ol’ Boy) (2015) Frank Lotito
  45. Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2 (2017) James Gunn
  46. Happy Death Day (2017) Christopher Landon
  47. Hogan (2017) Jah
  48. Home Again (2017) Hallie Meyers-Shye
  49. How to Be a Latin Lover (2017) Ken Marino
  50. I Am Not Your Negro (2016) Raoul Peck
  51. Intent (2017) Tim Crockett
  52. Journey to the West: The Demons Strike Back (2017) Hark Tsui
  53. Jumanji: Welcome To The Jungle (2017) Jake Kasdan
  54. Just Getting Started (2017) Ron Shelton
  55. Justice League (2017) Zack Snyder & Joss Whedon
  56. Killing Angels (2017) Daniel Rentas
  57. King Arthur: Legend of the Sword (2017) Guy Ritchie
  58. Kong: Skull Island (2017) Jordan Vogt-Roberts
  59. Let There Be Light (2017) Kevin Sorbo
  60. Logan Lucky (2017) Steven Soderbergh
  61. Loving Vincent (2017) Dorota Kobiela &Hugh Welchman
  62. Mamaboy (2017) Aaron Leong
  63. Mark Felt: The Man Who Brought Down the White House (2017) Peter Landesman
  64. Marshall (2017) Reginald Hudlin
  65. Maudie (2016) Aisling Walsh
  66. Megan Leavey (2017) Gabriela Cowperthwaite
  67. Mubarakan (2017) Anees Bazmee
  68. Murder on the Orient Express (2017) Kenneth Branagh
  69. My Cousin Rachel (2017) Roger Michell
  70. My Entire High School Sinking Into the Sea (2016) Dash Shaw
  71. My Life As A Zucchini (2016) Claude Barras
  72. November Criminals (2017) Sacha Gervasi
  73. Only the Brave (2017) Joseph Kosinski
  74. Overdrive (2017) Antonio Negret
  75. Permanent (2017) Colette Burson
  76. Phoenix Forgotten (2017) Justin Barber
  77. Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Men Tell No Tales (2017) Joachim Rønning & Espen Sandberg
  78. Pitch Perfect III (2017) Trish Sie
  79. Please Stand By (2017) Ben Lewin
  80. Poster Boys (2017) Shreyas Talpade
  81. Pottersville (2017) Seth Henrikson
  82. Power Rangers (2017) Dean Israelite
  83. Pray for Rain (2017) Alex Ranarivelo
  84. Rebel in the Rye (2017) Danny Strong
  85. Rememory (2017) Mark Palansky
  86. Renegades (2017) Steven Quale
  87. Rings (2017) F. Javier Gutiérrez
  88. Roman J. Israel, Esq. (2017) Dan Gilroy
  89. Same Kind of Different as Me (2017) Michael Carney
  90. School Life (In Loco Parentis) (2016) Neasa Ní Chianáin & David Rane
  91. Singularity (2017) Robert Kouba
  92. Speech & Debate (2017) Dan Harris
  93. Spider-Man: Homecoming (2017) Jon Watts
  94. SPF-18 (2017) Alex Israel
  95. Star Wars - Episode VIII: The Last Jedi (2017) Rian Johnson
  96. Sinner City (2017) Domini Quinn Supastar
  97. Table 19 (2017) Jeffrey Blitz
  98. The Black Prince (2017) Kavi Raz
  99. The Book of Henry (2017) Colin Trevorrow
  100. The Book of Love (The Devil and the Deep Blue Sea) (2016) Bill Purple
  101. The Boy Downstairs (2017) Sophie Brooks
  102. The Breadwinner (2017) Nora Twomey
  103. The Bye Bye Man (2017) Stacy Title
  104. The Circle (2017) James Ponsoldt
  105. The Dark Tower (2017) Nikolaj Arcel
  106. The Fate of the Furious (2017) F. Gary Gray
  107. The Founder (2016) John Lee Hancock
  108. The Glass Castle (2017) Destin Daniel Cretton
  109. The Good Catholic (2017) Paul Shoulberg
  110. The Gracefield Incident (2017) Mathieu Ratthe
  111. The Great Wall (2017) Zhang Yimou
  112. The Journey (2016) Nick Hamm
  113. The Keeping Hours (2017) Karen Moncrieff
  114. The Lost City Of Z (2016) James Gray
  115. The Mountain Between Us (2017) Hany Abu-Assad
  116. The Mummy (2017) Alex Kurtzman
  117. The Neighborhood (2017) Frank D'Angelo
  118. The Outcasts (2017) Peter Hutchings
  119. The Post (2017) Steven Spielberg
  120. The Salesman (Forushande) (2016) Asghar Farhadi
  121. The Sense of an Ending (2017) Ritesh Batra
  122. The Shack (2017) Stuart Hazeldine
  123. The Space Between Us (2017) Peter Chelsom
  124. The Zookeeper's Wife (2017) Niki Caro
  125. Thor: Ragnarok (2017) Taika Waititi
  126. Til Death Do Us Part (II) (2017) Chris Stokes
  127. Tim Timmerman, Hope of America (2017) Cameron Sawyer
  128. Transformers: The Last Knight (2017) Michael Bay
  129. Tyler Perry's Boo 2! A Madea Halloween (2017) Tyler Perry
  130. Unbelievable!!!!! (2017) Steven L. Fawcette
  131. Undercover Grandpa (2017) Erik Canuel
  132. Un Padre No Tan Padre (2016) Don Servando
  133. Valerian and the City of a Thousand Planets (2017) Luc Besson
  134. Victoria and Abdul (2017) Stephen Frears
  135. Walking Out (2017) Alex Smith & Andrew J. Smith
  136. War for the Planet of the Apes (2017) Matt Reeves
  137. Wish Upon (2017) John R. Leonetti
  138. Wonder Wheel (2017) Woody Allen
  139. Wonder Woman (2017) Patty Jenkins
  140. Wraith (2017) Michael O. Sajbel
  141. xXx: Return of Xander Cage (2017) D.J. Caruso
  1. 1040 Not So EZ (2017) David Nguyen
  2. 12 Deaths of Christmas (Mother Krampus) (2017) James Klass
  3. 13 Minutes (Elser) (2015) Oliver Hirschbiegel
  4. 24 Hours to Live (2017) Brian Smrz
  5. 6 Days (2017) Toa Fraser
  6. 68 Kill (2017) Trent Haaga
  7. 9/11 (2017) Martin Guigui
  8. A Bad Moms Christmas (2017) Jon Lucas & Scott Moore
  9. Abe's Last Poker Game (2017) Howard Weiner
  10. Abracadabra (2017) Pablo Berge
  11. Accident Man (2017) Jesse V. Johnson
  12. Acts Of Vengeance (2017) Isaac Florentine
  13. A Cure For Wellness (2016) Gore Verbinski
  14. A Fantastic Woman (2017) Sebastián Lelio
  15. Aftermath (2017) Elliott Lester
  16. A Ghost Story (2017) David Lowery
  17. Alien: Covenant (2017) Ridley Scott
  18. Alive and Kicking (2016) Susan Glatzer
  19. All Eyez on Me (2017) Benny Boom
  20. All Nighter (2017) Gavin Wiesen
  21. Alone in Berlin (2016) Vincent Pérez
  22. Altitude (2017) Alex Merkin
  23. American Assassin (2017) Michael Cuesta
  24. American Made (2017) Doug Liman
  25. American Satan (2017) Ash Avildsen
  26. Americons (2017) Theo Avgerinos
  27. Annabelle: Creation (2017) David F. Sandberg
  28. Anything (2017) Timothy McNeil
  29. A Prayer Before Dawn (2017) Jean-Stéphane Sauvaire
  30. Armed (2017) Mario Van Peebles
  31. Armed Response (2017) John Stockwell
  32. Arsenal (2017) Steven C. Miller
  33. Asomatous (2017) Harvey Lowry
  34. Atomic Blonde (2017) David Leitch
  35. Awakening the Zodiac (2017) Jonathan Wright
  36. Baby Driver (2017) Edgar Wright
  37. Bad Kids of Crestview Academy (2017) Ben Browder
  38. Band Aid (2017) Zoe Lister-Jones
  39. Battlecreek (2017) Alison Eastwood
  40. Baywatch (2017) Seth Gordon
  41. Beach Rats (2017) Eliza Hittman
  42. Beatriz at Dinner (2017) Miguel Arteta
  43. Berlin Syndrome (2017) Cate Shortland
  44. Better Watch Out (2016) Chris Peckover
  45. Beyond Skyline (2017) Liam O'Donnell
  46. Bitter Harvest (2017) George Mendeluk
  47. Black Butterfly (2017) Brian Goodman
  48. Blade of the Immortal (2017) Takashi Miike
  49. Blade Runner 2049 (2017) Denis Villeneuve
  50. Blind (2017) Michael Mailer
  51. Blood Money (2017) Lucky McKee
  52. Blue Line (2017) Jacob Cooney
  53. Brad's Status (2017) Mike White
  54. Breakable You (2017) Andrew Wagner
  55. Bullet Head (2017) Paul Solet
  56. Busted (2017) Paul D. Hannah
  57. Call Me by Your Name (2017) Luca Guadagnino
  58. Chapter & Verse (2017) Jamal Joseph
  59. Cezanne et moi (2016) Danièle Thompson
  60. CHiPs (2017) Dax Shepard
  61. City Of Ghosts (2017) Matthew Heineman
  62. Colossal (2016) Nacho Vigalondo
  63. Cops And Robbers (2017) Scott Windhauser
  64. Cover Versions (2017) Todd Berger
  65. Crash Pad (2017) Kevin Tent
  66. Cross Wars (2017) Patrick Durham
  67. Crown Heights (2017) Matt Ruskin
  68. Cult of Chucky (2017) Don Mancini
  69. Dark Games (2017) Charles Hage
  70. Detour (2016) Christopher Smith
  71. Detroit (2017) Kathryn Bigelow
  72. Dirty Dealing 3D (2017) Christopher Robin Hood
  73. Do It Like An Hombre (2017) Nicolás López
  74. Eloise (2017) Robert Legato
  75. Escape Room (2017) Will Wernick
  76. Escape Room (2017) Peter Dukes
  77. Extortion (2017) Phil Volken
  78. Father Figures (2017) Lawrence Sher
  79. Fifty Shades Darker (2017) James Foley
  80. Film Stars Don't Die in Liverpool (2017) Paul McGuigan
  81. Final Portrait (2017) Stanley Tucci
  82. Fireangels: A Drifter's Fury (2017) Aeneas Middleton
  83. First Kill (2017) Steven C. Miller
  84. First Reformed (2017) Paul Schrader
  85. Fist Fight (2017) Richie Keen
  86. Free Fire (2016) Ben Wheatley
  87. Fun Mom Dinner (2017) Alethea Jones
  88. Gemini (2017) Aaron Katz
  89. Get Out (2017) Jordan Peele
  90. Get the Girl (2017) Eric England
  91. Girls Trip (2017) Malcolm D. Lee
  92. Gold (2016) Stephen Gaghan
  93. Golden Exits (2017) Alex Ross Perry
  94. Good Time (2017) Benny Safdie & Josh Safdie
  95. Goon: Last of the Enforcers (2017) Jay Baruchel
  96. Gotti (2017) Kevin Connolly
  97. Graduation (Bacalaureat) (2016) Christian Mungiu
  98. Grey Lady (2017) John Shea
  99. Grow House (2017) DJ Pooh
  100. Guerrilla Blood (2017) James D. Froio
  101. Gun Shy (2017) Simon West
  102. Hangman (2017) Johnny Martin
  103. Happy End (2017) Michael Haneke
  104. Hostiles (2017) Scott Cooper
  105. How to Talk to Girls at Parties (2017) John Cameron Mitchell
  106. Hush Money (2017) Terrell Lamont
  107. I, Daniel Blake (2016) Ken Loach
  108. I Do... Until I Don't (2017) Lake Bell
  109. Inconceivable (2017) Jonathan Baker
  110. Ingrid Goes West (2017) Matt Spicer
  111. In Search of Fellini (2017) Taron Lexton
  112. IT (2017) Andy Muschietti
  113. I, Tonya (2017) Craig Gillespie
  114. It Comes at Night (2017) Trey Edward Shults
  115. Jawbone (2017) Thomas Napper
  116. Jeremiah Tower: The Last Magnificent (2016) Lydia Tenaglia
  117. Jigsaw (2017) Michael Spierig & Peter Spierig
  118. John Wick: Chapter 2 (2017) Chad Stahelski
  119. Jungle (2017) Greg McLean
  120. Justice (2017) Richard Gabai
  121. Keep Watching (2017) Sean Carter
  122. Khali the Killer (2017) Jon Matthews
  123. Kickboxer: Retaliation (2017) Dimitri Logothetis
  124. Kidnap (2017) Luis Prieto
  125. Kill 'em All (2017) Peter Malota
  126. Killing Gunther (2017) Taran Killam
  127. Killing Hasselhoff (2017) Darren Grant
  128. Kill Switch (2017) Tim Smit
  129. Kingsman: The Golden Circle (2017) Matthew Vaughn
  130. Krystal (2017) William H. Macy
  131. Lady Bird (2017) Greta Gerwig
  132. Lady Macbeth (2016) William Oldroyd
  133. Lady-Like (2016) Brent Craft
  134. Landline (2017) Gillian Robespierre
  135. Last Flag Flying (2017) Richard Linklater
  136. Last Rampage: The Escape of Gary Tison (2017) Dwight H. Little
  137. Lean on Pete (2017) Andrew Haigh
  138. Leatherface (2017) Alexandre Bustillo & Julien Maury
  139. Life (2017) Daniel Espinosa
  140. Logan (2017) James Mangold
  141. London Heist (Gunned Down) (2017) Mark McQueen
  142. Long Strange Trip (2017) Amir Bar-Lev
  143. Loveless (2017) Andrey Zvyagintsev
  144. Loving Pablo (2017) Fernando León de Aranoa
  145. Mississippi TurntUp (2017) Dewey Allen
  146. Molly's Game (2017) Aaron Sorkin
  147. Mom and Dad (2017) Brian Taylor
  148. mother! (2017) Darren Aronofsky
  149. Mudbound (2017) Dee Rees
  150. My Friend Dahmer (2017) Marc Meyers
  151. Never Here (2017) Camille Thoman
  152. Norman: The Moderate Rise and Tragic Fall of a New York Fixer (2016) Joseph Cedar
  153. Novitiate (2017) Margaret Betts
  154. Once Upon A Time At Christmas (2017) Paul Tanter
  155. One Percent More Humid (2017) Liz W. Garcia
  156. Open Water 3: Cage Dive (2017) Gerald Rascionato
  157. Patti Cake$ (2017) Geremy Jasper
  158. Personal Shopper (2016) Olivier Assayas
  159. Phantom Thread (2017) Paul Thomas Anderson
  160. Professor Marston and the Wonder Women (2017) Angela Robinson
  161. Psychos (2017) Sandy Chukhadarian
  162. Raw (Grave) (2016) Julia Ducournau
  163. Resident Evil: The Final Chapter (2016) Paul W.S. Anderson
  164. Resident Evil: Vendetta (2017) Takanori Tsujimoto & Alexander Von David
  165. Revolt (2017) Joe Miale
  166. Rough Night (2017) Lucia Aniello
  167. Scorched Earth (2017) Peter Howitt
  168. Security (2017) Alain Desrochers
  169. Shock and Awe (2017) Rob Reiner
  170. Shot Caller (2017) Ric Roman Waugh
  171. Sidney Hall (2017) Shawn Christensen
  172. Sleight (2016) J.D. Dillard
  173. Sleepless (2017) Baran bo Odar
  174. Slumber (2017) Jonathan Hopkins
  175. Small Town Crime (2017) Eshom Nelms & Ian Nelms
  176. Snatched (2017) Jonathan Levine
  177. Sniper: Ultimate Kill (2017) Claudio Fäh
  178. Song to Song (2017) Terrence Malick
  179. Starship Troopers: Traitor of Mars (2017) Shinji Aramaki & Masaru Matsumoto
  180. Stronger (2017) David Gordon Green
  181. Suburbicon (2017) George Clooney
  182. S.W.A.T.: Under Siege (2017) Tony Giglio
  183. Sweet Virginia (2017) Jamie M. Dagg
  184. Swing State (2017) Jonathan Sheldon
  185. Tau (2017) Federico D’Alessandro
  186. T2 Trainspotting (2017) Danny Boyle
  187. Thank You for Your Service (2017) Jason Hall
  188. The Ballad of Lefty Brown (2017) Jared Moshe
  189. The Bad Batch (2016) Ana Lily Amirpour
  190. The Beguiled (2017) Sofia Coppola
  191. The Belko Experiment (2016) Greg McLean
  192. The Best Thanksgiving Ever (2017) J.D. Shapiro
  193. The Big Sick (2017) Michael Showalter
  194. The Clapper (2017) Dito Montiel
  195. The Comedian (2016) Taylor Hackford
  196. The Crash (2017) Aram Rappaport
  197. The Crucifixion (2017) Xavier Gens
  198. The Death Of Stain (2017) Armando Iannucci
  199. The Dinner (2017) Oren Moverman
  200. The Disaster Artist (2017) James Franco
  201. The Exception (2016) David Laveaux
  202. The Florida Project (2017) Sean Baker
  203. The Foreigner (2017) Martin Campbell
  204. The Girl With No Name (2017) James D. Froio
  205. The Girl With All The Gifts (2016) Colm McCarthy
  206. The Guest House (2017) Maria Gargiulo
  207. The Hatching (2017) Michael Anderson
  208. The Hatred (2017) Michael G. Kehoe
  209. The Hatton Garden Job (2017) Ronnie Thompson
  210. The Hero (2017) Brett Haley
  211. The Hitman's Bodyguard (2017) Patrick Hughes
  212. The House (2017) Andrew Jay Cohen
  213. The Hunter's Prayer (2017) Jonathan Mostow
  214. The Insult (2017) Ziad Doueiri
  215. The Killing of a Sacred Deer (2017) Yorgos Lanthimos
  216. The Institute (2017) James Franco & Pamela Romanowsky
  217. Their Finest (2016) Lone Scherfig
  218. The Last Word (2017) Mark Pellington
  219. The Layover (2017) William H. Macy
  220. The Leisure Seeker (2017) Paolo Virzì
  221. The Levelling (2016) Hope Dickson Leach
  222. The Liberator (2017) Ben Lettieri
  223. The Little Hours (2017) Jeff Baena
  224. The Lost Legion (2017) David Kocar & Peters Qubic
  225. The Lovers (2017) Azazel Jacobs
  226. The Man with the Iron Heart (2017) Cédric Jimenez
  227. The Mason Brothers (2017) Keith Sutliff
  228. The Only Living Boy in New York (2017) Marc Webb
  229. The Ottoman Lieutenant (2017) Joseph Ruben
  230. The Recall (2017) Mauro Borrelli
  231. The Rider (2017) Chloé Zhao
  232. The Sandman (2017) Peter Sullivan
  233. The Shape of Water (2017) Guillermo del Toro
  234. The Show (This Is Your Death) (2017) Giancarlo Esposito
  235. The Slider (2017) Carlo Fusco
  236. The Snowman (2017) Tomas Alfredson
  237. The Square (2017) Ruben Östlund
  238. The Strange Ones (2017) Christopher Radcliff & Lauren Wolkstein
  239. The Tribes of Palos Verdes (2017) Brendan Malloy & Emmett Malloy
  240. The Trouble with Terkel (2010) Thorbjørn Christoffersen, Stefan Fjeldmark & Randolph Kret
  241. The Wall (2017) Doug Liman
  242. The Wilde Wedding (2017) Damian Harris
  243. Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri (2017) Martin McDonagh
  244. Tommy’s Honour (2016) Jason Connery
  245. Trafficked (2017) Will Wallace
  246. Tragedy Girls (2017) Tyler MacIntyre
  247. Trespass Against Us (2016) Adam Smith
  248. True to the Game (2017) Preston A. Whitmore II
  249. Tulip Fever (2017) Justin Chadwick
  250. Una (2016) Benedict Andrews
  251. Underworld: Blood Wars (2016) Anna Foerster
  252. Unforgettable (2017) Denise Di Novi
  253. Unlocked (2017) Michael Apted
  254. Valley of Bones (2017) Dan Glaser
  255. Vincent N Roxxy (2016) Gary Michael Schultz
  256. Voice from the Stone (2017) Eric D. Howell
  257. We Don't Belong Here (2017) Peer Pedersen
  258. Where's the Money (2017) Scott Zabielski
  259. Whose Streets? (2017) Sabaah Folayan & Damon Davis
  260. Wilson (2017) Craig Johnson
  261. Wind River (2017) Taylor Sheridan
  262. Wolves (2016) Bart Freundlich
  263. Woodshock (2017) Kate Mulleavy & Laura Mulleavy
  264. XX (2017) Roxanne Benjamin, Karyn Kusama, St. Vincent & Jovanka Vuckovic
  265. You Can't Have It (2017) André Gordon
Uncertain of release year for this at this time:
  1. All The Money In The World (2017?) Ridley Scott
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2017.10.14 15:31 Nebraska_Actually [Countdown To Tip-Off] Southland Conference

Southland Southland Conference

Conference RPI: 0.4481 (27th of 32)
Conference SOS: 0.4547 (27th of 32)
Champion: Central Arkansas Central Arkansas
2016-17 Final Standings
School Conference Overall Postseason
Central Arkansas Central Arkansas 16-2 26-5 NCAA 1st Round
Abilene Christian Abilene Christian 16-2 23-9 WNIT 2nd Round
Lamar Lamar 15-3 22-8 WBI 1st Round
Stephen F. Austin Stephen F Austin 14-4 25-8 None
New Orleans New Orleans 9-9 14-15 None
McNeese McNeese 8-10 14-17 None
Texas A&M-Corpus Christi Texas A&M-Corpus Christi 8-10 14-18 None
Northwestern State Northwestern State 7-11 13-17 None
Nicholls Nicholls 7-11 10-20 None
Incarnate Word Incarnate Word 7-11 9-20 None
Houston Baptist Houston Baptist 4-14 6-22 None
Southeastern Louisiana Southeastern Louisiana 3-15 5-24 None
Sam Houston State Sam Houston State 3-15 3-25 None

Preseason All-Southland

New Orleans Randi Brown
Lamar Kiandre Bowers
Lamar Moe Kinard
Lamar Chastadie Barrs
Southeastern Louisiana Taylin Underwood
School 2017-18 Outlook
Abilene Christian Abilene Christian Despite a 16-2 conference record, ACU did not participate in the Southland Conference Tournament due to their transition to Division 1. This transition made them ineligible for the NCAA Tournament, but afforded them an invite to the WNIT. The Wildcats lose 4 of their 5 starters accounting for more than 70% of their scoring. Included in their losses are 2nd team All-Southland Alexis Mason, and twins Suzzy Dimba (1st team All-Conference) and Lizzy Dimba (3rd team All-Conference). The top returner is sophomore Breanna Wright (5.5 PPG, 3.7 APG). ACU will need some of their many underclassmen to step up in order to compete in the Southland this season. The most intriguing matchup on their schedule is a November 21 road game vs. SMU. SMU knocked Abilene Christian out of the WNIT last season, also played in Dallas.
Central Arkansas Central Arkansas UCA loses their top player and leading scorer Maggie Proffitt from last year (15.6 PPG, 67 3PM). They also lost their two best defensive weapons, Southland All-Defensive team member Raquel Logan (46 Blks, 34 Stls) and Brianna Mullins (40 stls). They do return their #2 and #3 scorers in Kierra Jordan (3rd team All-Conference, 13.4 PPG) and Taylor Baudoin (11.9 PPG). A schedule of self-harm includes road games against Baylor, Tennessee, and Texas A&M. Home games include NCAA D3 Hendrix College, NAIA Crowley’s Ridge, and NAIA Central Baptist.
Houston Baptist Houston Baptist Despite being a struggling program, HBU was a school that successfully escaped from the clutches of a sinking Great West Conference. Despite a 6-24 campaign, the road ahead looks to be even more difficult than last; HBU loses the top two scorers Lisa Zderadicka (11.0 PPG) and Heidi Byrd (7.9 PPG) from a team that averaged only 54.7 PPG in the first place (good for 327th nationwide). The biggest money game for Houston Baptist is a November 12 date with South Florida, but they also have road games against Rice, Oral Roberts, UTEP, UL Monroe, and La Tech. Of the four home games played in the non-conference, none are against Division 1 opponents.
Incarnate Word Incarnate Word I don’t know how a 9-20 team can have a 2nd team All-Conference player, but UIW had it in Celia Garcia Paunero (17.2 PPG, 11.6 RPG). The Cardinals will have big shoes to fill after her graduation. Fortunately their next best player is Southland Freshman of the Year Imani Robinson (12.2 PPG, 6.1 RPG). The Cardinals will rely far more heavily on Robinson, as she logged just 25.7 minutes per game and 10 starts. Big time games for UIW include Oklahoma State, Utah, Texas Tech, and a home game against Summit League heavyweight South Dakota.
Lamar Lamar Lamar returns some real talent, including Defensive Player of the Year Chastadie Barrs (4.7 Stls/Gm) and 2nd team All-Conference Moe Kinard (15.3 PPG). The Cardinals may also get back 2nd team All-Conference player Kiandra Bowers (14.3 PPG, 10.5 RPG), depending on how eligibility shakes out. Lamar had the misfortune of playing against eventual WBI Champion Rice in the 1st round of the tournament. They lost by just 1 point on the road. Their high-powered offense finished 37th nationally in scoring, expect the Cardinals to stay up there again this year. Schedule unreleased as of 9/18.
McNeese McNeese The Cowgirls didn’t have a standout year last year, which is bad because they also lose their top 2 scorers from last season’s campaign. The good news is they return their top rebounder, senior forward Frederica Haywood, who is poised to average a double-double this season. They also return their slashing PG Caitlin Davis, who led the team in assists (103) and free-throw attempts (152). Trips to Texas, Baylor, Louisiana Tech, and SMU make up a tough schedule, but they have a big home game when AAC opponent Tulane comes to town on November 29. Tulane made waves last season when they took UConn to the wire in conference play, ending in a 63-60 loss.
New Orleans New Orleans The Privateers are poised to make a run at the top of the Southland this year. They return 1st team All-Conference and Southland scoring leader Randi Brown (23.9 PPG, 85 3PM). Brown also led the team in steals (54) and assists (77). The Privateers also return their leading rebounder in junior Shania Woods (7.4 RPG).
Nicholls Nicholls The Colonels return top player and 3rd team All-Conference Cassidy Barrios. Barrios led Nicholls all major statistical categories (15.4 PPG, 7.3 RPG, 2.8 APG) and also led the team in blocks (26). The Colonels will rely heavily on her once again as they try to find replacements for Hope Pawlowski and Emani White. Sophomore Tykeria Williams should be stepping up (10.9 PPG, 84 Stls). Nicholls have LSU, Baylor and Iowa State on their non-conference slate, balanced out by Jackson State, Mississippi Valley State, NCAA D2 Spring Hill, plus NAIA Evangel and Southern University of New Orleans.
Northwestern State Northwestern State NSU loses their key player, 1st team All-Conference Beatrice Attura (20.6 PPG, 5.1 APG), but returns top rebounder in junior Cheyenne Brown (14.9 PPG, 6.7 RPG). The Demons finished the year 5th in team FT%, which is vital when scoring is lacking, and scorers will be hard to find this year.
Sam Houston State Sam Houston State A rough 2016-17 campaign included a loss to NAIA Wiley College early in the season. The Bearkats keep their top scorer (Jenniffer Oramas, 9.1 PPG) and top rebounder Lydia Baxter (6.6 RPG), but it may not be enough to outperform last year by much. They averaged just 52.9 PPG as a team last year, ranking 338th overall. The Bearkats will get a rematch when Wiley College returns on November 17, and a money game against LSU over winter break. They are fortunate enough to schedule 6 home games in the non-conference season, including four against Division 1 opponents.
Southeastern Louisiana Southeastern Louisiana SLU was a very young team last year, with only one contributing senior on the roster (Chey Stewart, 5.5 PPG). The Lions return their top 5 scorers, highlighted by 3rd team All-Conference Taylin Underwood, the team leader in points (18.6 PPG), rebounds (130), assists (90), and 2nd in steals (42). By all accounts this team has the depth to move up in the Southland, it’s just a matter of how far. The non-conference includes tougher games at LSU, TCU, Auburn, and Cincinnati, and winnable games against Alabama A&M, Alcorn State, and Akron.
Stephen F. Austin Stephen F Austin SFA must fill the void left by graduating Southland Player of the Year Taylor Ross (19.2 PPG, 4.6 APG). The Jacks’ top returning player is redshirt senior Stevi Parker (11.2 PPG, 8.6 RPG). The next best scorer returning is Kennedy Harris (5.6 PPG). Tough games on their schedule include Kansas State, South Dakota and Montana, but it really falls off quickly after that. With what the Jacks have coming back, it will be difficult to fight for the top of the Southland this season.
Texas A&M-Corpus Christi Texas A&M-Corpus Christi The Islanders have a healthy smattering of upper- and underclassmen, which is good because nobody really stood out in any statistical category last year. The leading scorer (Brittany Mbamalu) averaged 9.3 PPG, the leading rebounder (Camesha Davis) averaged 5.9 RPG, and the assists leader (Emma Young) averaged 1.6 APG. This is a win-by-committee team, and they did a fair amount of it despite not having any standouts last year, finishing 14-18 overall. The Islanders look to be piling in some wins before conference play, with their toughest game being a road test against WAC leader New Mexico State. Otherwise they have NCAA D3 Texas Lutheran and McMurray being the only participants in the “Texas A&M-Corpus Christi Classic,” 2 games against UTRGV, NCAA D2 Texas A&M International, NAIA St. Thomas (Houston), Prairie View A&M and Florida A&M. All they are missing is Chicago State.


School Coach Season
Abilene Christian Abilene Christian Julie Goodenough 6th
Central Arkansas Central Arkansas Sandra Rushing 6th
Houston Baptist Houston Baptist Donna Finnie 5th
Incarnate Word Incarnate Word Christy Smith 2nd
Lamar Lamar Robin Harmony 5th
McNeese McNeese Kacie Cryer 2nd
New Orleans New Orleans Keeshawn Davenport 7th
Nicholls Nicholls Dobee Plaisance 10th
Northwestern State Northwestern State Jordan Dupuy 2nd
Sam Houston State Sam Houston State Brenda Welch-Nichols 12th
Southeastern Louisiana Southeastern Louisiana Ayla Guzzardo 1st
Stephen F. Austin Stephen F. Austin Mark Kellogg 3rd
Texas A&M-Corpus Christi Texas A&M-Corpus Christi Royce Chadwick 6th
Champion Prediction: Lamar Lamar
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2017.06.20 08:04 tombstoneshadows28 All of the MPAA/CARA-rated films of 2012 (out of the 8,309 films released worldwide that year.)

  1. Chasing Rodriguez (Director: Jeff Mosley)
  2. Journey To The Christmas Star (Director: Nils Gaup)
  3. Life’s A Jungle: Africa’s Most Wanted (Director: Robert D. Hanna)
  4. Little Brother, Big Trouble: A Christmas Adventure (Directors: Kari Juusonen, Jørgen Lerdam)
  5. Santa Paws 2: The Santa Pups (Director: Robert Vince)
  6. Secret Of The Wings (Directors: Roberts Gannaway + Peggy Holmes)
  7. The Oogieloves In The Big Balloon Adventure (Director: Matthew Diamond)
  8. This Shining Light (Directors: Keith Oncale + Shawn Washburn)
  9. Vampire Dog (Director: Geoff Anderson)
  10. Wings (Director: Olga Lopato)
  11. Zambezia (Director: Wayne Thornley)
  1. 12 Dogs Of Christmas: Great Puppy Rescue (Director: Kieth Merrill)
  2. 16-Love (Director: Adam Lipsius)
  3. 40 Point Plan (Director: Eric. W. Williams)
  4. Abel’s Field (Director: Gordie Haakstad)
  5. Adventure Planet (Director: Kompin Kemgumnird)
  6. AquaTales (Directors: Ivan Oneka + Gorka Vázquezj)
  7. Back To The Sea (Director: Thom Lu)
  8. Backwards (Director: Ben Hickernell)
  9. Big Miracle (Director: Ken Kwapis)
  10. Bol Bachchan (Director: Rohit Shetty)
  11. Brave (Directors: Mark Andrews, Brenda Chapman + Steve Purcell)
  12. Champions Of The Deep (Director: Baxter Churchville)
  13. Charly 10th Anniversary Encore (Director: Adam Thomas Anderegg)
  14. Chasing Mavericks (Directors: Michael Apted + Curtis Hanson)
  15. Cheerful Weather For The Wedding (Director: Donal Rice)
  16. Chick Magnets (Director: Brian Douros)
  17. Christmas Oranges (Director: John Lyde)
  18. Cinderella 3D (Director: Pascal Hérold)
  19. Cinnamon (Director: Jordi Mariscal)
  20. Cirque du Soleil: Worlds Away (Director: Andrew Adamson)
  21. Cole Younger & The Black Train (Director: Christopher Forbes)
  22. Cowgirls ‘n Angels (Director: Timothy Armstrong)
  23. Crazy Enough (Director: Lance McDaniel)
  24. Delhi Safari (Director: Nikkhil Advani)
  25. Derby Dogs (Director: Tony Simpson)
  26. Diary Of A Wimpy Kid: Dog Days (Director: David Bowers)
  27. Dino Time (Directors: Yoon-suk Choi + John Kafka)
  28. Dorothy And The Witches Of Oz (Director: Leigh Scott)
  29. Ekk Deewana Tha (Director: Gautham Menon)
  30. Ernest & Celestine (Directors: Stéphane Aubier, Vincent Patar + Benjamin Renner)
  31. Fill The Void (Director: Rama Burshtein)
  32. Foodfight! (Director: Lawrence Kasanoff)
  33. Frankenweenie (Director: Tim Burton)
  34. Gladiators Of Rome (Director: Iginio Straffi)
  35. Heart Land (Director: Fred Holmes)
  36. Hercules Saves Christmas (Director: Edward Hightower)
  37. Here Comes The Boom (Director: Frank Coraci)
  38. Hotel Transylvania (Director: Genndy Tartakovsky)
  39. I Heart Shakey (Director: Kevin Cooper)
  40. Ice Age: Continental Drift (Directors: Steve Martino + Mike Thurmeier)
  41. Ivan The Incredible (Director: Michael Hegner)
  42. Jonas (Director: Adam Rehmeier)
  43. Journey 2: The Mysterious Island (Director: Brad Peyton)
  44. Last Ounce Of Courage (Directors: Darrel Campbell + Kevin McAfee)
  45. Life Of Pi (Director: Ang Lee)
  46. Little Red Wagon (Director: David Anspaugh)
  47. Madagascar III: Europe’s Most Wanted (Directors: Eric Darnell, Tom McGrath + Conrad Vernon)
  48. Madam Butterfly 3D (Director: Julian Napier)
  49. Mirror Mirror (Director: Tarsem Singh)
  50. Not That Funny (Director: Lauralee Farrer)
  51. Outback (Director: Kyung Ho Lee)
  52. Papa (Director: Ji-Seung Han)
  53. ParaNorman (Directors: Chris Butler + Sam Fell)
  54. Parental Guidance (Director: Andy Fickman)
  55. Primates Of The Caribbean (Marco Macaco) (Director: Jan Rahbek)
  56. Rise Of The Guardians (Director: Peter Ramsey)
  57. Sky Force 3D (Director: Tony Tang)
  58. Smitty (Director: David Mickey Evans)
  59. Snow Queen (Directors: Vladlen Barbe + Maksim Sveshnikov)
  60. Stealing Roses (Director: Megan Clare Johnson)
  61. The Adventures Of Huck Finn (Director: Hermine Huntgeburth)
  62. The Adventures Of Mickey Matson And The Copperhead Treasure (Director: Harold Cronk)
  63. The Robot Giant (Director: Prapas Cholsaranont)
  64. The Illusionauts (Director: Eduardo Schuldt)
  65. The Lorax (Directors: Chris Renaud + Kyle Balda)
  66. The Magic Of Belle Isle (Director: Rob Reiner)
  67. The Odd Life Of Timothy Green (Director: Peter Hedges)
  68. The Pirates! Band Of Misfits (Directors: Peter Lord + Jeff Newitt)
  69. The Reef II: High Tide (Directors: Mark A.Z. Dippé + Taedong Park)
  70. The Swan Princess Christmas (Director: Richard Rich)
  71. The Three Stooges (Directors: Bobby Farrelly + Peter Farrelly)
  72. The Woodcarver (Director: Terry Ingram)
  73. Thunderstruck (Director: John Whitesell)
  74. Unicorn City (Director: Bryan Lefler)
  75. Victor and the Secret of Crocodile Mansion (Directors: Cyrill Boss + Philipp Stennert)
  76. Wadjda (Director: Haifaa Al-Mansour)
  77. We Are Family (Director: Renat Davletyarov)
  78. White Men Can’t Dance (Director: Pete Vinal)
  79. Wolf Children (Director: Mamoru Hosoda)
  80. Wolf Dog (Director: Bernadine Santistevan)
  81. Won’t Back Down (Director: Daniel Barnz)
  82. Wordlessness (Director: Daryush Shokof)
  83. Wreck-It Ralph (Director: Rich Moore)
  1. A Beautiful Soul (Director: Jeffrey W. Byrd)
  2. A Measure Of Faith (Director: Dalas Davis)
  3. A Thousand Words (Director: Brian Robbins)
  4. After (Director: Ryan Smith)
  5. Alex Cross (Director: Rob Cohen)
  6. Amour (Director: Michael Haneke)
  7. Angus Buchan’s Ordinary People (Director: F.C. Hamman)
  8. Atlas Shrugged II: The Strike (Director: John Putch)
  9. Barbara (Director: Christian Petzold)
  10. Barricade (Director: Andrew Currie)
  11. Battlefield America (Director: Chris Stokes)
  12. Battleship (Director: Peter Berg)
  13. Beasts Of The Southern Wild (Director: Benh Zeitlin)
  14. Bending The Rules (Director: Artie Mandelberg)
  15. Best Man Down (Director: Ted Koland)
  16. Beyond (Director: Josef Rusnak)
  17. Blue Like Jazz (Director: Steve Taylor)
  18. Chinese Zodiac (Director: Jackie Chan)
  19. Christmas In Compton (Director: David Raynr)
  20. Chronicle (Director: Josh Trank)
  21. Columbus Circle (Director: George Gallo)
  22. Croczilla (Director: Lisheng Lin)
  23. Crooked Arrows (Director: Steve Rash)
  24. Crossroad (Director: Shervin Youssefian)
  25. Dark Shadows (Director: Tim Burton)
  26. Dark Tide (Director: John Stockwell)
  27. Darling Companion (Director: Lawrence Kasdan)
  28. Deadline (Director: Curt Hahn)
  29. Deep In The Heart (Director: Christopher Cain)
  30. Desperate Endeavors (Director: Salim Khassa)
  31. Emperor (Director: Peter Webber)
  32. Firefall: An Epic Family Adventure (Director: Matthew Sconce)
  33. Frequency (Director: Jeff Prince)
  34. Fun Size (Director: Josh Schwartz)
  35. Gambit (Director: Michael Hoffman)
  36. General Education (Director: Tom Morris)
  37. Ginger & Rosa (Director: Sally Potter)
  38. Girl Most Likely (Directors: Shari Springer Berman + Robert Pulcini)
  39. Girl In Progress (Director: Patricia Riggen)
  40. Gone (Director: Heitor Dhalia)
  41. Good Deeds (Director: Tyler Perry)
  42. Great Expectations (Director: Mike Newell)
  43. Greencastle (Director: Koran Dunbar)
  44. Hardflip (Director: Johnny Remo)
  45. Hatfields And McCoys: Bad Blood (Director: Fred Olen Ray)
  46. Hattrick (Director: Robert Ronny)
  47. Haute Cuisine (Director: Christian Vincent)
  48. Hitchcock (Director: Sacha Gervasi)
  49. Hope Springs (Director: David Frankel)
  50. House At The End Of The Street (Director: Mark Tonderai)
  51. Iniquity (Director: Joshua Coates)
  52. Jack Reacher (Director: Christopher McQuarrie)
  53. John Carter (Director: Andrew Stanton)
  54. Joyful Noise (Director: Todd Graff)
  55. Judge Archer (Director: Haofeng Xu)
  56. Kon-Tiki (Directors: Joachim Rønning + Espen Sandberg)
  57. LOL (Director: Lisa Azuelos)
  58. Le Chef (Director: Daniel Cohen)
  59. Les Misérables (Director: Tom Hooper)
  60. Liberal Arts (Director: Josh Radnor)
  61. Lincoln (Director: Steven Spielberg)
  62. Lockout (Director: James Mather + Stephen St. Leger)
  63. London Paris New York (Director: Anu Menon)
  64. Madea’s Witness Protection (Director: Tyler Perry)
  65. Man On A Ledge (Director: Asger Leth)
  66. Margarine Wars (Director: David Rich)
  67. Moonrise Kingdom (Director: Wes Anderson)
  68. Mr. Pip (Director: Andrew Adamson)
  69. Much Ado About Nothing (Director: Joss Whedon)
  70. Mud (Director: Jeff Nichols)
  71. My Uncle Rafael (Director: Marc Fusco)
  72. Nesting (Director: John Chuldenko)
  73. No One Will Know (Director: Raj Rohit Reddy)
  74. Now Is Good (Director: Ol Parker)
  75. One For The Money (Director: Julie Anne Robinson)
  76. People Like Us (Director: Alex Kurtzman)
  77. Pitch Perfect (Director: Jason Moore)
  78. Playing For Keeps (Director: Gabriel Muccino)
  79. Premium Rush (Director: David Koepp)
  80. Quartet (Director: Dustin Hoffman)
  81. Red Dawn (Director: Dan Bradley)
  82. Red Tails (Director: Anthony Hemingway)
  83. Refugee From The Storm (Director: Elias Acosta)
  84. Robot & Frank (Director: Jake Schreier)
  85. Rock Of Ages (Director: Adam Shankman)
  86. Roxy (Director: Larry Giorgio)
  87. Saints And Soldiers: Airborne Creed (Director: Ryan Little)
  88. Shanghai Calling (Director: Daniel Hsia)
  89. Skyfall (Director: Sam Mendes)
  90. Sleepwalk With Me (Directors: Mike Birbiglia + Seth Barrish)
  91. Snow White (Director: Pablo Berger)
  92. Snow White And The Huntsman (Director: Rupert Sanders)
  93. Snow White: A Deadly Summer (Director: David DeCoteau)
  94. So Undercover (Director: Tom Vaughn)
  95. Sol (Director: Ben Carland)
  96. Spare Time Killers (Director: Jay Tando)
  97. Sparkle (Director: Salim Akil)
  98. Step Up: Revolution (Director: Scott Speer)
  99. Still Mine (Director: Michael McGowan)
  100. Swan Lake (Directors: Ross MacGibbon + Matthew Bourne)
  101. Tai Chi Zero (Director: Stephen Fung)
  102. Taken II (Director: Olivier megaton)
  103. The Amazing Spider-Man (Director: Marc Webb)
  104. The Apparition (Director: Todd Lincoln)
  105. The Avengers (Director: Joss Whedon)
  106. The Bourne Legacy (Director: Tony Gilroy)
  107. The Citizen (Director: Sam Kadi)
  108. The Cold Light Of Day (Director: Mabrouk El Mechri)
  109. The Dark Night Rises (Director: Christopher Nolan)
  110. The Dinosaur Project (Director: Sid Bennett)
  111. The First Time (Director: Jon Kasdan)
  112. The Fitzgerald Family Christmas (Director: Edward Burns)
  113. The Forger (Director: Lawrence Roeck)
  114. The Frontier Boys (Director: John Grooters)
  115. The Frozen (Director: Andrew Hyatt)
  116. The Giant Mechanical Man (Director: Lee Kirk)
  117. The Girl (Director: David Riker)
  118. The Guilt Trip (Director: Anne Fletcher)
  119. The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey (Director: Peter Jackson)
  120. The Impossible (Director: J.A. Bayona)
  121. The Lucky One (Director: Scott Hicks)
  122. The Message (Director: Thomas P. Clay)
  123. The Mine (Director: Jeff Chamberlain)
  124. The Obama Effect (Director: Charles S. Dutton)
  125. The Other Son (Director: Lorraine Lévy)
  126. The Perks Of Being A Wallflower (Director: Stephen Chbosky)
  127. The Possession (Director: Ole Bornedal)
  128. The Sapphires (Director: Wayne Blair)
  129. The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn (Pt. 2) (Director: Bill Condon)
  130. The Vow (Director: Michael Sucsy)
  131. The Woman In Black (Director: James Watkins)
  132. The Words (Directors: Brian Klugman + Lee Sternthal)
  133. The Worm And The Poodle (Director: Amy Thorstenson)
  134. Think Like A Man (Director: Tim Story)
  135. Tiger Eyes (Director: Lawrence Blume)
  136. To Write Love On Her Arms (Director: Nathan Frankowski)
  137. Total Recall (Director: Len Wiseman)
  138. Trade Of Innocents (Director: Christopher M. Bessette)
  139. Transit (Director: Antonio Negret)
  140. Trouble With The Curve (Director: Robert Lorenz)
  141. Unconditional (Director: Brent McCorkle)
  142. Unfinished Song (Director: Paul Andrew Williams)
  143. Unleashing Roy (Director: Jack Stanis)
  144. Unstable (Director: Michael Feifer)
  145. Unwitting Victims (Director: Peter Winter Byington)
  146. Upside Down (Director: Juan Solanas)
  147. Vamps (Director: Amy Heckerling)
  148. War Flowers (Director: Serge Rodnunsky)
  149. War Of The Worlds: Goliath (Director: Joe Pearson)
  150. What To Expect When You’re Expecting (Director: Kirk Jones)
  151. Woman Thou Art Loosed: On the 7th Day (Director: Neema Barnette)
  152. Wrath Of The Titans (Director: Jonathan Liebesman)
  1. 100 Ghost Street: The Return Of Richard Speck (Director: Martin Wichmann)
  2. 12/12/12 (Director: Jared Cohn)
  3. 2 Days In New York (Director: Julie Delpy)
  4. 21 Jump Street (Directors: Phil Lord + Christopher Miller)
  5. 30 Beats (Director: Alexis Lloyd)
  6. 6 Bullets (Director: Ernie Barbarash)
  7. 6 Plots (Director: Leigh Sheehan)
  8. 7 Below (Director: Kevin Carraway)
  9. A Dark Truth (Director: Damian Lee)
  10. A Fantastic Fear Of Everything (Directors: Crispian Mills, + Chris Hopewell)
  11. A Glimpse Inside the Mind of Charles Swan III (Director: Roman Coppola)
  12. A Hijacking (Director: Tobias Lindholm)
  13. A Kiss And A Promise (Director: Phillip Guzman)
  14. A Late Quartet (Director: Yaron Zilberman)
  15. A Liar's Autobiography: The Untrue Story of Monty Python's Graham Chapman (Directors: Bill Jones, Jeff Simpson + Ben Timlett)
  16. A Little Bit Zombie (Director: Casey Walker)
  17. A Royal Affair (Director: Nikolaj Arcel)
  18. ATM (Director: David Brooks)
  19. About Cherry (Director: Stephen Elliott)
  20. Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter (Director: Timur Bekmambetov)
  21. Act Of Valor (Directors: Mike McCoy + Scott Waugh)
  22. Aftershock (Director: Nicolás López)
  23. Alien Dawn (Director: Neil Johnson)
  24. Alien Uprising (Director: Dominic Burns)
  25. Allegiance (Director: Michael Connors)
  26. Alter Egos (Director: Jordan Galland)
  27. Amber Alert (Director: Kerry Bellessa)
  28. Ambush At Dark Canyon (Director: Dustin Rikert)
  29. American Mary (Director: Jen Soska + Sylvia Soska)
  30. American Reunion (Directors: Jon Hurwitz + Hayden Schlossberg)
  31. Among Friends (Director: Danielle Harris)
  32. And While We Were Here (Director: Kat Coiro)
  33. Android Insurrection (Director: Andrew Bellware)
  34. Anna Karenina (Director: Joe Wright)
  35. Any Day Now (Director: Travis Fine)
  36. Apartment 1303 3D (Director: Michael Taverna)
  37. Arbitrage (Director: Nicholas Jarecki)
  38. Argo (Director: Ben Affleck)
  39. Armynel (Director: Lance Dumais)
  40. Arthur Newman (Director: Dante Ariola)
  41. Assassin’s Bullet (Director: Isaac Florentine)
  42. At Any Price (Director: Ramin Bahrani)
  43. Attack of the 50 Foot Cheerleader (Director: Kevin O’Neill)
  44. August. Eighth (Director: Dzhanik Fayziev)
  45. Axed (Director: Ryan Lee Driscoll)
  46. Bachelorette (Director: Leslye Headland)
  47. Bad Ass (Director: Craig Moss)
  48. Bad Blood (Director: Conrad Janis)
  49. Bad Karma (Director: Suri Krishnamma)
  50. Bad Kids Go To Hell (Director: Matthew Spradlin)
  51. Bait (Director: Kimble Rendall)
  52. Battle Force (Director: Scott Martin)
  53. Barrio Tales (Director: Jarrett Tarnol)
  54. Becoming Redwood (Director: Jesse James Miller)
  55. Being Flynn (Director: Paul Weitz)
  56. Bel Ami (Directors: Declan Donnellan + Nick Ormerod)
  57. Between Us (Director: Dan Mirvish)
  58. Beyond Outrage (Director: Takeshi Kitano)
  59. Beyond The Trophy (Director: Daniel J. Gillin)
  60. Bigfoot County (Director: Stephon Stewart)
  61. Bindlestiffs (Director: Andrew Edison)
  62. Birds Of A Feather (Director: Curtis Franklin)
  63. Black Box (Director: Matthew Schilling)
  64. Black Rock (Director: Katie Aselton)
  65. Black’s Game (Director: Óskar Thór Axelsson)
  66. Blood Money (Director: Gregory McQualter)
  67. Bloodwork (Director: Eric Wostenberg)
  68. Book Of 1000 Deaths (Directors: Andretti Dante + Shavsha Israel)
  69. Border Run (Director: Gabriela Tagliavini)
  70. Born Wild (Director Dustin Rikert)
  71. Brake (Director: Gabe Torres)
  72. Branded (Directors: Jamie Bradshaw + Alexander Dulerayn)
  73. Brawl (Directors: Julaluck Ismalone + David Ismalone)
  74. Breaking Wind (Director: Craig Moss)
  75. Breathless (Director: Jesse Baget)
  76. Bro' (Director: Nick Parada)
  77. Broken Faith (Directors: Ricki Holmes + Danny Rogers)
  78. Bullet To The Head (Director: Walter Hill)
  79. Butcher Boys (Directors: Duane Graves + Justine Meeks)
  80. Byzantium (Director: Neil Jordan)
  81. C’mon Man (Director: Kenny Young)
  82. Capital (Director: Costa-Gavras)
  83. Casa de mi Padre (Director: Matt Piedmont)
  84. Celeste & Jesse Forever (Director: Lee Toland Krieger)
  85. Chained (Director: Jennifer Lynch)
  86. Changing The Game (Director: Rel Dowdell)
  87. Chernobyl Diaries (Director: Bradley Parker)
  88. Children Of Sorrow (Director: Jourdan McClure)
  89. Citadel (Director: Ciarán Foy)
  90. Cloud Atlas (Directors: Tom Tykwer, Lana Wachowski + Lilly Wachowski)
  91. Cold War (Directors: Lok Man Leung + Kim-Ching Luk)
  92. Come Out And Play (Director: Makinov)
  93. Compliance (Director: Craig Zobel)
  94. Contraband (Director: Baltasar Kormákur)
  95. Cosmopolis (Director: David Cronenberg)
  96. Crew 2 Crew (Director: Mark Bacci)
  97. Critical Decisions (Directors: Carl June + Louis Libran)
  98. Crowsnest (Director: Brenton Spencer)
  99. Dark Tourist (Director: Suri Krishnamma)
  100. Dawn Rider (Director: Terry Miles)
  101. Dead Before Dawn 3D (Director: April Mullen)
  102. Deadfall (Director: Stefan Ruzowitzky)
  103. Disconnect (Director: Henry Alex Rubin)
  104. Django Unchained (Director: Quentin Tarantino)
  105. Doc. 33 (Director: Giacomo Gabrielli)
  106. Dragon Eyes (Director: John Hyams)
  107. Dredd (Director: Pete Travis)
  108. Drug War (Director: Johnnie To)
  109. Easy Rider II: The Ride Home (Director: Dustin Rikert)
  110. Eden (Director: Megan Griffiths)
  111. El Gringo (Director: Eduardo Rodriguez)
  112. Electrick Children (Director: Rebecca Thomas)
  113. Elfie Hopkins: Cannibal Hunter (Director: Ryan Andrews)
  114. End Roll (Directors: Giacomo Gabrielli + Daniele Misischia)
  115. End Of Watch (Director: David Ayer)
  116. Erased (Director: Philipp Stölzl)
  117. Everybody Has A Plan (Director: Ana Piterbarg)
  118. Extraction (Director: Nir Paniry)
  119. FDR: American Badass! (Director: Garrett Brawith)
  120. Farewell, My Queen (Director: Benoît Jacquot)
  121. Fat Kid Rules The World (Director: Matthew Lillard)
  122. Filly Brown (Directors: Youssef Delara + Michael D. Olmos)
  123. Fire With Fire (Director: David Barrett)
  124. Flight (Director: Robert Zemeckis)
  125. For Greater Glory: The True Story Of Cristiada (Director: Dean Wright)
  126. For A Good Time, Call... (Director: Jamie Travis)
  127. For The Love Of Money (Director: Ellie Kanner)
  128. Four (Director: Joshua Sanchez)
  129. Frances Ha (Director: Noah Baumbach)
  130. Freaky Deaky (Director: Charles Matthau)
  131. Free Samples (Director: Jay Gammill)
  132. Freelancers (Director: Jessy Terrero)
  133. Freeloaders (Director: Dan Rosen)
  134. Funeral Kings (Directors: Kevin McManus + Matthew McManus)
  135. Gallowwalkers (Director: Andrew Goth)
  136. Generation Um... (Director: Mark Mann)
  137. Get The Gringo (Director: Adrian Grunberg)
  138. Ghost Graduation (Director: Javier Ruiz Caldera)
  139. Girls Against Boys (Director: Austin Chick)
  140. Girls Gone Dead (Directors: Michael Hoffman, Jr. + Aaron T. Wells)
  141. Goats (Director: Christopher Neil)
  142. Grassroots (Director: Stephen Gyllenhaal)
  143. Greystone Park (Director: Sean Stone)
  144. Heathens And Thieves (Director: Megan Peterson + John Douglas Sinclair)
  145. Hellbenders (Director: J.T. Petty)
  146. Hello I Must Be Going (Director: Todd Louiso)
  147. Highway (Director: Coke Daniels)
  148. Hijacked (Director: Brandon Nutt)
  149. Hirokin: The Last Samurai (Director: Alejo Mo-Sun)
  150. Hit And Run (Directors: David Palmer + Dax Shepard)
  151. Hold Your Breath (Director: Jared Cohn)
  152. House Arrest (Director: William Washington)
  153. Hyde Park On Hudson (Director: Roger Michell)
  154. If I Were You (Director: Joan Carr-Wiggin)
  155. In The Hive (Director: Robert Townsend)
  156. In The House (Director: François Ozon)
  157. Inch-Allah (Director: Anaïs Barbeau-Lavalette)
  158. Inescapable (Director: Ruba Nadda)
  159. Infected (Director: Glenn Ciano)
  160. Inhuman Resources (Director: Daniel Krige)
  161. Into The White (Director: Petter Næss)
  162. Iron Sky (Director: Timo Vuorensola)
  163. It’s A Disaster (Director: Todd Berger)
  164. Jack & Diane (Director: Bradley Rust Gray)
  165. Jannat II (Director: Kunal Deshmukh)
  166. Jayne Mansfield’s Car (Director: Billy Bob Thornton)
  167. John Dies At The End (Director: Don Coscarelli)
  168. Just 45 Minutes From Broadway (Director: Henry Jaglom)
  169. Just Like A Woman (Director: Rachid Bouchareb)
  170. Killed Mr. Killer (Director: Ron Sauer)
  171. Killing Them Softly (Director: Andrew Dominik)
  172. Kiss Of The Damned (Director: Xan Cassavetes)
  173. Knife Fight (Director: Bill Guttentag)
  174. Knights Of Malice (Director: Mickey Reece)
  175. LUV (Director: Sheldon Candis)
  176. Lawless (Director: John Hillcoat)
  177. Lay The Favorite (Director: Stephen Frears)
  178. Least Among Saints (Director: Martin Papazian)
  179. Life’s A Beach (Director: Tony Vitale)
  180. Lola Versus (Director: Daryl Wein)
  181. Looper (Director: Rian Johnson)
  182. Lord Of Darkness (Director: Ricky Wood)
  183. Love Is All You Need (Director: Susanne Bier)
  184. Love Sick Love (Director: Christian Charles)
  185. Love Written In Blood (Director: undisclosed)
  186. Mac & Devin Go To High School (Director: Dylan C. Brown)
  187. Mafia (Director: Ryan Combs)
  188. Magic Mike (Director: Steven Soderbergh)
  189. Man From Shaolin (Directors: Peng Zhang Li + R.T. Wong)
  190. Mancation (Director: Frank Vain)
  191. Maximum Conviction (Director: Keoni Waxman)
  192. Meeting Evil (Director: Chris Fisher)
  193. Memorial Day (Director: Samuel Fischer)
  194. Men In Black III (Director: Barry Sonnenfeld)
  195. Middle Of Nowhere (Director: Ava Duvernay)
  196. Mighty Fine (Director: Debbie Goodstein)
  197. Money Fight (Directors: Adam Boster + Kenneth Chamitoff)
  198. Money Shot (Director: Bill McAdams, Jr.)
  199. Motorway (Director: Pou-Soi Cheang)
  200. Nature Calls (Director: Todd Rohal)
  201. Night Of The Living Dead 3D: Re-Animation (Director: Jeff Broadstreet)
  202. Night Of The Living Dead: Resurrection (Director: James Plumb)
  203. Nightmare Fuel (Director: Russel Parks)
  204. No (Director: Pablo Larraín)
  205. No One Lives (Director: Ryûhei Kitamura)
  206. No Vacancy (Director: Chris Stokes)
  207. Nobody Walks (Director: Ry Russo-Young)
  208. Noobz (Director: Blake Freeman)
  209. Not Fade Away (Director: David Chase)
  210. Not Suitable For Children (Director: Peter Templeman)
  211. On The Other Side Of The Tracks (Director: David Charhon)
  212. On The Road (Director: Walter Salles)
  213. One In The Chamber (Director: William Kaufman)
  214. Overnight (Director: Valerie Breiman)
  215. Paranormal Activity IV (Director: Henry Joost + Ariel Schulman)
  216. Parasitic (Director: Tim Martin)
  217. Passion (Director: Brian De Palma)
  218. Paulette (Director: Jérôme Enrico)
  219. Picture Day (Director: Kate Melville)
  220. Piranha 3DD (Director: John Gulager)
  221. Playback (Director: Michael A. Nickles)
  222. Populaire (Director: Régis Roinsard)
  223. Project X (Director: Nima Nourizadeh)
  224. Prometheus (Director: Ridley Scott)
  225. Promised Land (Director: Gus Van Sant)
  226. Pusher (Director: Luis Prieto)
  227. Raaz III: The Third Dimension (Director: Vikram Bhatt)
  228. Reality (Director: Matteo Garrone)
  229. [rec.] III: Genesis (Director: Paco Plaza)
  230. Red Hook Summer (Director: Spike Lee)
  231. Red Lights (Director: Rodrigo Cortés)
  232. Renoir (Director: Gilles Bourdos)
  233. Resident Evil: Damnation (Directors: Makoto Kamiya + Toyoshi Minamino)
  234. Resident Evil: Retribution (Director: Paul W.S. Anderson)
  235. Revenge For Jolly! (Director: Chadd Harbold)
  236. Rites Of Passage (Director: W. Peter Iliff)
  237. Ritual (Director: Joko Anwar)
  238. Robin Hood: Ghosts Of Sherwood (Director: Oliver Krekel)
  239. Rogue River (Director: Jourdan McClure)
  240. Room 13 (Pt. II) (Director: Hunter Goligoski)
  241. Ruby Sparks (Directors: Jonathan Dayton & Valerie Faris)
  242. Rust And Bone (Director: Jacques Audiard)
  243. Safe (Director: Boaz Yakin)
  244. Safe House (Director: Daniel Espinosa)
  245. Safety Not Guaranteed (Director: Colin Trevorrow)
  246. Sassy Pants (Director: Coley Sohn)
  247. Saturday Morning Mystery (Director: Spencer Parsons)
  248. Savages (Director: Oliver Stone)
  249. Save The Date (Director: Michael Mohan)
  250. Scary Or Die (Directors: Bob Badway, Michael Emanuel + Igor Meglic)
  251. Seeking A Friend For The End Of The World (Director: Lorene Scafaria)
  252. Seven Psychopaths (Director: Martin McDonagh)
  253. Shadow Dancer (Director: James Marsh)
  254. Silver Linings Playbook (Director: David O. Russell)
  255. Sin Reaper 3D (Director: Sebastian Bartolitius)
  256. Sinister (Director: Scott Derrickson)
  257. Slumber Party Slaughter (Director: Rebekah Chaney)
  258. Small Apartments (Director: Jonas Åkerlund)
  259. Smashed (Director: James Ponsoldt)
  260. Smiley (Director: Michael J. Gallagher)
  261. Soldiers Of Fortune (Director: Maxim Korostyshevsky)
  262. Sorority Party Massacre (Directors: Chris W. Freeman + Justin Jones)
  263. South Of Sanity (Directors: Mathew Edwards + Kirk Watson)
  264. Spring Breakers (Director: Harmony Korine)
  265. Stand Up Guys (Director: Fisher Stevens)
  266. Starship Troopers: Invasion (Director: Shinji Aramaki)
  267. Stash House (Director: Eduardo Rodriguez)
  268. Stitches (Director: Conor McMahon)
  269. Stolen (Director: Simon West)
  270. Storage 24 (Director: Johannes Roberts)
  271. Stories Of The Paranormal: It Came In The Night (Director: Kelly Weaver)
  272. Strange, Stranger (Director: Daryush Shokof)
  273. Stuck In Love (Director: Josh Boone)
  274. Sushi Girl (Director: Kern Saxton)
  275. Ted (Director: Seth MacFarlane)
  276. Thanks For Sharing (Director: Stuart Blumberg)
  277. That’s My Boy (Director: Sean Anders)
  278. That’s What She Said (Director: Carrie Preston)
  279. The 49th Line (Director: Drew O’Kane)
  280. The Aggression Scale (Director: Steven C. Miller)
  281. The Amazing Adventures Of The Living Corpse (Director: Justin Paul Ritter)
  282. The Artist And The Model (Director: Fernando Trueba)
  283. The Attack (Director: Ziad Doueiri)
  284. The Babymakers (Director: Jay Chandrasekhar)
  285. The Barrens (Director: Darren Lynn Bousman)
  286. The Bay (Director: Barry Levinson)
  287. The Baytown Outlaws (Director: Barry Battles)
  288. The Brass Teapot (Director: Ramaa Mosley)
  289. The Cabin In The Woods (Director: Drew Goddard)
  290. The Campaign (Director: Jay Roach)
  291. The Collection (Director: Marcus Dunstan)
  292. The Color Of Time (Directors: Edna Luise Biesold, Sarah-Violet Bliss, Gabrielle Demeestere, Alexis Gambis, Brooke Goldfinch, Shripriya Mahesh, Pamela Romanowsky, Bruce Thierry Cheung, Tine Thomasen, Virginia Urreiztieta + Omar Zúñiga Hidalgo)
  293. The Company You Keep (Director: Robert Redford)
  294. The Courier (Director: Hany Abu-Assad)
  295. The Darkening (Director: Jack L. Young)
  296. The Day of the Siege: September Eleven 1683 (Director: Renzo Martinelli)
  297. The Devil Inside (Director: William Brent Bell)
  298. The Dictator (Director: Larry Charles)
  299. The Do-Deca-Pentathlon (Directors: Jay Duplass + Mark Duplass)
  300. The Doorway (Director: Chase Smith)
  301. The Expendables (Director: Simon West)
  302. The Factory (Director: Morgan O’Neill)
  303. The Five-Year Engagement (Director: Nicholas Stoller)
  304. The Gangster (Director: Kongkiat Khomsiri)
  305. The Ghostmaker (Director: Mauro Borrelli)
  306. The Girl From The Naked Eye (Director: David Ren)
  307. The Guillotines (Director: Wai-Keung Lau)
  308. The Hunger Games (Director: Gary Ross)
  309. The Hunt (Director: Thomas Vinterberg)
  310. The Iceman (Director: Ariel Vromen)
  311. The King Of Najayo (Director: Fernando Baez Mella)
  312. The Kitchen (Director: Ishai Setton)
  313. The Legend Of Black Annie (Directors: Terrence Flack + Shane Woodson)
  314. The Lesser Blessed (Director: Anita Doron)
  315. The Letter (Director: Jay Anania)
  316. The Liability (Director: Craig Viveiros)
  317. The Lords Of Salem (Director: Rob Zombie)
  318. The Man With The Iron Fists (Director: RZA)
  319. The Master (Director: Paul Thomas Anderson)
  320. The Mooring (Director: Glenn Withrow)
  321. The Motel Life (Directors: Alan Polsky + Gabe Polsky)
  322. The Newest Pledge (Director: Jason Michael Brescia)
  323. The Pact (Director: Nicholas McCarthy)
  324. The Paperboy (Director: Lee Daniels)
  325. The Patience Stone (Director: Atiq Rahimi)
  326. The Philly Kid (Director: Jason Connery)
  327. The Place Beyond The Pines (Director: Derek Cianfrance)
  328. The Players (Directors: Emmanuelle Bercot, Fred Cavayé, Alexandre Courtès, Jean Dujardin, Michel Hazanavicius, Jan Kounen, Eric Lartigau, Gilles Lellouche
  329. The Raven (Director: James McTeigue)
  330. The Reluctant Fundamentalist (Director: Mira Nair)
  331. The Rise & Fall Of A White Collar Hooligan (Director: Paul Tanter)
  332. The Samaritan (Director: David Weaver)
  333. The Sessions (Director: Ben Lewin)
  334. The Sweeney (Director: Nick Love)
  335. The Tall Man (Director: Pascal Laugier)
  336. The Thompsons (Directors: Mitchell Altieri + Phil Flores)
  337. The Watch (Director: Akiva Schaffer)
  338. The Watermen (Director: Matt L. Lockhart)
  339. This Is 40 (Director: Judd Apatow)
  340. This Means War (Director: McG)
  341. Tim and Eric's Billion Dollar Movie (Directors: Tim Heidecker + Eric Wareheim)
  342. To Rome With Love (Director: Woody Allen)
  343. To The Wonder (Director: Terrence Malick)
  344. Twice Born (Director: Sergio Castellitto)
  345. Ultrasonic (Director: Rohit Colin Rao)
  346. Under The Bed (Director: Steven C. Miller)
  347. Underworld: Awakening (Directors: Måns Mårlind + Björn Stein )
  348. Universal Soldier: Day Of Reckoning (Director: John Hyams)
  349. V/H/S (Directors: Matt Bettinelli-Olpin, David Bruckner, Tyler Gillett, Justin Martinez, Glenn McQuaid, Radio Silence, Joe Swanberg, Chad Villella, Ti West + Adam Wingard)
  350. Wanderlust (Director: David Wain)
  351. We The Party (Director: Mario Van Peebles)
  352. What Maisie Knew (Director: Scott McGehee + David Siegel)
  353. Why Stop Now? (Director: Phil Dorling + Ron Nyswaner)
  354. Wish You Were Here (Director: Kieran Darcy-Smith)
  355. You're Nobody 'til Somebody Kills You (Director: Michael A. Pinckney)
  356. Zero Dark Thirty (Director: Kathryn Bigelow)
  357. Zombies vs. Strippers (Director: Alex Nicolaou)
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2017.03.20 22:37 myjohnhcock Left my (35M/EHL) DB three years ago - Update

I'm sorry I don't have my original account, I had actually forgotten all about my little foray into DB.
So I took the advice I was given, and I cannot find my original post since I can't even remember the name I used back then... But I was told to try counseling, get my T levels checked, and if that failed, to consider leaving.
I came to her and we spoke about counseling, boy that blew up, she agreed and we went, he specialized in relationships, and immediately started asking questions she did not like. Very quickly it turned into her sitting there, staring at the wall or the floor, refusing to say even a single word, she wouldn't answer his questions, she went full silent mode. She did a private session a week later, 5 minutes after I dropped her off she called me sobbing, I picked her up, she says "I love you and I want it to work but not like this!" So we went and got our blood work tested, my T checked, etc.
Doctors thought they saw a tumor in her brain, so we freak out, go get it checked by a specialist, who decided it was nothing... My T was fine, all her levels were fine, etc etc, all is good, no tumor, back to square one.
I asked her if we could have a face to face honest conversation about what we liked about sex and how it fits into our lives, which was recommended by someone here. She says yes. We talk. Basically she has zero sex drive, never has, never will. She had no sexual fantasies, dreams, desires, never thinks about it, is not turned on by it, dislikes porn, doesn't like her vagina, doesn't want to touch her vagina, doesn't like penis, doesn't want to touch penis, admits it feels good "Sometimes" but just overall doesn't want it.
I asked her if we could remain roommates, until she was ready to move on, that I didn't want to date anymore, but that she could live there, eat, etc that NOTHING would change except that we'd split up the main bedroom and we'd each have our own, and sleep separately, etc. She wasn't excited about it, but I just told her it wasn't a choice anymore, that I was leaving one way or another, and she could either accept the handout, or leave. For a couple weeks she was really weepy, even doing things like making dinner or surprising me with a movie and a "I know we broke up but do you want to just like, hang out?" etc... Then one day I came home and she had a guy over and they were drinking, and later she came to my room and says "are you mad?" I say "no... why?" she slurs "Would you be mad if I have sex with him?" I say "nope." and she kisses me on the cheek, says "Thanksshh!" and dashes across the living room skipping like an excited 12 year old. It kinda hurt though, I'm not going to lie, we had gone months without sex, she says it's just too "complex" that she "struggles" with sex, that its not me, but her and it's like this with everybody. Now this.... ? Fkn liar.
I saw me and her in our first few weeks together HAPPEN to another guy in the coming weeks. It was so weird, she has this set of steps she goes through, where they were having sex and getting drunk like every night for a month straight, then he came around less and less, etc, then a new guy shows up, cycle repeats, then he leaves, then the next guy she must have let him stick it in her butt or something, because suddenly she's moving out and getting engaged! Cool! I was glad for her, I saw her game for what it was finally, since I just let her be her, and let go of the whole "we are together!" thing... Found out who she really was. In two weeks she went from "I'm not like the other girls! I don't even need sex!" to "I'll sleep with any dude, anytime, anywhere, just put a drink in my hand WOOOOOOO!!!!!!" and I realized she was not who I thought she was, at all.
So she moves out shortly after and I still wasn't ready to go dating, eventually I meet a girl at work, she seems to be polar opposite of my Ex, more active, more outdoorsy, knows which way to turn a screwdriver to loosen / tighten, has the ability to read instructions without having a meltdown, etc, stuff that we share and makes me feel connected to her. We date, we go to movies, we go shooting, we go fishing, we go to bars, we go to concerts, she's got me trying out new clothing styles, she's riding me cowgirl and is GOOD at sex, like, all the stuff I would secretly wish my Ex could do, this girl just does, she tells me I'm not like the other guys, I'm so much nicer, I don't yell or get frustrated easily, and I make good money, this girl was apparently not used to that. So I'm thinking "Man, she's special!" wrong.
A year later we had the most brutal break up ever, she cheated on me around the 6 month mark, I found out a few weeks later when she confessed, decided like a moron to work through it and forgive her, sex somehow got even worse after that, I eventually meet the guy that she cheated on me with and he's like this 24 year old rodeo clown dude that has missing teeth and can't spell "texas" but is really "HAWT!" according to the girls and super "Manly!" I spoke with him for maybe 10 minutes, he didnt' even know who I was, but his sentences all started wtih "I tell ye!" and "Hot damn!" just the most redneck dumb fk of a dude, I mean, sure if you need a deer gutted, he's your guy, but literally ANTHING else there's a better person to call...
So we break up, she goes off with Mr. Tooth, and I go back to my 3 bedroom house.
Few months later I meet a girl online, through Reddit actually, this very sub, yep I bagged a DB HL female, woots right? I will not say her username, but I hope you are well. We talked, we met, we dated. It all looked awesome. She was a self proclaimed HLF that wanted a HLM and was into "The outdoors, music, family, and video games!" Now I'm not huge on video games, but I do like me some Mario on the old school NES systems. She moves in with me after 4 months, we are basically both going full Carlisle "Ooh, heaven is a place on earth!!!!" basically thinking we had finally found the one. She likes oral, dancing, being sexual, flirting, etc, she's basically into the same type of porn I am, she has nearly the same fetishes as me, it's almost creepy. My family met her, her family met me, both families basically sat us down and said "So when are you getting married?" Everyone thought we were destined to be together. This lasted for about 8 months. So at the one year mark we have had sex probably every single day since we met, was NEVER an issue, I'm talking about waking up 2 days a week to moaning in my ear saying "Eat me....tee hee" or sitting down to relax and she just whips out my penis and starts worshiping it, on a saturday morning, at 11 AM, for no reason, just to make you cum in her mouth and to ask "Was that good?" with a devilish smile. HEAVEN!!!! I was in HEAVEN!!!
And then we went like 2 weeks with only having sex once, and I immediately was like "Uh oh..." I mean it went from perfect to SOS in less than 2 weeks, and NOTHING happened that I was aware of. I just came home one day and she didn't jump my bones, and I thought "Oh shit, maybe she's ill...." etc, I wanted to help.
But it never came back, and last month she finally fessed up that I'm "Too Nice" to her and she cheated on me with a guy looked like he had played drums for the band ICP, dude looked like a juggalo... Then later I found out he was a cop. Then later I found out he WAS a cop until he was kicked off the force for beating a disabled man nearly to death because he thought the guy was drunk, but turned out it was he had take the wrong meds, ya, real solid good dude she chose...
So my update is that I'm done. I've officially downloaded a gay dating app and I've got 3 potential men I'm gonna go out with tonight, I've never been gay, I've never done anything with a man, but I'm done with women, I'm going to just see what happens, it might be a train wreck, I might be sucking a dick tonight... I've been pushed so far that I can say with 100% certainty that I will never waste time with a woman again, before my INITIAL DB that I came here for years ago, I had already been cheated on by women before that even, it's always the same thing.
Wish me luck!
(As a side note, if there are any gay men here, I am not trying to exploit your sexuality, I'm 100% serious, if I find a man that has the sex drive I do, the monogamy I do, and the ability to not cheat on me and get bored by my "niceness" I'm going for it if there's even a slight bit of attraction (I'm no nicer than anyone else I know it's a BS excuse pardon me but we all know it is, nobody is too nice, even the nicest people will fk you up if cornered.) but if you have any tips let me have it!) I might also be really dumb and I won't feel even an ounce of attraction to a man, I don't know, I've never actively tried to find a man attractive for dating before.)
(I already tried dating older and younger women, they did the same thing, I've probably had 6 long term girlfriends in the last decade, each of them cheated on me multiple times, lied about it, and then claimed they were LL to ultimately get with other guys, disproving their LL claim. The odds that I'd get 6 LL in a row is nil, right? I mean if I put all my ex's in a room, it'd look like some kind of freaks of nature show, like my little high school super christian girlfriend would be sitting next to my post college punk goth girlfriend who had herpes, my super athletic girlfriend would be kicking it next to the girl I dated after my goth girl she was a marine biologist that studied ocean snails, then there's my singer songwriter girlfriend who went on to be the singer for a somewhat successful band in SOCAL, and of course, let's NEVER forget Stephanie... My atheist Reddit adoring ex roommate girlfriend, the one that I met in DB... Each of these drastically different girls cheated on me, with not one, but two or more guys, guys that were losers compared to me, in looks, in smarts, in accomplishments, in every category possible, I could have literally snapped them in half and cooked them for jerky. So just in case my foray into gay dating falls flat, does anyone have any ideas of what someone should do if I am starting to think maybe it's ME, not them... I realize on paper my life looks great, and don't say "Meet a therapist!" because I already do, and she says I'm doing well and have a pretty solid grasp on relationships... I've asked her "Can I talk to you the way I talk to my SO?" and she said "Go ahead." and I talked JUST LIKE I do to my SO, with all my annoyances, voice upticks, silly topics, questions, ideas, comments, etc. We have had dozens of mock conversations and situations to the point that she doesn't think it's a worthwhile exercise, my responses are always what she considers "proper" replies... I don't get it, am I "Too good" and they don't like that? I don't want to find out that my quest for excellence has made me into an impossible being, because I won't lie, I hear that a lot, about a lot of things in my life, I have a bigger dick than any guy she's ever met, I work out more than any guy she's ever met, I make more money than any guy she's ever met, I know how to fuck better than any guy she's ever met, I have a nicer shop than any guy she's met, etc (And its NOT TRUE, I don't agree with these people, I'm starting to wonder if that's just how small their worlds are....) Ideas? Suggestions? Is it me? Should I get a different therapist? Anyone else had a bad luck streak this long and broken out of it?)
At this point, like I said, the thought of dating another woman, makes me want to laugh out loud, she could be the hottest sexiest smartest nicest woman ever and my brain would immediately go "She's an asshole, avoid."
Sorry for the rant, thanks for reading, thanks for any suggestions, I honestly will be happy if I just meet a nice gay guy to have some good conversations with... I'll even talk about wieners and butts, fk it... I'm just so ready for a person that won't leave me questioning my very existence and point, even if I have to take one in the brown eye, be worth it...
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2016.08.14 21:51 Mcheetah2 Random Shit 106: All About Mediocrity

August 16th is National Average Day (according to me). It's the day where we celebrate the common, disposable, replaceable, unremarkable, widely abundant and woefully mediocre people in society (even more so than we already do with Tumblr, Facebook, and Twitter). Here are some articles that can cheer you up if you are part of the 60% least important and most abundant people in society. For all the men between 5'9" and 6'0" and for all the women between a 4 and 6 on the attractiveness scale, this one is for you! All the people so abundant and common, they do not matter! Congrats guys! You're number 50th percentile!

Good News for Basic Bitches: You get the most messages on shitty online dating sites like POF!

Good News for insecure women! Studies say that men are far less picky than you think when it comes to a woman's looks. (Women regarding a man's looks, however? Not so much.)

Unsurprisingly, Reddit embraces the shittiness of being average. (Or maybe they're just extremely optimistic?)

If you're average and/or unattractive looking...

Good News for those who like to fuck! "Average-looking" (ugly) people get laid just as much as hot people!

Good News for the 80% of men in society who aren't tall, attractive, or wealthy: You can trick women into fucking you, anyway!

If you don't consider yourself an attractive female and are having a hard time finding a relationship, avoid these places to live in! (U.S)

1) Lihu'e, Hawaii - Hawaiian beauties and swimsuit models.
2) Aspen, Colorado - Sexy snowbunnies.
3) Oxford, Mississippi - Southern college girls with Southern charm.
4) Savannah, Georgia - No girls party harder in the South.
5) Chandler, Arizona - The ultimate Spring Breakers.
6) Bloomington, Minnesota - The most attractive down-to-Earth women.
7) San Marcos, Texas - Amazonian Texas beauties.
8) Boston (Cambridge), Massachusetts - Super-hot and super-easy college girls.
9) Coral Gables, Florida - Florida beach babes.
10) Myrtle Beach, South Carolina - More liberal Southern hotties with looks and a college degree.
11) Nashville, Tennessee - Pretty little country-music cowgirls.
12) Eugene, Oregon - The hottest nature lovers and camper girls.
13) Dana Point, California - The best looking women between L.A and San Diego.
14) Cranston, Rhode Island - Sophisticated and classy upper-class ladies.
15) Miami, Florida - Crazy-hot Latina beach babes!
16) New York City (Manhattan), New York - Party central in the city that never sleeps!
17) Los Angeles, California - Where there are six-foot tall blondes everywhere.
18) Boulder, Colorado - Where the attractive hippie girls reside.
19) Las Vegas, Nevada - Sin City is a place where many women are likely to work in the entertainment business. However, they fall apart after age 30.
20) Santa Monica, California - Where down-to-Earth good girls and Anna-Kendrick-type girls next door - who happen to be insanely hot - reside.
21) Queens, New York - The have the best personality/hotness ratio for any city on this list. (They have great personalities and are at least a 6 out of 10, even if rarely an 8 or 9).
22) Tampa, Florida - Home to the stereotypical Florida Blondes (Who May or May Not Be Slutty Trailer Trash).

Finally, if you're not an attractive and/or tall male, don't live in one of these cities! (International)

10) Tel Aviv, Israel - They all look like male models.
9) Milan, Italy - They have beautiful genetics.
8) Berlin, Germany - They're all big bulky musclemen.
7) Madrid, Spain - They're all smooth like butter and as suave as James Bond.
6) Sydney, Australia - Hugh Jackman is common-looking down there.
5) Buenos Aires, Argentina - They're all Casanovas and smooth-talking ladies men.
4) Lisbon, Portugal - Like Argentina, but better.
3) Amsterdam, Netherlands - The most genetically superior country on Earth and home to many male fashion models.
2) New York City, United States - Your mixed bag of everything good for single ladies.
1) Stockholm, Sweden - The most attractive city for men in the world.
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2015.06.18 07:13 surfingatwork Table of Contents: Part 1

The Wise Sloth Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Sex and Relationships
Chapter 2: Self-help and Inspirational
Chapter 3: How-To
Chapter 4: Writing/Creativity
Chapter 5: Religion is Mythology
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2014.01.09 05:10 DemonKat33 The Pact, continuation

Due to popular demand, I am back with more fatty deliciousness to pull you out of your food comas. A fair warning, this next part may be jumbled so I'm going to put the main points down first, then edit when I have more time/remember more. (also working on a related sketch :D) And on a related note, I can't exactly hate SWF. I strongly dislike her, but there are reasons we don't hate. (we are positive she has a brain injury, it isn't an excuse, I just know I would have been the same as her if I had not gotten help. Not excusing it, but that and my religious beliefs forbid hatred.) On to the show!
So backgound, BigSis, 5'5 and about 130 pounds. Not thin, at all, but not fat. Just kinda pudgy.
Me; I was a bit heavier so 5'3, 128 pounds (again, pudgy but not fat)
Kat; 5'10 BOMBSHELL of a mom, no idea about her weight but she's leggy. Not much of a butt or bust, but she is flat out gorgeous.
NEVER BE SWF (social worker fatty); 5'4, 250 lbs, a rather unfortunate shape. (would be really fucking pretty if she lost weight)
So we ended on that post, my sis was fucking raging and I was ready to beat the fuck out of something. However, none of us really said anything over FB, my sis said something to her privately that I wasn't around for, but she COMPLETELY stopped talking about it. Kat, whom is a mental heath psychiatrist, relayed what happened.
Kat "Your sis tell you what happened?"
Me "No, what's up? That was seriously fucked."
Kat "There was a lot of yelling, I think SWF saw just how bad she messed up and has been major sucking up. She also picked back up on stalking Ex 1, while being fuck buddies with Ex 2. She knows she is having less and less of a chance of having kids."
Me; "like when she compared a 2 month 'relationship' with my sister's 4 year relation ship, then 2 year engagement with AwesomeBro?"
Kat; "Yeah. She's majorly projecting something on BigSis, she's really fucking lucky she's still talking to her."
I was pissed, I wanted them to kick her to the curb but I am constantly reminded of my behaviors (before I got help) so even though I'm a lot better, they still feel like she's too similar to me to cut ties. (it pisses me off too.)
So two months go by, sis gets the sac out, and makes another announcement.
She was pregnant again, and we were all even MORE excited than before! The comments were along the lines of "Don't give up!" and "Glad to hear you're better!" Most of us were just happy she had a new distraction, so she didn't have much time to mourn the mis-carry.
SWF; "Good for you! I look forward to my new niece/nephew!"
While we were relieved, the sudden bipolar change in "lifestyle choices" gave us all whiplash. Also, remember how sis said she didn't like claiming Aunty?
BigSis; "Shut up SWF, we talked about this. If I hear another word I will NOT let you into delivery!"
Seems like a weak statement, but happy or not about the kid, it was a major blow to SWF. A few months went by without incident, there were a few scares of SWF wanting to "work" with Kat. (not relevant enough for this but will tell in comments if anyone is curious)
It was on month 4, I was with BigSis on the track to stay fit but noticed she wasn't doing well. The next day, she got violently ill again. AwesomeBro risked suspension to drive her down to the hospital, things were not looking good. Sis was in tears, throwing up every 10 minutes and had to have food delivered so she wouldn't dry heave an empty stomach all day. She was, again, put on antibiotics and an IV since she was getting really dehydrated. Not a word came from SWF, especially after BigSis recovered. They did the tests, ran blood, ultra sound, all while BigSis was in tears and fearing the absolute worst.
I was at home when I got her call, her voice was hoarse and shaky, I could tell she was crying.
It was a girl, and she was going to be fine~
I was excited, we kept it secret until she was released and drove to mom's clinic, then to dad's work to tie balloons to their cars. Everyone was excited, even Aunty Ham, though she was "worried for the baby about being raised by her." We didn't care, nobody was ruining her moment.
The shower came, our house was PACT. We have a two level house with a basement and a huge fucking yard! I entertained the youngsters because older family gives me anxiety. I came in, saw SWF stuffing her face with fruit salad.
SWF with a face like a frozen full squirrel deer started sputtering, "Nobody was eating! Fruit salad is healthy anyway, it goes on my diet."
She talks down on me like I'm 5, all while eating a large mixing bowls' worth of marshmallow goo covered fruit.
me; "I don't care." Was my only response, it seemed to hurt her since I obviously held no caring tone, and really didn't like her. I wanted her out of the house, and was SO tired of people using my injury to justify her. (I know that sounds terribly selfish, I just don't like being reminded how bad of a person I was and fight not to be)
I grabbed a few rolls, bread and cheese as my weakness, and head back out.
SWF; "Bread makes you fat you know."
I do a once over, "You would certainly know."
I will also add, SWF thinks she knows me because she knows my sister, she also thinks by getting on my good side, I'll convince sis to forgive her completely and maybe party after she has the kid.
I come back in, fireman carrying Kat's 10 year old, despite him almost being as tall as me, and head to food while people head to the tables.
Time to eat!
I load up on jack Daniels shredded beef sandwiches, some bread rolls, and skip the desserts.
random party member; "What the hell happened to the fruit salad!?"
look over, see half the bowl is empty.
that shit was enough for 6 people, WTF.jpg
I go and sit on the couch, chugging a Pepsi and ignoring stares (I can eat a lot when I want to, especially sloppy joes) I'm about halfway through my victim meal and notice SWF staring at me.
MFW she attempts to grab half of my burger (not really, I just found it funny)
Me; "What do you want SWF?"
SWF "I heard about the break up, don't worry, I can help you get him back!"
MFW she knew about this
MFW it was an emotionally abusive relationship.
me; "I'm supposed to take relationship advice from a stalker?"
SWF; "Oh hush! The first thing you need to know is guys like make up, wear something colorful! Same with clothes, anything that hugs your body. Oh, and heels! Guys LOOOVE heels! I know Ex 1 couldn't keep his hands off me when I wore bright red ones!"
I continue to ignore her, annoyed as fuck by this point. I then look over, see her and Kat talking while she's on her Ex's gf's page. Overhear this,
SWF "She isn't even that pretty! AND she has a kid! He really lost out, I bet she's a bitch."
I stupidly butt in, "Why are you stalking your ex's gf? She didn't do anything to you, it isn't cool to make fun of someone you don't know. Weren't you over him anyway?"
SWF; "Oh Demon, when you grow up, you will learn it is completely fine to check up on ex's, especially to make fun of their Gfs! I know my ex's gf probably stalks me on FaceBook to laugh at me, so why can't I?"
Me; "To be the bigger person? You're Baptist right? A type of Christian? The Bible talks about forgiveness a lot."
Note, I did not do this to be preachy, she just spouts religious shit all the time so I tried countering her.
SWF; "Oh DemonKat, you'll know better when you're older."
Bitch I was barely 17! I was young, but I was old enough to know you probably did it reverse cowgirl style in the back of a filthy car!
MFW I was way younger and knew more about healthy relationships than her.
SWF; "Don't worry about your break up, I figured it wouldn't last long. You're too young to have good and lasting relationships."
While I kind of agree with this, the condescending way she said it just made me mad.
Sis pipes up; "they actually dated 9 months."
For once she was speechless, the break up was with my first ex and it lasted longer then the vast majority of hers by 4 months.
SWF; "sleeping with guys only gets you so far."
Me, fed up at this point. "I never did and why would I even need to justify myself to you? My life is none of your business."
After she left, I refused to ever be around sis when she brought her over. They are still friends with her, my bro and I despise her.
On a happier note, sis gave birth to a big 10 lb baby girl naturally, who is now 7 months old with no problems. SWF is still chasing black guys, as well as the guy who dropped her off. In all honesty, I feel pretty sorry for her, she is almost 30 now and has no idea what a healthy friendship/relationship is.
Tl;Dr: I nearly busted a keyboard typing this, do not make me hurt you.
edit; I should mention I'm almost 19, I completely lose track of time but yeah, two years and she still insists I know nothing.
Double edit: god this pic pissed me off so much, the only one I could copy without signing in was at a fucked angle
also, second has no point, just an adorable (and weird) doodle
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2013.03.22 19:14 kacigc24 Need help writing a well worded response to bible thumping douchebaggery.

I come from a family of very conservative Christians (which I am not). My younger cousin *Jane is 20 years old and we are very close. She has been "experimenting" with girls for about a year, and this week decided to come out and let our family know that she is dating a girl. I was very happy for her, knowing she was no longer keeping this secret. However, her family is not so happy. In fact, they are royally pissed. Her younger brother *Johnny posted the following on Facebook today: ""I wanna kiss a girl, I wanna hold her tight." It goes hand in hand with "let there be cowgirls for every cowboy and make them strong as any man, something you can't tame she's a mustang, the heart beat of the heartland." These songs remind you of the fact that God made Man and he made Women so that they could be together as the vow says "till death do you part." This is not a commitment for two of the same sex just like a hen cannot fertilize another hen, or a mare cannot give birth without help of the stud. What is it that draws the same sex together? It's beyond me. One thing i do know is a man and woman complete each other and thats the way the Almighty intended it. Who can oppose him? End of story."
Now, I would very much like to come up with a well-formulated response but every time time I try to, I start to rage, and all I want to tell him is "GO EAT A BAG OF DICKS!", which I know will not get me very far. So, fellow Redditors, I need your help.
*Names changed for anonymity.
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2012.12.13 17:23 tuff-tootin-baby I think I [21F] am going to break up with my boyfriend [33M]. How do I do this gently?

I'm not quite sure how to properly get this all out, so please bear with me.
We've been dating 3.5 months. I fell in love early on, as did he. We get along incredibly well, and when we fight we talk it out. But there are problems... I'm listing these in no particular order.
1) The sex isn't great. I'm very much a sexual person. But lately I've not wanted to have relations with him for multiple reasons.
2) I think we both are co-dependent. I spend all of my time with him when I'm not working. I see my friends perhaps once a week, but I am always with him. I'm realizing that it's co-dependency. Right now I'm on holiday in a different state with family. All he can talk about is how much he misses me and can't wait for me to get back. We don't have conversations. It's really started to irritate me.
3) He's making plans for us to move in together. He got a job on the other side of town. He wants to move nearer to there. I get that. But he's started looking at places, making appointments to view them, and included me in these plans. I've told him that I'm not ready to make that commitment- to get a place together and sign a lease. That upset him, but he understood. Yet, he still talks about us moving in when his current lease is up in February. Also, my job is on this side of town, and I don't have a car. I can walk to work from where I live now. If I were to move with him, I'd have to take the bus and commute for an hour, losing almost an hour's pay for the bus tickets.
4) He's very insecure, no matter how hard I try to tell him it's unwarranted. He always makes jokes about my "other boyfriends". I like to go to webcam chatrooms, and he has a problem with that. I have a really good friend from high school who is a guy, and in the past we've done stuff but come to realize that our relationship is more brother-sister. Boyfriend keeps making jokes that I'm not allowed to see him because he's too good looking. When I went to hang out with this friend, after not seeing him for almost a year, boyfriend got really mad. I'm tired of telling him that nothing's going to happen and he doesn't need to worry. He just won't listen or understand.
There are other things that probably aren't worth mentioning- little things that have began to get on my nerves. And I'm finding that my eyes and mind stray to other men and "imaginary relationships". I'm too young to get into a long term relationship like this. I do have commitment issues, and they're definitely rearing their ugly heads right now. Also I miss dating. I miss having freedom to do what I like without having to check in or worry that his insecurity is going to have a problem with it. I've noticed I'm gaining weight (as I do in any of my relationships) and it's upsetting me because I don't feel as good as I did when I was single.
I just want out of this relationship. I don't want to hurt him. He's been so very good to me and I feel bad for wanting to leave. Also I don't know how to approach it or what to say so that he doesn't get incredibly hurt. I should also mention that I've only been in 2 other "real" relationships and don't have much experience breaking up with someone. Any advice is GREATLY appreciated. I'm sorry if this has been really long- but it feels good to get it out. I hope you guys can help me. Thank you very much.
TL;DR: I don't want to be in this relationship anymore, too many issues (including my commitment issues). How do I end it gently?
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2012.06.28 00:19 tabledresser [Table] IAmA: I am 18 and had over 400 broken bones in my life, AmA. (First Post)

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Eesh, I cringed a bit reading the femur break. :( Sorry. :/ Sure! Thanks for reading! :D.
Obvious question. Have you found your bruce willis opponent yet? No, Google has let me down lately.....-__-
As someone who recently broke his wrist in 6 places and lost about 70% of my movement in it this made my stomach sink. Worst experience of my life was breaking my wrist and you've had hundreds of breaks I feel like a idiot feeling sorry for myself. Hey don't talk like that! It sucks cause you aren't used to it. It isn't your normal thing. We all feel sorry for ourselves every now and then. I am really sorry to hear bout your wrist. I will be praying it gets better soon. :D.
Thanks for the informative reply! It's good to hear that your breaks don't happen as often that they used to. Of course! :D Thank you for the questions! Thank you it definitely helps with everyday without a lot of pain! Haha.
Dude, you are like... wow. I am a pain wimp in many ways and I think I would have given up long ago. Haha thank you for the nice comment! :-)
That escalated quickly. Haha :)
Do they put plates or pins on bones that you've broken? I have a titanium plate in my shoulder that's going to stay in for life. No my bones are not strong enough to have something like that. :-) Good question! What did you do to your shoulder? :-(
Bros Playing life on Inferno difficulty with Hardcore mode on, Damn Haha damn right! Haha Jk XD
My only regret is that I have Boneitis! Hahah I wish it was called that, be helluva a lot easier. O_O.
On a more serious note, and if you don't mind my asking, I noticed you were in a wheelchair in one of your pictures. Is your Osteogenesis Imperfecta the cause, or is it the scoliosis/kyphosis? That is because of the OI, I could not weight-bare on my legs to walk, also I have bowing in my arms in legs from fractures before birth. So no it's not that I am fat.....that is just a coincidence. ;D.
Also, you seem like a pretty chipper dude! Glad to see you in high spirits. Haha thanks! I try but sometimes being 18 and handicapped gets hard but I have amazing family and friends that help get through some of the hard stuff. :-)
As far as sex goes, are there certain positions that are impossible for you such as say, cowgirl? Ask your mom.....O_o.
Edit: no but seriously, I wouldn't know. Most girls don't see past the wheelchair. :_(
She will come along. Don't worry, and as far as sex goes... Endless blowjobs. Hahaha alrrrriiiighhhttt! giggity giggity goo
What are your coping mechanisms? Hmm, you mean physically or mentally?
What do you do for fun? I love technology and it is my passion so I am always on my iPhone, iPad, MacBook what have you. Haha also my older brother and his wife are amazing and they let come hang out with all of them and their friends. My brother always let me be friends with his friends as I have been on their level intellectually even when I was 5 to 6 years younger. And I am not bragging bout my intellect, I swear! :-)
iPhone, iPad, MacBook. An Apple a day keeps the doctor away. Win, just fuckin win! :-D.
Windows? Are we talking glass or the Operating System, cause I could go either way with this. ;-)
Do all OI patients have brains that absorb info like sponges? Yes sir, I believe we do. :D.
Not a question about you breaking bones, but, you said your brother has always let you come and hang out with him and his friends. Has he ever had to break someone else's bones for teasing or picking on you? Haha that is a very good question! My bro has always been very protective over me. If he brought a friend or girlfriend over and they didn't pay any attention to me like even say hi, you wouldn't see them again. My bro has a huge heart and he is super caring and an awesome older brother. One time he did come close to doing so, we were in a toy store when I was like 8 or so and he saw these kids laughing, talking, and kinda looking over at me. Something came over my brother and he just said "be right back" to me and my mom. He followed them until he could hear what they were saying and thankfully they weren't talking bout me at all. But if they had, my brother would have beat the living shit out of them. haha XD.
I first read it as, little 8 year olds and was like, hardly a fair fight... Haha negative ghost rider! XD.
Did you recently meet John Cena? Haha jk John Cena, if you're reading this, don't come kill me! I AM TO PRETTY TO DIE!!! O__O.
Samuel L.Jackson, is that you? How did you know? O_O.
I was going to say did the kids call you Mr Glass No most kids just stare and annoy the hell out of me. Haha I don't mind, obviously, if you ask questions or smile when you look at me, but if you just stare at me no matter what age, I will most likely make a rude comment and be an asshole right back. I understand the little kids but I don't understand the parents. haha :)
off, congrats on graduating. Since you're in the position, have you ever had any ideas on what would help you be more mobile, like, I know it sounds stupid, but a reinforced frame or something that will help you. Damn I feel stupid cause all I keep seeing is an Iron Man suit that takes the weight off of you and puts it on the suit. I don't know. But have you came up with any ideas that will help? Haha don't feel stupid! That would be badass! I wouldn't need any help, and I could save the world! Okay maybe not the last one.... But I have been blessed with a really good power chair by Permobil and a Toyota Sienna Rampvan so I am able to go out and about. :D.
Edit: Thanks I am glad I am done with High school! Haha.
Not quite Ironman, but these are actually on the way: Link to Badass! Although I wonder how well that works for everyday life..... :)
So my question is, what's the most annoying thing people say or do because of your being in a wheelchair or having OI? What's the funniest? What do you wish more able-bods would understand? Okay sorry for the rant, now to the question, the WORST thing people say and do because I am in a wheelchair is automatically assume that I have a mental disability cause I am in a wheelchair. I just wanna be like "bitch, just cause I can't walk doesn't mean I am mentally retarded." There is nothing wrong with having a mental disability but don't assume someone has it cause they are in a wheelchair. Cause more then likely the reason they are in the said wheelchair has NOTHING to do with their brain. So that actually leads me to the able-bods question, I want people to realize just that, just cause someone is PHYSICALLY disabled doesn't mean they're MENTALLY disabled. The funniest is when they assume I 5 cause of my short stature, which one reason I went and got a big ass tattoo on my arm as soon as I turned 18. haahah XD.
Whenever you break a bone, do you have to go up to the ER every time to get it in a cast/fixed? And since it happens so much do you/your family ever take a relaxed approach whenever you break something? No because casts are heavy on them and can cause more harm then good. The one time I had a soft cast was when I fell out of a handicapped bus cause the ramp malfunctioned (lucky me) and my power chair landed right on my leg, had the bus driver not caught my chair and the nurse pulled me out then my head would have been next and I would've been a goner. That incident broke the tim-fib the bone going from your foot to your knee. Which by the way is the slowest bone in your body to heal OI or not. Haha. Pretty much, my Mom still is bothered cause it's her baby in pain but not near as bad as she used to be. Rib fractures used to be a big scare but now they are no big deal.
How long do your breaks take to heal? Do you get breaks in the same place, or does the bone "scarring" (not really a "scar") strengthen that spot? It is hard to be sure from your picture, but do you have blue irises sclerae? A friend of a friend had OI (don't remember which type) and I was told that this was a pretty strong indicator of the condition? Depends on location and severity. If its minor a few weeks, if it is major then a few months. Yes I can break in the same spot but not always. When I break a bone the bone heals back with a callus around it (think like a bubble formed around the crack before healing). I don't as much but sometimes I do. Its not real noticeable though and sometimes is used as an indicator a fracture is about to happen as the sclera will get even bluer. :)
Do you still break bones as frequently as when you were younger? how often to your break one of the more major bones, ie, not hand or foot bones. No I don't thankfully! I have actually knocks on wood have never broken my hand or foot and only once broke a finger. The bones that usually break are ribs, legs, and arms. Never had a skull, spine, or pelvic fracture. And not often. The thing that breaks the most now are ribs but those aren't really a big deal. :)
knocks on wood Whoa, careful dude. You know what might happen! Hahaha knocks on wood colored pillow Better? O_o.
I cracked a rib once and I whimpered about it for a week. That you're so courageous in the face of stuff like this makes me tear up dude. Sorry to hear that, I don't blame you man breathing sucks with a cracked rib! Thank you for that comment, very nice of you! :) There has been a few times writing responses I have teared up to but that was when I talked about my family and friends, not bout me personally. haha
Link to Haha they stole my idea.....e_e ...bastards.
I had to have 5 ribs broken for my scoliosis correction surgery, laughing crying and even breathing hurt sooo bad. I can't begin to imagine what it would be like to have that happen often. You're courage is totally inspiring! I am sorry to hear that. :-( Hope the surgery went well though. Thank you for the awesome comment! :-D.
What normal mundane activities can't you do at risk of more broken bones? Also, what was the most amount of broken bones you've had at once? Well I will never be able to walk as my bones would never hold my weight, no matter how much weighed, unless it was only like 2 pounds but that wouldn't be possible! Haha:) A few times I have broken an arm and a leg at the same time from some kind of accident or something. Not had more then 2 broken at once, at least that I can remember.
What is the weirdest thing you did that caused a broken bone? Bungee jumping! Damn cord broke! Haha no but seriously, define weird first, we may have 2 total different definitions of weird. :)
Weird as broke your elbow while petting a kitteh, or broke your jaw when eating a burger. Haha okay. Thankfully I have never really broken my jaw. I once fell forward sitting on the floor when I was little and didn't have good balance and hurt my jaw but I don't think it broke. Haha and I am still gonna have to stick with where I was spraying the Lysol can and it broke my arm all the way through as it is the main one sticking out in my head right now. XD.
When was the last time you broke a bone, and any other random stories if you don't mind. Haha well I have sinus infections and I actually think I broke a rib from coughing the other day, which is no big deal to me now. H Hmmm, one time I went to spray a can of Lysol and as soon as I tried to push the sprayer my arm broke, all the way through which is also called a transverse fracture. Thank you for the awesome Qs!! :)
Crazy stuff. I have scoliosis that I've been ignoring that I should get checked out but I think you've got me beat! I'm guessing that's your high school grad pic? Congrats. What are your plans now if you don't mind sharing? I wouldn't ignore it if I was you. It can progress and effect internal organs, that is of course worst case scenario but I would hate for it to get horribly worse for you! Yes, I sure am and thank you! :) Taking a year off then going to do online college for either Software Engineering (to build apps) or become an online journalist for a tech website like The Verge. That would be so amazing if that happened!
Yeah I went a few years ago and the wanted to do xrays and MRI 6 months later to see if it was progressing. But I never went but will soon. Sounds like an awesome plan. But have you considered becoming a pilot for the Alliance Navy? X-rays I don't mind doing but I hate MRIs. If you have to get an MRI at least take something before you do or if they will sedate you go for that, it goes by a lot faster then cause your asleep and still so it won't get messed up. Thank you, I am ready for a year break! Hahah
The link you provided on OI says that there are different types (levels of severity). Do you mind if I ask what type you're considered? Well when I was born they said I had Type 2 Group B, but that was when they only had 3 types. Now I have no clue what I am as they have changed so much and I have actually gone and read all the types and not one fits me perfectly. Yes I was supposed to die before a year old but I am not as severe in some other symptoms. And besides OI, like most diseases, is not "cookie cutter" meaning if you had it doesn't mean we would have the exact same symptoms or problems arise. OI is still a mystery in a lot of aspects and they change what they say about it every year so I don't listen to a lot of that cause it changes so much and doesn't mean I will have what problem they say OI will cause next. :)
Have you ever broken a finger while typing? No but completely unrelated to OI I think I have carpol tunnel sometimes. Haha damn technology, its my drug...O_o twitches left eye
Yeah, but have you ever had a broken....heart? Does being turned down by multiples girls growing up count? e__e.
Next time, just ask one out at a time. I find that works a little better. Aww man, thats no fun. :( haha
What was the Most painful break that you've had? Legs are the worst. So probably the recent one I had in my right leg would be in the top 10 at least. There is all the details of it in a response to another question but basically jaggedly broke all the way through the femur which is the bone going between your hip down to your knee.
Where would you rank a broken collarbone? Broke mine while playing soccer a few weeks ago, I had to eat some mind-fucking meds man. Haha hmm, collar bone does hurt but femur is the worst. I am really sorry to hear bout your injury, is it any better? :-( Thank you for reading and commenting! :-D.
Unbreakable? Haha uh I wish! :D.
When I was young I had some problem with my growth plates where I would break a lot of bones. I think it was around 7 broken bones before I was the age of 5. Medical Technology wasn't the best back then and my parents didn't have a lot of money for the best doctors so they went through hell trying to prove that I wasn't being abused by them and there was actually something medically wrong with me. Did your parents go through the same ordeal? I am really sorry to hear that. :( Hope you don't have any problems now that you are older. Yes one incident in particular was when I was baby my mom took me to the doctor and the nurse started freaking out and yelling in front of God and everyone to call CPS and then my mom had to argue with her and explain to her what I had. Haha now its kinda funny cause that nurse was a dumb bitch. XD.
Does the healing of the broken bones take the same amount of time as the average person? Yes around the same time, sometimes longer. Depends mainly on location and severity of the break. :)
Before I ask anything, let me just state that your pics are REALLY cool, and you look very badass. No I have not. I am just glad you didn't bring up Unbreakable like everyone else! Haha
I've never broken any bones in my life... how would you describe the feeling? Almost as if the bone is disconnected from you but still hanging on to ya. Haha sometimes feels heavy because the bone is separated from each other cause it is broken.
Does this apply to teeth to? ever broke one? Yes it can and it does for me. Some people with OI are not effected in their teeth however. When they are, like I am, it is called dentogenesis.
What does the 28 in the cross on your tattoo mean? I was only supposed to live 28 days after being born. :)
So, being down under I miss a lot of good stuff on reddit and this will probably be overlooked, but, what is the significance of the 28 on your tattoo? If I overlooked this question, I apologize. I went through all that my phone would show me and didn't see this question. No worries! No need to apologize! The 28 stands for the number of days I was supposed to live after being born. :)
Ever read the book Handle With Care by Jodi Picoult? Thoughts? No, but I am going to now that I have heard about it! Haha :)
It's about a family that has daughter with OI. Interesting read. It pulls at your heart stings a bit, you may feel differently considering the subject matter, but I don't want to give any of it away, it's so good! Cool! After all of this reddit stuff, I actually am thinking of writing my own book as well since I have lived it first hand! :-)
You have been alive 6,570 days (roughly). At, roughly, 6 weeks for a bone to heal, (42 days) you have been dealing with 2.13 broken bones at any given moment thus far in your life? On average and assuming even distribution of breaks. I'm amazed the healing mechanisms in your body continue to function given no resting period. Do you require special 'injections' of the supporting minerals and what not to keep this up? No I do not require any special injection. :) Besides the IV I do every 3 months but it strengthens my bones in general. And wow, that was a lot of math! O__O haha.
Do you mind if I ask the significance of the number 28 on your tattoo? Not at all! I was only supposed to live 28 days after birth. :)
Oh wow! thats pretty crazy. Yes it is! Sure thank you for the great question! :D.
Is it anything like this: I was born with glass bones and paper skin. Every morning I break my legs, and every afternoon I break my arms. Haha couldn't help myself. But seriously have you ever broken anything playing video games on a console or computer? No not really, when I broke my leg last year I was playing a game on my iPad but it wasn't the anything I was doing or the iPad's fault, it was just a spontaneous fracture. :) Good question!
How dangerous is typing for you? Not really dangerous. Doesn't require a lot of force or strength to do so, so I am good. :-) In fact I am actually a pretty fast typer, both on my MacBook Air and my iPhone.
I broke my first bone when I was 24 and I basically broke my trochlear notch clean off which is the elbow end of the ulna. The doctors were baffled as to how I was able to do this as apparently it is difficult to do. So, my question is what is the strangest bone you ever broke? Dang I am sorry to hear that. :-( Hope your better now! Strangest..... hmmm, probably my toe considering I don't walk. haha XD.
Have you ever broken your penis bone? You do realize there isn't a bone in your penis, right?Link to Haha
How is that ironic? Because you would think that would be the easiest and most common thing to break! haha
You may want to clarify that then. It didn't come across like that. Oh. Sorry.
Did anyone but yourself ever accidentally break one of your bones? if so, do you receive damages for this even though you have this kind of disease? No not really....Usually it was just something that happened. :-) good question!
Have you ever played Mass Effect? If so do you relate to the pilot Joker at all? His character (voiced by Seth Green) also has brittle bone disease. Haha I haven't but I have heard it referenced a lot today! :-D.
Have you played Mass Effect? And if you did, what was your reaction to Joker? Haha no but I think I need to now that I know he has OI! :)
What are some side effects when your bones are not broken? Like what do you mean? With things besides my bones? :)
Thanks - fly leaf is a Christian alternative band. I'm not really into the religious part but the music is really great! Haha cool! I will check it out! Thanks! :)
Ya like when your bones are not broken do you shake from so many injuries or something? No. Sometimes when the weather changes drastically I can feel it in my bones but not always. Besides that no real side effects from old breaks. :) Good question!
This is also called Toulouse Lautrec Syndrome isn't it? I have never heard of this before so I did a bit of research. There are some similarities but no I don't believe they are exactly the same disease. Awesome question! :)
"also sometimes known as Toulouse-Lautrec Syndrome),[5] or a variant disorder along the lines of osteopetrosis, achondroplasia, or osteogenesis imperfecta." Why I thought of Toulouse Lautrec. Yes there are some major similarities but some differences as well! Very good find though! Never heard of that before!:)
What's it like flying the Normandy through space for the great Commander Shepard? Like driving a Buick....O_O.
How many bones did you break during birth? I know I had some before birth but it was hard to new breaks from old ones so we really don't know. :)
Why don't they use stem cells? sorry for sounding ignorant. Because stem cells wouldn't really help my bones. Not ignorant at all, good question! :)
How often do you break your toes and other small bones in your body (like fingers and your nose)? Not often at all. Maybe only a few times in my life. :-)
Did you graduate from Issaquah High School? No I did not. :)
God bless your soul Thank you! :-) God bless you as well!
Mr. Glass. No, no please, just call me Glass! XD.
You look like a badass. I have no questions, but wanted to let you know that it's amazing to me to see people not allow such complications alter their lives for a negative. You're an inspiration. I hope you stick on the front page for a while. Why thank you!!! :) Not gonna lie sometimes it gets hard but everyone has a bad day I guess.....but thanks for the awesome comment! And I didn't know I was on the front page until I read your comment! Holy shit!!!!!!!!!! O_O I am fucking pumped right now. haha
Nice try, Patton Oswalt. Uh....alright.....O__o.
Please don't break a finger typing all of this stuff for us. Haha I won't! Don't worry! Only broken a finger once in my life....ironically. e_e.
Lunch Break. I see what you did there. Geez, I am so damn funny even when I am not trying to be!!! XD haha
I just want to say that this AMA may raise awareness of your trouble, so you are helping somebody somewhere. I hope you get better, mate. Also: Link to Thank you! And I saved that Meme! Badass meme! Thank you for sharing! :)
IMPOSSIBRU! There are only 206 bones in the human body. Haha which means I have broken the same bones many times! :-D.
Yeah, ha, I know. I was just joking, not trying to be rude or anything. Haha I know, if I thought you were being rude I wouldn't have been nice back. Sorry just how I am. haha XD.
Awesome! Haha trust me, I can be an asshole! XD.
Hey dude, just wanted to say that you kind of inspired me to stop bitching about my imaginary problems. Thank you kind sir. Haha thank you for the nice comment! :-D.
Nice try Jackie Chan. You're not 18. Uh, beg your pardon? e_e.
Wow, I broke my arm 4 times before 5th grade and I thought that was a lot. I have a lot of respect for you sir. Sorry to hear that. :-( Thank you for the nice comment though! :-)
Nothing of any import to add... just wanted to say thanks for doing this. We all bitch and complain about such trivial matters, and here you are dealing with a really tough medical condition like a champ. Hats off to you, man. Thank you for the awesome comment and feedback! :D.
I know someone who has that, she's 14. I know it can be rough, pm if you ever need anything to talk about. Thank you! PM me as well if you ever need someone to talk to! Sometimes talking to someone you don't know is better then talking to someone you know! :-) Thank you for the nice comment!
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